Day 1 of meeting girls (June 2022)

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-06-03T10:52:43+00:00

It’s great your taking action!

What is your mindset after each interaction? Are you caught in self judgement at all? Does it feel weird? Are you questioning yourself at all? Any negative thoughts?

I only ask because it’s common to be caught in self judgment after approaching. If so, work on adapting a mindset to switch that to all positive thoughts. It’s an inner game skill.

Have you considered approaching lots of people, not just women? Taking to random people can warm you up so when you approach women you do it with momentum. Getting in a flow state can greatly improve your approaches.

Have you tried hit and runs to practice direct approaches? Something like, “excuse me, I know this is random, but I just wanted to say I thought you look really nice today. Have a nice day” and then walk away.

Also realize that when you don’t care about the outcome, and your focus is on chatting and having fun, most anxiety will probably go away. Consider viewing a good interaction as you conveyed your personality and had fun talking to the girl. Not so much about getting the girl or her contact info.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-06-03T13:45:32+00:00

Her: Oh so u dont want to go to the library, what brings you here?
Me: Yeah I just keep saying I want to go to the library but I am here to meet people haha.

(Wrong, you should say you want to meet her, meeting people forces you to go into platonic mode, which doesn’t build attraction. You are there to hit on her, just on her, not to meet people. It doesn’t matter if you are talking to more people, she does not need to know that.

Me: What brings you here?
Her: I am waiting for a friend
Me: Oh how do you know your friend?
Her: Same school I mean she was from my previous school not the one that I am in.
Me: Oh yeah I also meet my friend from my secondary school, we have a gang that we still meet each other.

(Wrong… This is boring talk, she didn’t ask you how you met some friend of yours… So why are you telling her that if she did not ask? She is most likely not gonna be interested)

Her: Oh

(She says “oh” because she did not ask therefore she doesn’t care)

Me: Nice glasses btw, its like those circle korean style ones not like those ugly square ones for older people.
Her: Yeah I got it from my friend's shop.
Me: “Oh wow your friend works as a optimetrician?”

(Your problem here is that you are not making the topic get into personal territory, you are talking about impersonal things.

By that I mean that rather than focusing on her personality, her feelings which is what you should be doing, instead you are focusing on external things like her friend, her friends job, your friend, her shirt, her glasses, her clothes,…

You never tried to get into how she feels about it, how she feels about her friendship. or what she values most, or how things make her feel…

Women connect with others by sharing emotions, feelings, experiences, sensations,…

Her: Yeah

(There is clear lack of connection because you keep making things impersonal)

Me: Your shirt seems really hot.

(Instead of changing topics again, you could have said “I feel like you and your friend seem to be pretty close, you seem to value people who are loyal”… That would get her to talk about herself, her values, what truly matters to her. Which gives a better opportunity to connect.)

Her: Its ok, other people also wear
Me: Really?
Her: See they also got wear
Me: What clothes do you prefer to wear most?
Her: I dont know I like alot of different types
Me: Would you wear a spaghetti strap top?
Her: Nope
Me: Too revealing is it?
Her: Yeah

Lastly, the entire conversation turned into an interrogation, you keep asking question, after question, after question,…

That’s not how you have a conversation with someone, that is uncomfortable and forced. This isn’t an interview or an police interrogation dude.

Title	Day 1 of meeting girls (June 2022)
Author	phuasjn
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	June 3, 2022 10:03 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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