How do you have success with mental illness? Can you? I mean real, life-altering mental illness. Not this dumb shit you hear about every day.

entericalamity · 2022-07-21T21:12:06+00:00

Invest in a good clinical psychologist. Start journalling daily. Based on your post, you have far too many peripheral issues to be focusing on game and picking up women. Deal with your mental state. 28 is still young, you have many years of good dating ahead of you but ONLY if you deal with your shit first. If you keep complaining and lamenting instead of taking action, those years will dwindle away too.

Basic therapists you pay $50 an hour for are not equipped to deal with these kinds of issues. Talk to someone more specialized and do it regularly. Like the other guy said, they won't teach you game, but they will help you get to a point where you can learn game from a healthy state of mind.

Good luck with your issues man, you sound like you're suffering. Be thankful that you're at least stable enough to be living in a house. My brother is homeless and addicted to heroin. I wish he was in your position instead.

Zalo4 · 2022-07-21T19:52:31+00:00

You don't rely on a therapist to learn game, you rely on them to work through your mental illness so that you're in a good enough place to learn game yourself.

Mental illness is shitty, I've dealt with anxiety my whole life but through therapy and self work I've learned to have a good relationship with my anxiety. At the end of the day you can choose to help yourself by taking some action (like finding a therapist) or give up and stay the way you are. I know depression makes it hard to have the energy or desire to take action, but you have to do something because no one is going to do that for you. You can try medication with therapy as well to help you get started.

I wish you the best of luck.

my-dating-throw-away · 2022-07-21T21:12:28+00:00

Went through the same thing but I called myself a cave dweller haha. I'm doing a lot better now.

You need to focus on fixing your mental health, that's top priority. Because otherwise it's tempting to want to latch onto girls for happiness. This is going to scare them away. They want a guy that knows how to keep himself happy.

It doesn't necessarily mean you can't keep your options open, but you need to actively try fixing your depression. Worst case scenario you tell her that you have some issues but you're actively working through it. Better not to say this at all if possible though.

I've been battling depression for a long time and am trying out different supplements which I've been having success with it. On top of that I read psychology and philosophy all the time and am always looking to change my thought patterns so that I have better tools to keep my up my well-being. Seeing a therapist is a great option too.

Also, you need to be social. It's universally understood that socializing is a great antidepressant, it activates your brain like a drug. Humans have evolved to be social creatures. Isolation quickly leads to depression. Develop any leads you have to talk to people (family, friends, coworkers, etc). It's okay to have basement days, but you need to regularly see people.

I know you said you can't provide for yourself, I don't know the details there but find out your natural talents and pursue those. Master a craft and try to make money from it if you can.

Sup3rHD · 2022-07-22T10:27:56+00:00

You are not the only one. The life is yours, u need to stay good and enjoy the days. There are a lot of guys in your situation.

I dont know if its the case, but stop porn and maturbating. It help a lot with self confidence and can improve your life

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