The way you do anything is how you do everything.

Default is your day to day state that you live in the majority of your time. So If you regularly feel depressed, nervous and anxious, this will become your default state.

If you feel positive and happy it will become your positive state.

The great news is that you have the power to change your state in the moment which gradually will change your default over time.

If you want to get better at anything, you have to include more happiness, laughter, and positivity into your default state.

To get there you'll have to focus on that from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed. This has to become a habit and a way of life.

How to Change your Default State:

The more social you can become in the everyday mundane interaction the more you're changing your default state to a higher energy, sociable one, and then the easier it will be to interact with women.

If you only talk to your avatar and you can’t have a small talk with the middle-aged cashier at the store, you will never be able to magically turn on the switch and get into a good state with an attractive woman?

Take responsibility for your default state at any moment and make sure to add some laughter, joy or fun in each moment. These moments will compound over time and change your general default state.

Tips:

Set a reminder every 30 minutes on your phone,

Keep your favorite comedy skit nearby and play it

Smile to yourself, laugh, if you can't laugh then force yourself, join a laughter group in youtube,

Play music and dance it off

Send "i miss you" text to an old friend or family member

Stand in front of the mirror and make faces, can you still make yourself laugh?