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After talking to this guy on chat on one of his alts (he's messaged me repeatedly), this is either a very ethically dubious study (he's using places like incelexit to make a list of people to message, and he could not answer any questions about ethical concerns for soliciting cash-for-interviews in what is in many ways a mental health support group), or just a scam. If you engage with him, be sure to do so with the utmost care. At best he wants to you to write his term paper for him, but there a…
/r/ExRedPill29/02/24 09:39 PM
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ohhhhhhh gotchya. Yeah looking the archive there's been dozens of posts auto-removed, so they are still posted but aren't visible to mods, which is unusual to say the least. https://camas.unddit.com/#{%22subreddit%22:%22seduction%22,%22searchFor%22:1,%22resultSize%22:100} Irony is, this is just driving people to other, much worse subs, especially the scam subs the ebook spammer has been promoting lately.
/r/seduction04/11/22 11:26 PM
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So to clarify, the low volume of posts being let through is intentional because most/all of the rest are rule breaking and/or put the sub at risk of a bored admin?
/r/seduction04/11/22 11:09 PM
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If I was upset by the truth, you'd be unable to bother me.
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:47 PM
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That's nonsense. OP asked "what I can to raise my self confidence", and your response is to go on this nonsense tangent about height, which has nothing to do with OP's question. Your use of "men" to refer to men, but "females" to refer to women is telling of your lack of experience and actual ability to interact with people.
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:42 PM
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Except that's lies, not truth. There are plenty of things that you can do improve that aren't changing height or race, you only picked those things that aren't changeable to discourage OP from improving what he can change. I ask again, now that we've established that do you think this is helpful to OP, you, or anyone else?
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:39 PM
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Do you think this is helpful to OP, you, or anyone else?
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:28 PM
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People without much time, like idk, travelers staying in some kind of hotel. 8 minutes is better than 0 minutes (and that's assuming OP isn't exaggerating)
/r/seduction25/10/22 04:44 AM
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(yeah that's probably the most likely explanation tbh)
/r/seduction25/10/22 01:57 AM
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I would bet any amount of money he's wrong. It's a very "I am the main character of life" takeaway from a women simply exercising-but-not-that-long.
/r/seduction25/10/22 12:13 AM
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It’s like I’m getting mixed signals here or something The signals you're getting is "friendly but not romantically interested". Nothing mixed about it.
/r/seduction24/10/22 07:28 PM
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Uhhh go to those places? Like, if you have friends who go to things like this, ask for invite. Be social and meet new people and see what they're up to. Do things you're interesting in to meet likeminded people. Network.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:53 PM
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Meeting people in places where you interact for more than a few minutes at a time to build up attraction, ideally through social circles. House parties, private events, bars and clubs, group activities. Basically you need to balance meeting new people at a high rate with being able to build attraction and screen mutual compatibility with each person. There are guys that make cold approach work but it's a high ratio of interactions to dates even for the best.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:45 PM
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Yeah. People you cold approach have very little investment in you and thus have no real incentive not to flake if for whatever reason they become less enthusiastic about meeting you. OR they gave their number to get you to go away because they were uncomfortable.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:42 PM
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So your theory is that she got changed, went down to the gym on the off-chance there were single men there, hoped to get hit on, then left quickly when you didn't interrupt your workout to hit on her. What is more likely, that theory, or a woman traveling had only a few minutes to sneak a workout in before heading out?
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:39 PM
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Again, it's not a play. It's not some delicate bomb disposal or something. It's a date, being uptight and spitting out stuff you've pre-planned is not the way. Be relaxed, confident and in the moment.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:25 PM
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Stuff that i should start thinking now? No. It's not a play you need to memorize your lines for. Be relaxed and confident. Let the conversation flow naturally by listening and responding. Why are you bringing Monster energy on a picnic date?
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:22 PM
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Keep in mind you have other areas of your life besides pickup, and unless you're big into winter sports, I think Boise would have much more to offer. Boise metro area is ~100x the size of Aspen. So yeah you don't have the constant influx and outflux of tourists, but Boise is hardly the sticks, and scores high on livability indexes. There would be much more nightlife and concerts, especially during the spring and summer because: Aspen may be great in the winter months, but it's a tourist town, an…
/r/seduction24/10/22 05:59 PM
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No way to know for sure, especially since you clearly want this to be the case so you could be unknowingly skewing the situation. That being said, it looks very promising to me. Pick a day that you think her daughter will be out and ask if that's a good time to come over. Dress smart and reciprocate her energy. Once you're alone in her house she'll make her intentions more clear.
/r/seduction21/10/22 10:14 PM
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Part of it is fear, part is just having no idea what to say initially, Does anyone have any advice? Start initiating. Not always easy, but it is that simple. You'll be less nervous after 10 approaches and not very nervous at all after 100. You'll know more what to say and be less in your head with practice. It'll be hard at first, but like any skill it takes time to improve.
/r/seduction21/10/22 07:00 PM
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Nope I said Ive gone to therapy and it did not help at all so Im not wasting more money on it. With the attitude in this thread of refusing to admit any responsibility or do any introspection, I wonder why?
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:57 PM
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Incorrect. Your reaction is exactly what you can control, yet you are unwilling to try. Seems to be a pattern huh? In your other threads you flat refused to go to therapy, and you're flat refusing to do any introspection whatsoever. You say you've tried "everything"? That's a lie. You have engineered this situation for yourself with your toxic responsibility-free attitude and refusal to do anything to help yourself. You want an uncomfortable truth? You could have had a dating life, but you chose…
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:53 PM
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rejection isn't what is demoralizing to you, it's your reaction to rejection that is demoralizing. What can you change about your reaction?
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:43 PM
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Ask her out. Simple as that.
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:30 PM
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From the pinned post on this sub: When evaluating if a post is appropriate, the golden rule is to ask yourself: "Does this post help someone get laid or land a relationship?" So are you doing that, or are you looking to whine and complain about everything is someone else's fault?
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:21 PM
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I have yet to see someone put in "all the effort in the world and still get nothing". I've seen people say they've tried "everything" but when you drill down on it they've tried very little. Or say they've put in all this effort, only to realize they've put none of that effort into examining their own behavior, worldview and thought patterns. So yeah it's your choice. You can avoid rejection, and therefore basically any chance at dating, or you can embrace rejection and see whats out there. You …
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:14 PM
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Yeah you're right. Getting polite "no"s is about the worst experience you can have. It's better to stay home: never have to leave your comfort zone, never have to take risks, and all the cheetos you can eat! And finally, after you do that, you can complain about women not dating you on the internet as if it's their fault you don't make an effort.
/r/seduction21/10/22 06:07 PM
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For the novelist and filmaker part, just start. Now. Start writing, film a sketch by yourself on your phone. You need no one's permission to do so, but if you plan to do it tomorrow it'll never happen. Just start.
/r/seduction18/10/22 06:29 PM
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You're not "getting played" it just sounds like she's not interested. Part of confidence is not taking that as some deep statement about your worth as an individual or her being mean for no reason, but simply moving on and not getting hung up about it.
/r/seduction18/10/22 06:28 PM
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Not the person you asked, but I think you'd have to have a very strong connection to give something at work a shot. The type of thing worth risking that job over. Shitty summer job in college? Who cares. Big career opportunity? Better be a pretty damn good LTR on the table to risk that. The office is the second worst place to look for a ONS, right after a family reunion and even worse than a funeral IMO.
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:18 AM
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If you want to be flirty but not inappropriate, something like "that sucks, you deserve better". Otherwise, just talk with her like a person, like a friend talking about their problems.
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:15 AM
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In addition to the other guy saying to avoid work, that particular moment is not a great time to ask someone out. She's trying to get across she's had a bad time breaking up with a boyfriend that wasn't nice to her and all she gets back is "so you're single?". Not trying to discourage you here, but maybe try read the room a bit in situations like with a coworker or other higher risk situations. Use that more impulsive energy for strangers at a bar or other times where you can just shoot your sho…
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:10 AM
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The following pattern is not going to help you going forward: Have an interaction you don't like Abdicate responsibility and blame the other people Extrapolate this from a 1 or 2 people to all women in the world In this case, those two people didn't want to talk to you. It happens. All the time. Refine your approach and/or pay attention to social cues more and/or take it less personally. This blame game stuff is only getting in your way.
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:04 AM
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Yeah honestly a 405 dl on 165 be at that height must mean he's pretty jacked yeah?
/r/seduction25/09/22 05:16 PM
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Ironically enough that's actually stressed in the book. There's a part where he says something along the lines of "if this is the third dating book you've read and still haven't asked anyone out, put this down and do so ASAP".
/r/seduction25/09/22 06:47 AM
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no problem. DM if you want a way to keep him out permanently
/r/seduction21/08/22 08:28 PM
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Ebook spammer putting in the hard yards today lol. No need to sign up for his shitty advertisement to give him cash he calls a "helpful guide".
/r/seduction21/08/22 07:32 PM
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just the ebook spammer. Nothing to see here
/r/seduction12/08/22 06:01 PM
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Your post history is exclusively all three of the subs the spammer runs, which post that same ebook in literally every thread. It's almost like the guy who uses his alt accounts to defend himself is using alt accounts to defend himself. Oh my stars.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:36 PM
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Yeah why night bike? It would take precious time away from making new accounts to spam your garbage "ebook".
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:33 PM
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No point in meaningfully replying to him. It's just a spam account for his shitty "ebook"
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:32 PM
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Just the ebook spammer, nothing to see here.
/r/seduction06/08/22 07:53 PM
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Or just go to a bar and approach women instead of thinking of some convoluted way to trick them?
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:21 PM
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On top of that he has his own sub (under a different alt) that pretends to help men struggling with dating, but in reality is just a promotional tool for this "ebook" (shit pdf) and coaching services ("how to eat tendies in your mom's basement" is probably the only thing he's qualified to teach). It's a bait and switch to milk cash from depressed and lonely men. Truly a scumbag human.
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:52 PM
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Women as a category do not view all nervous guys as creepy. Just because the women you interact with find you creepy doesn't mean it's because you're nervous in and of itself, it's because you make them uncomfortable. So no, you didn't "get your answer" because the question is unfounded. It's depressing that that's the takeaway you have after ~250 comments. The lack of true self reflection and ability to listen will prevent you from making progress until those are addressed.
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:39 PM
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well you have a busy day spamming that junk don't you? If at first your dozens of spam comments get removed, try try again. . .
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:12 PM
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u/Ploikblah this is the comment to listen to. Until you change your mindset of arguing until you prove it's hopeless or all women's fault or whatever your end goal is, you'll never actually improve your life. Would you rather be "right" (or rather, have everyone else give up arguing with you) and unhappy, or be humble, realize where you're wrong and actually change your mind and be happier and more fulfilled?
/r/seduction04/08/22 07:10 PM
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To shame and denigrate people who do the exact same thing you do is nothing like "wanting a girl who likes classic music even though I dont like classic music" (which even, why would you care if you don't like it anyway? but beside the point) You need to get past this fundamental hypocrisy. You make yourself available and build a persona exclusive to hooking up with girls who like casual sex then slut-shame for sleeping with you. As long as you don't see the problems with this, the reason you fe…
/r/seduction29/07/22 08:09 PM
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I left him a long response trying to dive into the underlying causes of his distress here, and he's like "nope, it's women's fault for being slutty that I have all this self hatred!". It's a textbook madonna-whore complex. Would be a good psych 101 demonstration but I don't think this thread is going to help him at this point.
/r/seduction29/07/22 07:28 PM
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Have you talked to about it? We don't know her, so we have no idea what would trigger her -- if anything. I was with an assault victim once who loved rough sex. Sex on the floor? Yes. Choking? Yes please. Chocking on the floor? Triggered a panic attack. It's not a rational or even controlable response by like, definition. It's possible she wants to go very slow, it's possible she want's her sex life to be defined by positive experiences instead of assault. If anyone knows, it's her, so you shoul…
/r/seduction29/07/22 07:22 PM
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Im not bitching about anything ...... she would swallow any guy that played the game right It's like a very unfullfilling game of slots that makes you unhappier Do you also have immense disappointment? They'll sleep with anybody that plays the game like I do. And if theyre willing to fuck a random dude that they've just met [like me] then they're not the type of person that I wanna invest my life in I dont wanna click with a girl who's hooking up [with me]
/r/seduction29/07/22 07:16 PM
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I gather that to be your best looking physically, men wanna shoot for around 12% bf with a v-taper Kinda? It's not really a bodybuilding competition, the goal body should be one that shows you're athletic, passionate, and take care of yourself. If you're a powerlifter or a trail runner or do a contact team sport those will all mean different things in terms of what your goals are. Remember, women do not judge men physically in the way men judge each other. Girls don't care about your bench press…
/r/seduction29/07/22 07:05 PM
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I'm sorry I can't really make sense of what you're saying. It seems like OP is engaging in ONS so he can say he's not a virgin and/or get some sort of validation. Is that what you're saying as well?
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:42 PM
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He is not. There is a kernal of truth there, but it's blanketed in a heavy coating of self-loathing that should not be emulated.
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:40 PM
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"Just be yourself" is the worst advice possible for people struggling to get girls A) that's not what he said. At all. If you interpret the advice people give you in the most reductive and unhelpful way, then yeah, it's all reductive and unhelpful. Funny that. B) You, by your own admission, are not struggling to "get" girls. You are struggling with judging the girls you do "get" by the fact of them sleeping with you, and sustaining relationships past a ONS. So yeah, being more authentic and less…
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:30 PM
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Are you only sleeping with these girls so people don't call you a virgin?
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:24 PM
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I think at least in part, you're seeking validation from ONS. You had an unstated assumption that sex was some sort of referendum on you as a person. If you're a shitty person, you won't get laid, if you're an ok person you will get laid occasionally, and if you're awesome you get granted to keys to the hottest of women. The more frequent and hotter the women you sleep with, the more value you have. You then found the reality: it's not that hard to get laid, and while being an absolute garbage p…
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:08 PM
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I mean you'd pay more in a hotel if you actually were on vacation. Looks like it's splitting the cost of the weekend in a way. Don't worry about "simping"; if that's how you want to spend your money and time, go for it. No one is keeping score of simp points or anything, you have nothing to lose with this girl if you decide to go or not, and she's not getting a dime of your airfare. It's your life, don't let fear of judgment from internet weirdos who use the term "simp" unironically get in the w…
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:16 PM
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It's the same spammer every time. He has a bunch of alt accounts.
/r/seduction19/07/22 05:58 PM
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God more of this spam ebook. Are people still fooled by your bait and switch?
/r/seduction19/07/22 05:57 PM
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Flirting is not some dark art that has to be learned at a monastery or something, it is exactly the "joking, teasing, having fun with girls" you describe while not being shy about your interest in them. That's it. But frankly I don't know which story to believe, and I'm not interested in arguing semantics that don't matter. My original comment stands: you're worried you might be over-thinking it, and yes you very much are correct about that.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:57 PM
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In your OP: I know how to talk to girls that I (really) like but that don't like me back and just be chill with them, instead of being shy or thinking they are better than me. And just having a good time/conversation with them. ... I can joke, tease and have fun with girls. And also have serious/interesting conversations. Whether I like them or not. now you're saying you've never flirted before. Don't blame me for you being unclear and contradictory.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:52 PM
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I thought you were saying you're at the "final step" but from the sound of that you're still in the "101" phase here my dude. Resources on the sidebar and use some google fu.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:49 PM
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But my mental problems stem from not having any friends or girls. You might be mistaking symptom for problem here man. Therapy isn't about fixing you it's about changing thought patterns that are holding you back.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:36 PM
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Have you considered therapy? This looks like a mental health problem disguised as a dating problem, and I don't think dating advice is going to fix the underlying issue.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:32 PM
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That raw desperation is lack of self-worth is a bigger obstacle in this endeavor than sobriety.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:25 PM
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Nope, it's one guy with a bunch of alt accounts trying to sell his coaching service (the "helpful ebook" requires getting on his email list and is just an ad for it)
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:20 PM
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I think the framing of a relationship as a singular end goal for self improvement is a little wonky. Working out for some mile time improvement or lift 1RM is a good goal, since as long as it's achievable it's within your control whether you accomplish it or not. But a relationship requires two people, and a least a little timing and luck. It is not a "goal" you can achieve by yourself. It also puts way too much pressure on your interactions with people. Instead of having a fun night out and see…
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:16 PM
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It's not impossible. I've done it many times at around that age.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:07 PM
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Why Philippines? How do you organize "date nights" when the whole group is heterosexual men who don't live in the country you're visiting?
/r/seduction11/07/22 07:50 PM
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Your overwhelming narcissism makes talking to other human beings as humans impossible. So yeah that advice won't work for you. We've gone back and forth on a hundred messages before. You are beyond my help since you refuse to do any level of self examination. Stop dragging this subreddit down into your sad little pit of despair you make for yourself.
/r/seduction09/07/22 05:43 PM
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For you it won't because as your mountain of post history proves, you are incapable of accepting responsibility, incapable of changing your approach. You spam this subreddit asking random people "when will I get laid huh? What day? What time? When???" Over and over. Well I actually have an answer: until you change course, never. Happy with that answer?
/r/seduction09/07/22 05:40 PM
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You again? Don't you get tired of arguing with people's advice instead of doing anything? Of course you don't. You live to complain and blame others.
/r/seduction09/07/22 05:38 PM
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Your approach is indistinguishable between the two. You're treating it like there's some winning formula of compliments and insults to trick her into liking you. There isn't.
/r/seduction08/07/22 11:38 PM
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You asked for an opinion you got it. Sex isn't a computer game where you can punch in the right cheat codes to "Flip the power dynamic around". Get off Instagram and talk to them like you're both human beings in the real world.
/r/seduction08/07/22 11:34 PM
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Any thoughts on being a player when it comes to spitting game & sliding in dms? Feel free to comment Go outside? Like, sitting inside on your phone trying to find the right combination of buttons and catchphrases to press in the right order to get laid is already a massive display of neediness before you even get going.
/r/seduction08/07/22 11:16 PM
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Gum/mints are always nice to haves. Extra cash is a good idea if you leave your card at a bar/there's a cover charge/you need to split something with someone and don't want to go through venmo hassle. If you're going to a houseparty, a small bottle opener on your keys comes in handy as well both for you and in the same way a lighter is, you know the whole "can I get that for you?" icebreaker. But none of that is mandatory.
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:53 PM
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No you're right, I'm pretty sure any honest look in the mirror provides you with your daily dose of shame.
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:05 PM
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Unless your hand and/or bodypillow can get pregnant, it's all theoretical for you anyway, so I don't really care what you think of my "tactics", or anything else for that matter.
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:04 PM
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Yeah you're showing yourself as a real catch. I'll get out of your way so you can go back to your busy life trying to get banned from feminist subreddits
/r/seduction30/06/22 04:58 PM
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Going by your username and post history, you're not simply "pro life" you're "anti woman", which yeah you should get out of the way in case the woman you're hitting on has any self-esteem whatsoever and therefore would not want to date a misogynist.
/r/seduction30/06/22 04:53 PM
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What specifically have you done? For how long? How often do you meet new people?
/r/seduction09/06/22 10:32 PM
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Dude probably doesn't feel like summarizing the book on reddit lol Bottom line is, yeah there is no way to guarantee success with any particular girl. If that's what you're waiting for, keep waiting.
/r/seduction09/06/22 08:53 PM
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You have created dozens of dozens of alt accounts to promote your shit ebook every day for the last 9 months. Who needs a life again?
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:28 PM
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More frustration and fascination than hate, but yeah. Once you start digging it's just sock puppets all the way down man. Real tin-foil hat time? OP in this thread, u/KarpenLogses , exclusively posts on the three subreddits run by the ebook/guide spammer guy: r/ PickUpArtist , datingadviceformen and mansformation. All three of those subs have auto-moderator scripted to link and sticky this shitty ebook on every thread. Yet OP acts like this is the first time hearing about it, makes sure to note …
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:26 PM
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As Sun Tzu once said "if no one is signing up to your email list, try creating sock puppet accounts to promote your shitty ebook" Since you write in the same manner as the author and all his spam accounts (https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/qqnrze/cold_approach/hk22lzh/?context=999), I'll assume you actually are the author. Why do you insist on being so duplicitous to promote your drivel? What satisfaction to gain from creating an army of reddit accounts only to watch them get banned an…
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:32 PM
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So good the author has to create an army of alt-accounts to spam it on a dozen subs so people will sign up to his mailing list? You mod a subreddit that links that same spam guide on every single thread. Forgive me for taking your opinion with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:25 PM
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more author alt accounts: https://www.reddit.com/user/CamelsWayofLife : https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/uz016r/is_it_normal_for_your_interest_in_dating_to/ia7ri3b/?context=3 https://www.reddit.com/user/ColdIceBreak : comment removed but visible on profile EDIT, even more u/gaggleleukocyte https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/uvy2db/need_help_with_social_ing_in_night_club_24m/i9q9zqh/?context=999 u/dictatestonecutter https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/uwu578/…
/r/seduction27/05/22 07:50 PM
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Be careful, the author of that "guide" has been known to use alt accounts to spam links to it. Looks at how this totally-not-the-same-person and totally-not-the-author promote the "guide" with the exact same cadence and format as the person you're talking to and the author: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/q3fr74/how_do_i_escalate_a_conversation_with_a_girl/hfsuws9/?context=3
/r/seduction27/05/22 07:42 PM
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only one way to find out
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:31 PM
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vibing to the music see other people vibing to music "I've never heard of these guys before! They're awesome" "yeah it's pretty cool!" "You come to [festival] just to see them?" "[basically any response]" "You look more like a [slightly embarrassing band playing later]-type person" OR "I came for [some other bands] but these guys are a good surprise/my new favorite. Always fun to see something new" OR if they say they came for another band, or don't know anyone playing there, or anything that gi…
/r/seduction17/05/22 10:23 PM
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You're not really picking up what I'm putting down here. Good luck with your "8"s or whatever. Eventually you'll realize that James Bond isn't real and being Leonardo DiCaprio is not a realistic goal. You can make as many or as few friends as you want. It's your life. But to do it because you saw Goldfinger and think that's a realistic thing to emulate, well that's just stupid. Peace.
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:32 PM
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No, you just buy into the worldview that they find most comfortable. But they have always been nostalgic to the point of regressive movies funded mostly by product placement for luxury goods, especially pre-Craig. Point is, they are not reality, they are fantasy. That's why Bond is played by paunchy late-50s Roger Moore he still has supermodels and cocktail dresses begging to fuck him after one raised eyebrow. The audience is supposed to live vicariously through him, but if you try to emulate hi…
/r/seduction17/05/22 06:55 PM
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I think you need to discard the thinking that women are "naturally" not in power and are "miserable" if they get any of it. That rigidity of thinking is only limiting you.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:44 PM
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most successful marriages are those where women don't mind being the care-taker or the housewife as they understand gender roles if end goal is to be a provider for the women that want to be with you Is that the end goal you want? If you want a subservient stay-at-home-wife without any power of her own, then yeah a women with strong career goals is probably not going to work out. Have you tried the local FLDS compound or a time machine to the 1950s?
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:29 PM
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That's why Casino Royal is the exception to the rule. The whole movie is a set up to explain and justify why Bond is the way he is in all 24 other movies.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:14 PM
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James Bond movies are fantasies to sell watches to middle aged Dads. They are (sometimes) fun and (occasionally) good movies, but they are not how-to guides or documentaries.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:11 PM
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It's not "always blame the guy" it's the observation that you are the common denominator here. There are girls who are interesting and responsive, but not the ones you're talking to. Why? It's like that quote "if you encounter one asshole, he's the asshole. If all you see are assholes, you're the asshole". If all you encounter is shitty boring uninterested people, then maybe there's something you can change in your approach. Or not and just blame women instead as if 4.5 billion people decided on…
/r/seduction17/03/22 04:46 PM
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aside from legal ramifications, it's also absurdly unethical
/r/seduction09/03/22 07:33 PM
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...are you sharing people's nude photos without their consent? I don't think that's actually what "99%" of guys do
/r/seduction09/03/22 06:13 PM
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That was sarcastic. Idk what this has to do with anything I wrote, but you don't have to send me more. I do not care.
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:51 PM
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Ok thanks for sharing?
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:24 PM
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Escorts make money on repeat customers: they pay in full, are lesser risk, tip well, and are somewhat predictable as to when and how often they book. If an escort could block out all her appointments into known quantities in a nice regular schedule, they would in a heartbeat. As such, stuff like even during “downtime” she would always laugh at my jokes while touching me and likes to cuddle after sex, to the point of ask to spoon Is most likely simply part of the business, keeping regulars happy,…
/r/seduction08/03/22 08:03 PM
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"I want to deadlift 315 lbs" "ok, here's a program to increase that lift. It'll take a while, but you can get there if you put in the work" "b-but but in college I did put in the work! I did tons of dumbbell curls like over 4 different times! Still no 3 plate deadlift!"
/r/seduction04/03/22 07:54 PM
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Why can't you give any advice about gaming? Why can't you read the sidebar? "Why do you think I don't have hobbies?" Not the person you're badgering here, but posts like this paint that picture: "This world isn't cut out for lonely people like me. I keep getting false hope. And I'm probably going to regret my childhood and college experience for the rest of my life. Still in my hometown. We've got a little ways to go, but I'm not going to watch people manage close bonds without me for decades mo…
/r/seduction04/03/22 07:52 PM
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When did you go on that date? How did it go? What sort of trip? Hard to give specific advice if I have no idea about the specifics of the situation.
/r/seduction07/02/22 06:28 PM
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How long have you known each other? If for a couple weeks and she invites you on a trip yeah she's into you. If for a couple years, probably not. How did she invite you on the trip, and what sort of trip is it? Couple of red flags in the framing here, for instance the phrasing of her as "my crush", singular and possessive, is already putting way more investment into this person than she is likely putting into you. Also you are looking for "moves" like if you put in the right combination of input…
/r/seduction07/02/22 06:09 PM
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There's a much easier way to find out than hoping strangers on the internet can read her mind from your ~20 word summary: ask to see her again at a specific day. If she says yes, you have your answer. If she says no without providing an alternative day or at least actively making more conversation, you have your answer. If she doesn't respond, you definitely have your answer.
/r/seduction25/01/22 06:03 PM
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"There is a girl (20F) that I (21M) really like" but also "As I said I never had conversation with her before" You don't "really like her", you don't know her. The first step is to not invest emotionally like this in someone who barely knows you exist. Then whatever you do end saying to her, you are coming from an outcome independent frame and not a needy one.
/r/seduction24/01/22 11:19 PM
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u/rosbergsessa420 , I echo everything this comment says. In terms of what you can do today sign up for 1 thing in the next couple weeks. Ideally female dominated as they say, but while you are in the solutions mode, pick something and commit to the first day you can. As for Models, I have read it and it's as good as they say. Getting a copy, be it physical, audiobook, or otherwise is a good Day 1 action item. You mention you are hitting the gym. I can answer any questions you might have about th…
/r/seduction24/01/22 10:08 PM
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No problem. I think people tend to stop the thought process at "girls just want guys with a six pack!" instead of thinking about what having a six pack says about your work ethic and discipline, and how big of a factor communicating those traits is. There's a Arnold quote that applies to this situation whether you're trying to get big biceps, win an amateur bout, or run a sub-5 mile. "A well built physique is a status symbol. It reflects you worked hard for it, no money can buy it. You cannot bo…
/r/seduction19/01/22 06:53 PM
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If inviting to a group hang going to an event, it's pretty ambiguous, and will depend how the night goes. If inviting one-on-one for drinks it's definitely a date. If you don't know each other super well and you invite on a one-on-one anything: coffee, brunch, whatever, it's pretty understood that's a date. Though kind of outdated, if she has the expectation that you pay or at least lack of surprise if you pay, than it's 100% a date. In general women know if you're interested. Not always, and th…
/r/seduction19/01/22 06:13 PM
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Think about it this way: why does that hot fit girl go to the gym herself? She cares about her health, her body, and her appearance. She likes putting the work and hitting goals, be they performance or aesthetic in nature. Based on that, what traits do you think she values in a guy? Probably someone that also takes care of their body, looks "good" in a fitness sense, and probably someone who has that same goal->discipline->accomplishment loop. Now here's the kicker: you can be healthy and fit an…
/r/seduction19/01/22 06:04 PM
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Sure. Yes. Go for it. Start small if you want though: ask people for the time, ask people for directions. Learn from what doesn't work and build confidence.
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:28 PM
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Read the basics, and put what the recommend into practice. There's material on the sidebar. There's Models by Mark Manson. Absorb that info and turn it into action Expand your social circle. Be the guy who's always organizing things. Be the guy everyone wants to invite to stuff. Go outside your comfort zone. Talk to everyone you can, be it old dudes or hot girls or whomever. Improve how you present yourself. Are you in shape? If not, that's the best thing to start with today.
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:25 PM
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Yeah that's a layup lol. Have fun and stay safe
/r/seduction08/01/22 10:44 PM
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IDK the context, like if it was a bored "whatever" or more flirty, but don't reject yourself ahead of time either way. Be confident, at worst she's a "maybe" that wants to be a "yes", but most likely she's a "yes". Assume attraction until you have a good reason to think otherwise.
/r/seduction08/01/22 12:40 AM
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Sounds like she's already "inched" the conversation that way lol. "I'm down for anything" is as clear as you can get. Be confident, and invite her to your place after the meal, or ask to see her place if that makes more sense. Don't overthink, just relax and know she's into you and act accordingly.
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:48 PM
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I do a couple niche (and co-ed) sports. After seeing the same people week in week out, it's not weird to invite or be invited out. I like these odd niche sports, and that's my main reason for being there, not as a meat market. Again, what are you into?
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:47 PM
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You need to add ways to meet people in your schedule, whether they are single women or not. Volunteering is good, but there are many other things you can try, with the common idea of doing things you are interested in as a priority and meeting people as a side effect. What are you interested in? Once you have that robust social circle, you can go out as a group to bars and clubs and the like too. But you won't get there by doing home->work->gym->repeat and never meeting anyone new.
/r/seduction06/01/22 09:02 PM
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I think you'd have to ask OP that, but they don't seem to be in a constructive mood.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/22 09:31 PM
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Waterboarding couldn't get that sentence out of me, yet you say it voluntarily.
/r/seduction05/01/22 12:21 AM
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So faking being religious to bang girls in church? Ok.... If you ever need extra cash, you could see if Always Sunny is hiring someone to do Dennis' character lines.
/r/seduction04/01/22 11:47 PM
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OP is making some steps forward, what with going to the gym and all. But the big obstacle is the perverse comfort in incel/blackpill/redpill views has for him. There's a comfort in believing that you're doomed due to genetics and that your choices won't effect that either way. There's comfort in "othering" women as an invasive species when rejected rather than realize they're people just like you and make decisions for essentially the same reasons. It calms an anxiety I think, though of course i…
/r/ExRedPill04/01/22 11:41 PM
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Hoping that someone you click with randomly comes across your IG handle and decides to follow you sight-unseen is the least proactive way to meet new people I can imagine. It's fishing, not just in overfished waters, but with no bait on the hook. To stretch the analogy too far, get your feet wet and dive in rather than wait around. The best fish are too deep for the passive fisherman anyway.
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:50 PM
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"I got drunk and rambled about how AOC confuses my boner while playing vidya. The world needs to know!"
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:46 PM
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From the sidebar: "Abundance Mentality- This is basically the idea that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Internalize that idea, and rejections will be easier to handle (also, it'll help you not to get so worked-up about a single approach/interaction)." Most guys new to women take too long to deinvest themselves when a particular woman is not interested, with the anxiety in the back of their mind that this is their "best shot" or it's a rare opportunity, which itself stems from low self estee…
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:41 PM
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Not if it's a load of junk complaining about women, especially since it's just you talking over a video game loading screen.
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:34 PM
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What do you do outside of work? Unless there's hot girls in your living room, you're not going to meet them staying home. Also, just because your friends are in relationships doesn't mean they're dead. How often do you invite people to do things?
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:32 PM
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Hey man. I've seen your posts all over the site, and over and over you're looking for quick and easy answers to complicated questions. When you get complex answers, you ignore the advice and reload to try again somewhere else. The first step is to slow down and open yourself up to the advice you've already been given. Read it, digest it, ask follow ups if need be, and start putting in the work. The alternative is continuing to fish for an easy solution that doesn't exist. What choice will you ma…
/r/ExRedPill04/01/22 08:24 PM
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Since you edited your reply, yeah DM eventually, but if she doesn't even know who you are, let alone like or follow you, you are just another thirsty dude. Use your profile to generate interest and go from there.
/r/seduction04/01/22 07:12 PM
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Honestly dude, if your pics don't work on tinder, their not going to work on IG, which is possibly the only place more superficial than Tinder. Your best bet is to try a different approach. If you're convinced to primarily use IG as a hookup app, you need to take many high quality pictures that show an attractive you with an attractive lifestyle, be active and social and pursue opportunities as they arise rather than spamming influencer's DMs. It's quite a bit of work and again, IG is the the mo…
/r/seduction04/01/22 07:00 PM
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Hammer down on what?
/r/seduction04/01/22 06:47 PM
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Can you answer something for me? Without thinking too deeply or logicially, answer this emotionally: Do you feel like "she's the best I can or will ever do?" because I am guessing the answer is "yes" if you're honest with yourself. This is called one-itus, and the cure is increasing your self respect and confidence. Have you heard on the notion of "abundance mentality"?
/r/seduction04/01/22 06:43 PM
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"Do I keep my profile public? " Yeah, I mean, how do you expect to meet new people if only your friends are able to see your page? I guess you could hope that a hot girl follows you out of the blue without being able to see your pics, but gl with that. "Do I send them a direct message even if they didn't follow me back? Or better to comment on their stories?" Hot girls on IG have an avalanche of unrequested thirst in their DMs from guys they don't know or care about. Is your plan to be part of t…
/r/seduction04/01/22 06:32 PM
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As long as she knows it's light hearted sarcasm, which it didn't read to me at least. That's kind of my point, if shes expecting sarcasm like that, sure go for it. If they have a different dynamic, it could come off as desperate or mean or a million other things. We don't know, and OP kept hoping we magically did.
/r/seduction04/01/22 12:59 AM
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That seems like priority one to me. What options do you have for mental healthcare?
/r/seduction03/01/22 11:23 PM
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Regardless of what she says, the real fuck up would be not trying and/or not learning. Be outcome independent here.
/r/seduction03/01/22 11:05 PM
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OK hope it goes well
/r/seduction03/01/22 11:00 PM
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No I mean like unless someone has been involved in your conversations, they don't know what things she expects to hear from you and you plan to play into or subvert that. My whole point is that a headline overview of "hot and partially interested" is nothing to go on for specifics like this. You are the only one who has a good idea about what she expects and what your interactions play out as, so do what you think is best.
/r/seduction03/01/22 10:38 PM
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There is no one hobby that will "turn off" 100% of women. So I think a better re-phrase is: "will knowing about my hobbies tank an interaction with an otherwise compatible woman"? and the follow up that's a "yes": "it is worth it to alter my lifestyle with respect to those hobbies to get laid?" As for stamps and planes, I think as long as it's not among the first few things you define yourself on, it's not really going to turn off many people, especially since your hobbies are not in isolation a…
/r/seduction03/01/22 10:36 PM
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Without knowing your two's dynamic, not I nor any other stranger on the internet can say what the best path is. That being said, "C" is very cringe, and you're probably overthinking this 100x over. Do what feels smooth and natural to you.
/r/seduction03/01/22 10:22 PM
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That is a lot of progress, but things like no job no friends no hobbies besides video games and TV, I just think there could be other avenues you could work on in addition to what you're doing. Doing 100s of cold approaches with no foundation hoping to roll the dice enough times to get a "yes" once every 5 years (by your math) is just the most difficult and least rewarding way to go about things. Do you get where I'm coming from here?
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:17 PM
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Your username is "AddictedDepression", so I'm going to guess that's a factor here. It's a cycle, loneliness begets depression, and depressions isolated you. Forming friendships will help with depression, but also forming friendships will be easier when you are able to fight back depression more than you are now. I wouldn't worry about birthday texts if I were you, and instead focus on how you are going to care for yourself and improve your mental health.
/r/seduction03/01/22 06:04 PM
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Sounds like you're putting the cart before the horse there. Not that practice is a bad idea, but there might be some underlying issues that need to be addressed if you're 0-100 yeah?
/r/seduction03/01/22 05:58 PM
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Maybe it's just not done in my nearby big city, but I've never had a bouncer reject me at the door, nor seen it done to anybody but extremely wasted people. I'm not the biggest club rat in the world, but I've been a couple dozen, and the idea of a bouncer rejecting you because you aren't wearing the right shoes or don't have a woman with you is something I've only seen on TV.
/r/seduction23/12/21 06:37 PM
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The author uses alt accounts regularly. I've seen about 10 different ones using the same language and phrasing to get people to sign up. All his promotional comments get 10 quick upvotes and an award to give it the air of community agreement. What a scumbag.
/r/seduction16/12/21 01:05 AM
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This guide is a scam. I've written about it several times, but the author creates an endless parade of sock puppets to talk it up to get people to give him their contact information. SCAM
/r/seduction16/12/21 01:03 AM
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Both men and women have the potential to be horrible Yes: potential. Sure. But you don't know until you get to know them. You are assuming everyone is (but you).
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:11 PM
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Just seems like you "know" quite a lot about these people, including how little they have to offer, how horrible they are, but without interacting with them very much. Yeah maybe therapy dude.
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:04 PM
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Ah so it's everyone else's fault, the whole of "society". OK. Maybe it has more to do with who in particular you end up dating, or maybe your whole "bend over backwards" is symptomatic of highly unbalanced investment in these relationships?
/r/seduction14/12/21 06:02 PM
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All 3.5 billion of them huh?
/r/seduction14/12/21 05:54 PM
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I don’t want to sift through the sea of bullshit The few women I chatted with in person Seems like these contradict a bit. Either you've seen it all and it's just a "sea of bullshit" or you've only talked to a few women. Is it possible you are incorrect about the larger world when going off of few (sounds like quite positive?) irl examples?
/r/seduction14/12/21 05:49 PM
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Is this what this sub is for? Sitting around complaining about "feminism" (who can forget when Gloria Steinem coined the term 'fuckboi' afterall...), and acting like it's the one thing in your way of getting laid?
/r/seduction09/12/21 09:48 PM
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It means fix your attitude. It means not being so angry and entitled. It means accept responsibility instead of blaming women for your lack of dating success: you're the common denominator of it. It means having hobbies and passions that don't revolve around getting laid. As for what that concretely looks like in your life, that may involve new social groups to join, or activities to try, or therapy, or even just trying to set aside time to be introspective and meditate. No matter what you do, i…
/r/seduction08/12/21 09:04 PM
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A) it usually takes longer than a month to see major effect, and usually requires several adjustments to get right and B) Is being miserable better than being happy and having to pick up a prescription for a year or two until you are on the right track?
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:55 PM
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Both. They do not contradict: It should be fun, so if it's not fun, stop. Try again when you are better equipped to learn from mistakes and not get so angry and frustrated.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:49 PM
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Doing the same thing 200 times without addressing deeper issues is not what I mean. Look inward and work on yourself and your life.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:48 PM
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It's not about "cure", it's about making a better, happier you for next month than this month. Then doing that every month. It's work and takes time. If you've been depressed for years on end even with therapy, medication might be in order to get you on a positive trajectory.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:47 PM
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There's that winning attitude I'm sure people can't get enough of....
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:45 PM
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"mixed signals" usually means one of 1) she is not interested, but you are still hoping she is, so you selectively interpret things she does until it goes from "uninterested" to "mixed signals" in your head or 2) She isn't sure herself quite yet What it isn't is her trying to confuse you or not aware you're into her or whatever. Either way you can resolve it by asking her on an unambiguous second date. If she says no without offering a substitute, you have your answer. But more importantly: Are …
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:38 PM
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You're not solving them by complaining either. Are you doing anything to address your issues, or is it just "the game"'s fault entirely?
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:35 PM
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Are you doing anything about the anxiety and depression, and negative self-image? ("I am pretty awkward sometimes and can be pretty weird"). Those seem more pertinent than what to text this one girl. There's not one-size-fits-all solution for keeping someone interested. But the first step is to go on an actual date and see if there's chemistry. If there isn't, there's not point in forcing it.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:33 PM
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It's basically impossible to build attraction through texts. Building attraction is about tone, timing, implication, and subcommunication more than literal words. You have such little bandwidth in text, you get none of those things. Text is useful for logistical reasons, and if you try to make it more than that, you are handicapping yourself.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:17 PM
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Then stop doing it...? Game should be fun. If it's not, you'll be miserable during and have little to no success.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:14 PM
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If you are going to just talk yourself into this conclusion regardless of what people say, why ask? You'll find out for sure if you ask her out, just don't be surprised or resentful of her "leading you on" if she says no.
/r/seduction07/12/21 09:40 PM
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I mean, the way you present the question makes the answer obvious: if you can find a place in the larger city that is good for inviting girls over, then that's the answer. However there is also more on your mind than that, since you mention higher rent. Whether it's worth it to pay an unknown amount of extra rent on an unknown income to live in an unknown 300k city vs an unknown 100k city is not answerable by me.
/r/seduction07/12/21 06:11 PM
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Conversations are not interviews, and even the best list of questions just makes for a better interview not a better conversation. To get to know someone better, tell stories that give them things to latch on to i.e. telling a story about a great meal you had with an old friend during a trip will give her points to jump in on to talk about her friends, her travels, or where she likes to eat (hint hint). Similarly listen to her stories and either use her jumping off points, or go deeper by being …
/r/seduction07/12/21 05:35 PM
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ok
/r/seduction30/11/21 12:51 AM
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How are you doing on those 4 things?
/r/seduction29/11/21 06:31 PM
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I think you might be right about that
/r/seduction25/11/21 01:50 AM
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No problem. A lot of vulnerable and frankly desperate people on here, and to exploit that to scam them into a shitty email list is so gross.
/r/seduction25/11/21 01:21 AM
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Also, you seem to spend an inordinate amount of time promoting a guide you totally didn't write and have no vested interest in Examples https://old.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/qfakk7/what_do_you_do_as_a_guy_if_youve_got_your_life_in/hi1b6kn/ https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/p4xdci/i_feel_like_im_losing_her_and_its_all_my_fault/h926qb6/?context=3 Fully half of your comments, just like the authors other alts....
/r/seduction25/11/21 01:02 AM
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Oh look it's the same guide the requires your personal information to download, that get's spammed by the author in his 10 different alt-accounts, as I document here And now the author has locked the comments on the thread he links to, and deleted all skeptical comments. Cool.
/r/seduction25/11/21 12:53 AM
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Cool! Good luck. Should I check back in a few weeks?
/r/seduction11/11/21 10:07 PM
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No I am not comfortable enough to do stop strangers on the street to talk to them Well there's step one. Go out in a public area. Looks like you're in college still yeah? Stop people and ask where building X is(head in that direction if they know obv)/what time it is (don't wear a watch lol) Start with guys (assuming you aren't bi), then women you are not really attracted to, then women you are. First time will be nerve wracking. 10th time will be a little nervous. 100th time will be routine. Se…
/r/seduction11/11/21 09:55 PM
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dunno why you keep making top level comments, but to answer that, I need to know a bit about your social life. Do you regularly go to events where you can meet new people, especially women in your age bracket? Do you have a group of friends you go out to bars/clubs/"out" in general with? Are you comfortable enough socially to stop a stranger on the street and ask for the time?
/r/seduction11/11/21 09:41 PM
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How often do you approach and how do you do it? Third time asking here. Is the answer "I dont"? What did you think about my two points there? Will you go out and practice?
/r/seduction11/11/21 09:34 PM
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I’m going starting an if diet Also for this, IDK what that means. Are you currently losing weight and working out? BMI >35 and sedentary is making things tougher. Not that you shouldn't start practicing today, but you are stacking the deck against yourself a bit.
/r/seduction11/11/21 08:26 PM
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How often do you approach and how do you do it? How often do you approach and how do you do it? Two observations: 1) Figure out what you can do to get yourself in that funny, outgoing headspace. If you can't "feel" it, then notice what you are like when you are and fake it. 2) Practice practice practice. First approach will be nerve-wracking. 30th approach will be butterflies at most. By 100+, it will be almost automatic. Have you read the sidebar/any books or videos like Mark Manson or Todd V? …
/r/seduction11/11/21 08:17 PM
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I don't get what's counter-productive. Can you explain? It's pretty telling that when asked specifically to compliment yourself, you say two things: one positive quality you immediately undercut with a negative, and how much money you have which doesn't saying anything about you as a person. What weight are you at? How often do you approach and how do you do it?
/r/seduction11/11/21 08:04 PM
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How old are you (roughly)? What are your positive qualities? What are you working on?
/r/seduction11/11/21 07:41 PM
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Wow that's a fascinating perspective. For the specific police force you join, have you considered Ligma PD?
/r/seduction06/11/21 01:12 AM
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Well in your time since you've dropped off your application, you're already denigrating women and thinking about how you can leverage being a police officer into sex with the women you seem to not like or respect. You tell me.
/r/seduction06/11/21 12:31 AM
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Not off to a great start.
/r/seduction06/11/21 12:27 AM
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This post should be framed. EDIT: like put in a frame and displayed. Not framed for drug possession or whatever it is cops do
/r/seduction05/11/21 11:17 PM
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u/TheycallhimRyan , have you given it some thought?
/r/seduction05/11/21 05:39 PM
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I think it's more important to know the structure of jokes rather than memorizing them, but more than just winging it. I think it's good to note what the pattern of a joke is and why it's funny, and re-use that as needed when the situation calls on it, and iterate what things work for you. Essentially, the middle balance from total shoot-from-the-hip structure-less improv and "look ladies, this is my tight 5 for next week's open mic!"
/r/seduction04/11/21 10:40 PM
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Things are not divided into "my 100% comfort zone" and "things I know I hate and always will", it's a spectrum. So for you, on one end of the spectrum is flipping through dating apps on your couch, and the other is a loud, strobe-y, rave. The question is what is just outside your comfort zone? Maybe it's a bar with a more quiet laid-back vibe, or a jazz club. Maybe it's taking a class or a meetup with new people. IDK you, so I can't be more specific than that. But ask yourself "what would a vers…
/r/seduction04/11/21 06:28 PM
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Yeah I don't believe he's actually in "great shape" given his most physical activity is bowling. And it's extremely frustrating trying to talk to him when he disregards 90% of what people say to narrow in on the one thing he can contradict, and since we don't know him enough to know whether that's true we have to just accept it. It's like he's trying to "win" at getting advice. Don't even know what to say to people like this. It's one thing to say "I've tried hitting the gym, done X approaches h…
/r/seduction03/11/21 03:09 PM
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Ok that's a little better, but if it's anime club, you are stacking the deck against yourself again. And if it's only one, you're putting all your eggs in one basket. Pick someone that women like as much men. Then do several of those things, not just one. Go out and meet people in public spaces. There's a strong chance from what I see here that you make no substantial changes to your presentation or approach, maybe you join one club with few or no single women in it, then throw your hands up and…
/r/seduction03/11/21 02:58 PM
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Frankly dude, you're setting yourself up for failure. This conventions are a few times a year at most, and have an overwhelmingly high male to female ratio. So your sole plan is to make no changes, and only a few times a year try to meet new people, and only in a place where there are 10 single dudes for every single girl? You're going to need to really take action here, and that's not it chief. Listen to what I and others are saying rather than writing everything off in a handful of words. Ther…
/r/seduction03/11/21 02:52 PM
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OK. So when you go to play pool/bowl, are you going by yourself, with a couple friends and keep to yourselves, or do you go with the intention to meeting people? Basically you need 3 components: a pool of new people to meet (no pun intended), the ability to develop attraction, and the logistics to not fuck it up/close. Honestly, I don't see video games as a fruitful way to meet girls at all, and bowling is better but not much more so due to the clientele (old dudes and kid's birthday parties). P…
/r/seduction02/11/21 08:46 PM
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It's kind of interesting that only things you volunteer about yourself are that you don't drink or do drugs, which is really besides the point, especially since you're only talking about online dating. What are your basics? What is your job and living situation? Fitness level? Hobbies? Dress sense/hygiene/grooming? What social circle can you leverage?
/r/seduction02/11/21 06:08 PM
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I don't quite get why that's so bad. I've been at bars as a DD and ordered just water the whole night. I've had no lasting damage. Can you elaborate a bit?
/r/seduction02/11/21 06:06 PM
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Highly recommend https://thefitness.wiki/ to clear up misconceptions you might have about losing fat and gaining muscle. My main nugget of advice fitness wise is that the best Day 1 routine is whatever gets you back for Day 2. You can refine or improve what you do in the gym (or wherever you end up doing fitness), but making it a habit it step 1.
/r/seduction21/10/21 08:36 PM
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OK. Well, yeah Redpill stuff probably won't work, because it's junk generally speaking. I don't see how that means to give up? Like have you tried stuff that's not junk? Also I don't really have a clear picture of what you have or have not actually done or what your mental, physical and life situation is. Advice for someone who's 35 years old with their own career and in shape is different from advice for a 22yo NEET with clinical obesity and severe depression you know?
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 06:48 PM
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Can you give basic information? How old are you? What did you try in terms of fitness/fashion/hobbies/haircut&grooming/ect.? What did you try in terms of ways of meeting new people? How is your mental health? What do you mean by 'game'?
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 05:16 PM
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How do you know a hypothetical future girls feels about you so specifically? You're not even giving this unknown person a chance to feel differently, you're deciding for her. Why are you so sure here?
/r/seduction28/06/21 06:48 PM
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How does that relate to what I originally replied to?
/r/seduction27/06/21 09:39 AM
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I'm not sure what that means.
/r/seduction26/06/21 07:48 AM
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You have to deal with both I think, but you do have bitterness towards women that will hold you back at some point. "Graduation means nothing unless you want to attract a woman who just had her fair share of fun and now wants to settle for some wallflower financially stable guy." This stands out to me. Like, you've never been in this situation, but you already know why you'd fail/they'd fail you. I'm curious where this anxiety comes from. What specific people or events come to mind when you say …
/r/seduction25/06/21 10:26 PM
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I don't know. I've never really had anyone comment one way or the other on my face. I don't think I'm ugly, but I couldn't be more biased. I guess it's the only major variable I haven't changed at one point or the other, but if that's the culprit what's the point? I can't change that. No self improvement will help if I'm inherently unpleasant to look at.
/r/seduction19/11/19 07:38 AM
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I did ask my sister and she said to try Tinder, then I asked her if she met her and fiance on Tinder and she said "of course not" no that kind of shut that down.
/r/seduction19/11/19 06:37 AM
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That's why I feel like I'm missing something. They way I remember and present it makes it seem like I was right in action the whole way until the end, but that's evidently not true. I must have viewed something wrong but idk what it might be.
/r/seduction19/11/19 06:35 AM
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I have a hard time understanding as well. I have been approaching usually in social settings i.e. I'm at a house party or the like and in the process of hanging out I meet someone I vibe with (or think I do) then I ask for their number. Doesn't usually go well. Example (the story I alluded to in the main post). I'm at a dive-y bar with some friends Friday night. I see a dude I knew in a group with some cute girls. I go over and talk to him first then chat with the rest of the group. One of them …
/r/seduction19/11/19 06:08 AM
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I mean it's not like they're going to bar me at the door if I don't bring a girl, it's more like "this is a mark in the future that close enough to be on my mind but far enough so that I can improve and do things in the meantime. If was ever going to 'get there' now would be the time"
/r/seduction19/11/19 05:51 AM
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Yah I'm not going to bring an escort to my sister's wedding. Hard pass.
/r/seduction19/11/19 05:46 AM
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