Hello, I 24M have been out in the dating scene and so far I'm having great success at approaching, getting numbers and escalating by going on dates. The problem? The relationships don't last too long, either for a few months or for a single night. Why? My theory is that I don't feel any genuine love towards these women and they either stop seeing me or I stop seeing them and I believe the cause of this could be because of my abundance mind set.

When I got into dating I was always read to avoid onetits and to date multiple women at the same time which I have been doing. A girl ghosting you? No problem just swap over to the next. A girl cancelled her date? No problem just arrange with another. At this point I have become so desensitised to approaching and dating women that it's making me emotionless robotic even and so I thought back to the first girl I ever genuinely loved to see if I could figure out how to recapture the feeling of falling in love with someone and, in my opinion onetits is the answer.

I was 18 at the time so naturally I didn't have much experience with women and had oneitis with her. Always awaiting her texts. Wondering when she would be free to do something and because she was the only girl I dated. I invested so much into her which would have been difficult if I had an abundance mind set and dated multiple women then. Like investing all your money in a single company. You grow attached to the success of the company and you want the company to succeed. Whereas if you spread your money across 10 different companies and 1 company goes bankrupt, who cares?

In conclusion, from my own personal experience abundance mind set seems to work for short term hook ups whereas onetits seems to work better for something more serious and long term.

TL;DR - Oneitis = investment = Emotional connection = love