Asking the girl the reason for her you cutting you off

hachapurik · 2022-07-05T14:18:05+00:00

Yes, don't ask bro, there will be nothing of use for you.

Competitive-Bill-612 · 2022-07-05T14:22:49+00:00

I’ve walked down this path of reasoning and the answer is even they fucking have no clue why they cut you off: sometimes it has a basis and sometimes it makes no fucking sense.

Most likely answer she found some other guy on tinder. Also any reason why u guys went on 4 dates and only cuddled?

Unique_Suspect8711 · 2022-07-05T14:20:14+00:00

You didn’t fuck up. Rejection is a good thing. Takes away ppl who are not compatible with us.

Don’t reach out, you’ll look like hurt little boy. Plus why u wanna talk to a girl who dumped you without courtesy of telling you what didn’t work.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-05T17:23:44+00:00

Women aren’t specific about what you did wrong even if you ask, they just say the vibe wasn’t right, or they felt no spark, or some little thing you did they didn’t like, but which actually isn’t the real problem when looking at the bigger picture.

ImpressiveGrocery959 · 2022-07-05T14:56:06+00:00

Just move on buddy. You likely won’t get the real truth anyway.

SupremeBBC · 2022-07-05T14:57:07+00:00

You already said there were low expectations, so who cares why she cut you off?

aterrifyingfish · 2022-07-07T15:27:22+00:00

I've asked before, but think about it; how would it be helpful? A few points here:

Some women will be honest with you, some won't in order to spare your feelings, or avoid coming off as shallow, whatever. You have no way of knowing which ones are being honest and which ones aren't, so the information isn't very useful for you
EVERY girl is different. This sub likes to make broad sweeping generalizations about women, but if you date enough of them, you start realizing those generalizations are mostly bullshit. Women are so, so different, you'll never date two that are exactly alike. Some women like gushy men who express their emotions and are totally honest with their feelings at all times. Some of them like stoic men who are a rock and keep everything to themselves. Some like romantic chivalrous gestures, some find that kind of behavior demeaning/pathetic. What one girl tells you about why she's dumping you, even if she's being honest, has no bearing on what another girl may like (within reason. Pretty much all women aren't into guys who don't shower for weeks on end)
If they were honest, and it was about something you couldn't change, how would that help you? As much as people say you can control your chances in dating, there are some things you just cannot change. If a woman decided that you weren't tall enough, didn't have the right color eyes, didn't have the right skin color, didn't like your voice, doesn't like your parents, etc, you can't change any of those things. The only thing knowing that information would do is make you feel insecure. Pointless.

Don't ask, it's not helpful. Just play back the interactions in your head, see if there's anything you can identify that seems unattractive or not congruent with the person you want to be and fix it if you can. Otherwise, don't worry about it. It'll just drive you nuts.

MistyMaisel · 2022-07-05T17:01:01+00:00

From having read down, it sounds like either:

the making out and foreplay sucked and she found she wasn't into your moves and didn't wanna go any further because she didn't think that would be anymore enjoyable than what she already wasn't enjoying.
She really wasn't ready for anything, it moved too fast, and she's calling lights out because she genuinely doesn't want a relationship.

And yes, it is generally weird to ask (coming from a girl). You're putting me in an uncomfortable situation for your benefit. That sucks.

2022-07-05T16:18:00+00:00

There’s no harm in asking as long as you don’t obsess over getting an answer.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-05T17:43:26+00:00

Girl makes a Tinder profile hoping to get some deep dicking and all she gets is a guy who wants to take her out and cuddle for three dates and text her endlessly. It's tough being a woman.

Title	Asking the girl the reason for her you cutting you off
Author	Popular_Rush
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	July 5, 2022 2:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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