Can frame be restored?

MrMelbourne · 2022-06-28T02:22:28+00:00

Cuddling after sex (afterplay) is great and if you enjoy it and she enjoys it, then what is the problem?

bcool_returns · 2022-06-28T04:31:40+00:00

Clearly, you're charting out new territory here. You sound like you're wrapped up in an identity of having women wrapped around your finger. This isn't that so it's got you shook. I get it. You can have an abundance of one night stands and flings while still feeling completely out of your depth when you wake up next to someone you're actually afraid of losing. The answer is just to commit to enjoying the ride however long it lasts. And then doing it again, now with a better understanding of the bar that must be met, should this come to an end. The confidence and knowledge of how to navigate these things will come in time through these new reference experiences.

I've gone through periods of serious LTRs and periods of just going balls to the wall. I started the summer committed to just casual, when all of a sudden I met someone a few weeks ago and have been seeing her regularly. You never know what can happen.

WTF of course you can and should be cuddling with her. These post sex moments are a key part of my game and I think why tend to women stick around if I get that far. I'm loose, cracking jokes, telling stories, and opening up.

As for your "critical mistakes," both seem like complete self sabotage. So first never mind her. I'd think about yourself and being emotionally honest with yourself. Do you like her or not? If so, stop the sabotage and just keep doing what you've been doing because obviously it's working. And as for her, I'd focus more on the idea of congruence. If she was drawn to a confident, unapologetic, self-assured guy why would you deprive her of that?

This sounds like very early days, where the expectation of exclusivity seems premature. So going as far as to delete the app seems over the top and incongruent, imo. When you're with her, just respect her enough to mute your notifications and keep your phone time private. Things work best in my experience when after a period of time (several months), she asks about who else you're dating and if you want to take it to the next level. But I'm not sure if you're there yet and you don't want to jump the gun -- especially since she didn't even explicitly raise any issue.

2022-06-28T08:54:16+00:00

Hope she finds the red flags faster and dips.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-06-28T02:25:14+00:00

I don't think you lost frame, you are simply going through a new experience. You are used to playing the field and swapping women in and out of a rotation, now you ran into one that is special. It's like a bass fisherman hooking a pike for the first time. You got to throw your original techniques out the window and just go with the flow to reel it in, but that does NOT mean you lost your technique. Same goes for your frame, you acted in a way you consider uncharacteristic, which humans do all the time. Maintaining frame is essential for hookups, but for something more it is OK to be human and do things u wouldn't usually do,, or even make mistakes,, she won't judge you.. What happened here is you showed your humanity, this is OK when dealing with someone special, she will adore you more for it, not less, which is why her behavior hasn't changed. You don't need to restore frame you never lost, dealing with someone u actually like is a whole different ballgame.

Contango6969 · 2022-06-28T09:04:05+00:00

Not really lost frame you have all the options

poorwardobservations · 2022-06-28T02:06:08+00:00

Also we cuddle after sex. Is this bad? I never do this with girls, typically.

Title	Can frame be restored?
Author	poorwardobservations
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	June 28, 2022 2:05 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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