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But_Kicker · 2022-08-04T16:23:39+00:00

You don't.

There is plausible deniability, the vibe and mood are set. She will be aware, she isn't stupid.

Keep being flirtatious and edge on to sexual conversations occasionally. A little over text is okay, but the bulk of this should be done in person.

If you communicatively plan to have to hook up, it's a turn-off and it probably won't go through. Just keep having fun with the conversation and put yourself in the situation to hook up with her if that's the intention. Just keep it light and fun.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-04T16:41:39+00:00

You don’t ask her, you go outside somewhere with her like a park, and start talking, flirting, etc face to face, after a while if the vibe is right you initiate physical touch, like playing with her hands, holding her hands, caressing her fingers, her palm of her hand, her wrists, while you keep talking and flirting with her…

You start saying how she looks so fine, or how attractive she is, or how she is so smart and funny it makes you like her more, you tell her that “if she doesn’t stop being so charming, you are gonna kiss her” (that’s asking for consent indirectly), you look into her lips, and if she doesn’t get repulsed by the idea you go for a kiss.

You start kissing with her, and you invite her to get out of there, usually your place, say some excuse like “let’s have dinner at my place, i’ll cook” or whatever, and once you are inside the place, you continue kissing her, in her neck, her ear, her lips, and start undressing her going to the bed or sofa or whatever, and then put a condom and just do it.

See the process? You don’t ever say “hey do you want to have sex?” because that’s off putting, not smooth at all, and will cause any girl to be defensive and reject the idea.

Instead you get her in the mood by flirting, getting her excited and turned on with your touch, then kissing her neck, removing her clothes, and so on…

Basically that’s called making it happen, rather than asking if it can happen.

You cannot go from cold to sex by asking if she is up for it, you need to get her in the mood and that is basically seducing her face to face.

jzdelona · 2022-08-04T18:07:15+00:00

Don't try to label it, just say "What are you up to this weekend?" and treat it like a casual date, invite her over for smoke/drink if y'all are into that, to play games/movie, or maybe some outdoor activity. Going to a beach or lake and being playful in the water is a good way to initiate physical contact if she's giving you receptive vibes. I wouldn't try to overanalyze or launch into some discussion about your potential sexual relationship unless she brings it up, it's better to just let things flow naturally.

JennySparklezz · 2022-08-04T18:13:24+00:00

Lol 35f here. You don’t. Just flirt and be nice. Don’t just try and hook up.

BIN-BON · 2022-08-04T16:42:24+00:00

So the first thing you need to do, I'd say, is just look at this situation objectively. She's sending you dirty texts, and you're (presumably) texting back the same vibe. So obviously you want to get in each other's pants. Now you can be all bold, and simply ask her, "hey wanna hook up sometime?" And sure, there's a chance it could work! But it's more fun to beat around the bush and be playful. You probably feel this already through your texts. The attraction you feel when she flirts with you. Sometimes it's more fun to let the imagination wander.

As to the casual thing, just be honest. During foreplay, during a date, during after glow. Don't drop it in a text message out of the blue, because think about how it'd come off to you, if someone said "look, I'm only using you for a toy, don't catch feelings."

Cold, you know?

But still, sack up and establish boundaries. Establish them early, and clearly, but maybe use a soft sale.

"Look I've had an amazing time with you, and I'd love to see you again, but understand, I don't want to get too serious. Or at least not too serious too fast. After all, I just got out of a pretty serious relationship."

Sure that may or may not catch you an after date, but if someone said it to me, I'd have to respect it. Because, dear god, what sort of asshole expects true love during "getting to know you" sex?

2022-08-04T18:23:35+00:00

Just ask to hang out and escalate physically and continue to escalate until you get negative responses

Maxx_Darkglare · 2022-08-04T19:44:39+00:00

You just ask her to come over then when she’s at your house you have sex. It’s very easy

ImpressiveGrocery959 · 2022-08-04T19:58:14+00:00

Invite her to hang out or go on a date and take it from there

2022-08-04T20:04:28+00:00

Go on a date

2022-08-04T22:37:30+00:00

You keep things cool and friendly and most importantly fun. If she’s into you, you’ll know.

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