How do you guys “Set your intentions” ?

Adbice-Advice · 2022-07-10T06:59:03+00:00

Context, context. There's not a good answer for all things at all times.

Have we just met? Why state the intentions at all? I haven't got any proof this person will stick around at all. Are they even into me? If I'm getting a good signal, I'll flirt, act coy, and be playful. Be slightly overt, just to not get them confused, but don't give away the game fully. "Hi my name is Adbice Advice, and I'm here at Big Marty's Crust Punk Club to meet my next wife. I enjoy wine, sushi, and high impact bondage," doesn't really sound too endearing.

Now, on the other hand, once you get to know each other, there's absolutely no reason you shouldn't set clear boundaries, and expect your partner to keep them. Set expectations, and decide for yourself if you really expect your partner to meet them, or if they're flexible. One for me would be, "Look, I don't plan to be bothering you all day, but I'll text you all day, every day if you let me. Don't be afraid to tell me if I'm being clingy."

Another for me would be, "Hey, if you really want to leave, I won't chase you, but I'd appreciate you at least talking to me first," or "I can't stand having screaming matches. If we disagree, lets try to settle it like adults."

And there's nothing stopping you from being real.

"Look, monogamy just isn't for me."

"Hey, I understand you're wanting something more serious, but I'm looking to stay casual. I'm sorry if that'd be a dealbreaker for you."

And for the love of god, tell them if its a rock solid truth, or if you're willing to fluctuate on your boundaries. I don't want kids. That, I've decided is an unchanging thing about me. I just don't, and very likely never will. I've recently changed my mind on the institution of marriage, but am still very apprehensive at the thought. It'd be in my best interest to communicate that.

Believe me, the earlier in a relationship you say these things, the better. But if you've just met, there's no reason to be so... evolved.

Also, don't do coke.

neverbeenbetter4me · 2022-07-10T08:55:55+00:00

This is a weird question because why would you set your intentions with her? Wondering who is control and who isn't. When you first meet a girl either just meeting her out straight up or your meeting for OLD meetup, your approach should be the same. You decide pretty quick which category she fall into for you

She is girl that you want to have sex with because she's very attractive
She's girlfriend material and your going to make your play for the next or second date

I've never tried to lay out my intentions with a girl. If I want to have sex with her then I am putting on the seduction where I am tapping in and trying to connect with her emotions. I stay out of logic. You create a "what's next" situation, set anticipation. Yor compliments are few and a focus on her emotional attributes, not her body parts. Sexual innuendo is only indirect but leading. Know how to keep a conversation going. Repeat the last thing she said when she finished her thought or statement

The killer close is always set your date where they're is a park, walking path, trail, window shopping was. When she is all in her emotions you kiss her and don't hesitate if you have to go in mid sentence

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-10T13:46:10+00:00

You set your intentions before you get out of the house. This means deciding what you want. When you are with a woman you must let her know exactly who you are and hat you are about so she can make her own choice (take it or leave it). Do not make choices for them.

FractalGuise · 2022-07-10T05:27:16+00:00

“Are you tryna fuck or nah?”

TheTruth221 · 2022-07-10T06:28:14+00:00

tell her straight up i need my ass licked

Fapandwarmshowers · 2022-07-10T15:50:58+00:00

You are dating and exploring your options

Title	How do you guys “Set your intentions” ?
Author	daring_innovator
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	July 10, 2022 4:57 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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