When to share authentic trauma

Kratom_Dumper · 2022-07-12T06:36:33+00:00

A good tip is if you want to share something personal and emotional, get her to share a story to you before you do. If she doesn't want to or she tells some lame story then you know she doesn't trust you and you shouldnt trust her.

rustoof · 2022-07-12T14:33:36+00:00

I've been sober 3 years. It usually comes up after I order a Shirley temple. If they ask about it I usually just say I'm not trying to make the same mistakes twice.

doijustkms · 2022-07-12T17:28:21+00:00

I wonder about the same thing man. I feel similar to you although I have not been down the road of alcoholism, thankfully.

From my point of view, your trauma is something to be proud of. That's cool as fuck that you are sober almost a decade and helping in ACA. Most people can't say that. They're still in that drunken haze.

My trauma is like negative stuff related to women. Ma calling me ugly, to kill myself, anything under the sun. This has caused me to feel ugly and low value as it happened in very crucial development times(imo.) I wouldn't give a damn if my mom called me ugly when I was more mature, shit hurt as a kid. Women have forced themselves on me through kisses and grabbing my ass. More than once on the kisses. This stuff goes both ways and it is not okay to be on the receiving end.

I'm trying to be proud of my trauma as well but it's hard. I'm proud that it hasn't fully soured my opinion of women. But I'm not sure what else there is to be proud of.

Good luck to you man, we'll figure it out.

Long-Review-1861 · 2022-07-12T20:48:09+00:00

Remember trauma dumping too soon is a tell tale sign of a cluster b/narcissist and many are aware of it so be careful.

Every single girl that I dated that turned out super toxic and abusive relayed a crazy childhood abuse story within the first couple of dates.

2022-07-12T05:49:00+00:00

When you're trying to seduce someone - discretion is the better part of valor.

You're not trying to be real with her. You're only trying to convey a sense of intrigue and fascination and sexual desire.

Why would you ever talk about something that's likely to simply to bring the mood down?

Once you've had sex with a woman, you'll find they're generally forgiving of who you are - if you've rocked their world.

Title	When to share authentic trauma
Author	volvo1
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	July 12, 2022 12:20 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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