Self sabotage

ContWord2346 · 2022-07-30T17:09:50+00:00

What’s your relationship with your mother?

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-30T17:29:57+00:00

You sabotage yourself because you see more advantages to behaving the way you behave and are afraid you will lose those advantages of you give up your sabotaging behavior.

Let me give you an example. Let's say you tend to get needy and clingy. What are some good things about being needy?

Well, you can say you show more attention to women, you shower them with affection, you show them you care by blowing my o their phone or being too much in their face. It also helps you soothe your fears that they will leave you because you are constantly communicating with them and are close to them.

You may be afraid that if you have up your neediness and clinginess, women will lose interest in you because you are not paying g them as much attention or replying to their texts within seconds or because you don't want to hang out with them all the time.

See, there is a lot of positive things about being clingy. But now let's look at the negatives. Well, it makes you desperate and therefore unattractive. You smother women and they lose interest in you. You are easier to manipulate and take advantage of. At the end of the day it doesn't even get you the sex you wanted.

So make a cost benefit analysis and decide, is it worth keeping your self sabotaging behavior or not. are you willing to give up the supposed benefits of having that behavior so you can gain freedom?

ActionEve · 2022-07-30T20:45:05+00:00

Stop telling yourself that you are a worthless pile of shit and start crushing life day by day, interact and talk to everybody! The old, young, rich, poor, TALK TO EVERYONE, and get them to tell you about themselves

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-30T18:13:07+00:00

I think i need an example of the sabatoge that you do to yourself. Or what is a typical pattern that you see in yourself.

If you think that it's too personal, then don't.

Title	Self sabotage
Author	Appropriate_CapBro
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	July 30, 2022 5:07 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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