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2022-07-05T23:09:57+00:00

Be direct about attraction, do establish some sort of rapport, but be careful in your language and behaviour to not imply that you're looking for more than just casual sex.

Have the mindset of not expecting any loyalty from her either.

labyrinthlilith · 2022-07-05T22:49:04+00:00

Disclaimer- I’m a woman.. the only guys I ever considered for a fwb situation were guys that were already my really good friends. Someone I was comfortable around, could vibe with and shoot the shit with. I never went looking for a fwb but the situation transpired sort of organically a few times and the sex was always hot bc it was with someone I already had a good amount of trust and respect for and visa versa. Now looking back, I dk how much work was put in on their end to make that happen lol.. but for me it always seemed to just kind of evolve into fwb instead of seeking it out specifically.

LeaderOfWolves · 2022-07-05T15:52:00+00:00

Maybe just date like normal but stay busy anyways..

Nullroute127 · 2022-07-06T06:16:27+00:00

When trying to keep things casual you need to be mindful of a few things. She needs to not feel slutty, and having sex with you needs to be a positive experience that 'just happens.'

When you're too blunt up front that you're looking for casual sex, the optics on it is that she's loose. She fears damage to her reputation. It's ingrained in female psychology that reputation is important, even though we live in huge cities now and not tribes.

So, you need to give her the experience of, "I met this guy we had a great connection" that leads to a hookup. There needs to be a narrative preceding the sex. It mitigates the slut factor. You're also the one that needs to escalate to this so she can disclaim any culpability for sex.

Unterseeboot_480 · 2022-07-05T16:08:58+00:00

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2022-07-05T23:29:12+00:00

What do you mean by "never leads to anything"?
Where are the brakes being put on and how are you handling that?

btrpb · 2022-07-05T16:45:56+00:00

You don't spell out your intentions. Date them, but keep it on the downlow, don't contact them too often. Then it's a question of how long you can spin that plate. It will suit some women...but make no mistake they will be sleeping with others too. Some women will keep pushing you for commitment, and then you have to stand your ground. They may put up with it, they may not.

notrufus · 2022-07-06T18:22:15+00:00

I mainly pick up chicks at bars and have a few chicks I can hit up. Not really fwb, more of a booty call/night out sort of thing. Just take them out, make sure they have a good night, and close. Never mentioned anything about a relationship and they don’t have any intention of one and so we just hook up occasionally.

jojoblogs · 2022-07-11T05:32:25+00:00

Bit late but my two cents:

Don’t be needy, but don’t be cold. Be friendly more than anything.

Be very chill

Most importantly, be good at fucking. If you want a girl to be in it for the sex, the sex has to be good. I’ve blown a couple of fwb relationships by not being on my A-game (hungover, tired, ect) one too many times and as a result found it very hard to get her to come back.

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