How to not lose frame?

hunterpua · 2022-07-21T19:19:31+00:00

Intelligence is an attractive trait.

You don't need to change the things you like in order to attract women, all you need to change are behaviors while also developing certain social skills.

So you change things like being shy, quiet, reaction seeking, desperate, insecure, a lack of empathy, while improving things like your understanding of female psychology and your ability to flirt and escalate.

If you're losing interest when you go into a topic that only really smart people can relate to and appreciate, it's not because you're into that thing, it's because you failed to empathize with her and realize that it's very difficult for her to understand it enough to be able to appreciate it.

Same goes for nerdy topics that maybe don't require that much brains like Star Wars, video games, strategy games, etc. If you behave like a cool person then those things won't take that away from you but trying to talk about those things or make references to those things with someone who is not that into them will just make it hard for them to connect to you.

You can still end up talking about these things with girls though.

First, you will just come across women who would immediately be interested or are already interested in the stuff you're into.

And second, with the girls who may not be into it or are not even that familiar with these things you can call out the fact that your convo with her just made you think of a nerdy thing but that you don't know if she'd be into it.

If she asks you what it is then give her a general idea of what it is but then reiterate that she may not be into it. If she says something like, "Nah, tell me about it." then you can either push for more confirmation from her by saying something like "Are you sure?" or you could just go into it depending on how willing you think she is to listen to you about it.

What you're doing here is not asking for permission but rather you're priming her to listen more intently to what you have to say so that when you actually explain why you like something, it doesn't fall on deaf ears.

You know how one of the pieces of dating advice we get is to actively listen instead of being in our head trying to think of what to say next? Yeah, women also have that problem.

The more conversations you have the more you'll realize that most people don't really listen to each other that well. They're just picking up clues here and there from things that are said and then make assumptions based on that.

So if you wanna get into something that could possibly make people assume negative things about you then make sure you get them to confirm that they do in fact want to hear what you have to say so they'll be prepared to actually be more nuanced in forming their perception of you.

burakbenxd · 2022-07-21T18:48:56+00:00

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Constant-Will7622 · 2022-07-21T21:35:05+00:00

A 'nerdy' frame shouldnt matter if you own who you are & are still masculine.

But it sounds like you are trying to live a persona that you made up and isnt 'you'. Thats called being fake, everyone will run from you cuz they cant trust you.

Or you just go on and on about how smarrt you are, trying to impress them with some act of intelligence. Women dont care about book smarts, they care about emitional intelligence.

If you are 'nerdy' and you LIKE the lifestyle you live, dont change it to get women, you will ultimately be unhappy.

They call it a numbers game cuz you wont be compatible with everyone you meet.

Title	How to not lose frame?
Author	burakbenxd
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	July 21, 2022 6:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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