Beautiful women are miserable

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-26T06:42:44+00:00

Too much to read. Summarize this in a paragraph and re-submit

James_Cruse · 2022-10-09T06:17:56+00:00

I like your writing and some of this is certainly correct. I’ve been approaching and seducing women for more than a decade and I have been with some seriously physically attractive women.

I honestly have to say, I haven’t found this. Do you live in America? It would explain this perspective because I don’t believe this tratement and mindset of extremely attractive women is common in the Western World (outside the USA). It also sounds like the attractive women you’re referring to are perhaps above 25 years old or even 30.

Most attractive YOUNG women (18-23 years old), this isn’t the experience, from what I hve seen.

The main theme I’ve seen from really hot women and their past is; 1. They get looked at everywhere the go and everything they do, but it is subtle.

When I’m with them and I go elsewhere, me will usually approach them in my absence, even though they know I’m with her. I see her trying politely to get rid of them, successfully or unsuccessfully.
They do feel like they got their jobs less on merit and more on looks. I’ve found this is generally true, to a point. I know plenty of pro recruiters, and people that I’ve worked for that admit they had several candidates that were about the same or were near each other and chose the much more attractive (and taller, in the case of men) candidate. This is very commonplace. If there is a moderate or even more than moderate difference between candidates, employers will always choose the most physically attractive one.
They never get catcalled or offer to get purchased or yelled at or have desperate pathetic and insane men approaching them. Again, I’m in Australia and have been to Western Europe and never seen this, so our culture may be different to your US culture. They do just have alot of men that are interested in them, outright or secretly and they can’t really trust any man or their intentions, outside of their family members. I also never see their “beta boyfriends” acting that desperate, they would never date them in the first place in that case - as why would they? They can replace him in a heartbeat for that desperate, needy silliness.
Alot of the downside of very attractive young women, in my experience is that MANY (not all) have been “Alpha-widowed”. Due to their incredible good looks, they have generally already peaked and dated the absolute alpha they’ve ever met and most times they can’t believe (correctly or incorrectly) you could ever compete with their previous boyfriend. A great public example of this is Miranda Kerr, the model from Australia. No matter who she dates or marries (a littany of Billionaires, Orlando Bloom, founder of Snapchat) she genuinely beleives none of them can compete with her high school boyfriend that died of cancer.
I don’t see attractive women here actually in a relationship with “beta men” so to speak. If they can’t get a “alpha” man to commit - they usually settle for a wealthy leader or a very physically attractive man that may not be an alpha but is close. That’s why alot of men think extremely attractive women only go for “hot men”. Very attractive women only settle for them because they can’t get the “alpha man that got away” to commit.

I think this point comes down to - they are only the “extremely attractive woman” on the dating market for a few years and then they age out of that top most desirable woman because younger women than her then fill that position she once had. Men are more attacted to youth than absolute great features, which is why they often can’t get another alpha that competes with their previous alpha now - they aged.

Hot women, in my experience do have several or a few friends that have known them since they were children, female or male. They’re the only female friends they trust, generally.
Most of the “damage” I see in very attractive women is that the messages and things they hear from other people in their lives, the media, television, hollywood, the men they interact with is that there is a vast chasm between what they’re told and their actual lived experience.

It’s a deep almost cognative dissonance that is mentally troubling to them because what they are told and what they actually experience are so difference that it throws their mental being off tilt when they have to reconcile the both of them together. This is where alot of mental illness actually comes from, in my experience. They feel like they can’t trust anyone, people are all lying to them and no-one knows what they’re going through because they don’t have the attractive looks or potential sexual power or vast attention that they have. The other atrractive women, as you said, are greatly threatened by her so she can’t talk to them. Therapy and psychologists don’t help (they’re not hot women) and their male friends (beta orbiters) and most of her boyfriends are all lying to her because they want to have sex with her so she gets no true, honest and genuine feedback from her PEERS about her life or her behaviour. All of this is extremely stressful and all the more reason for their mental instability or consitancy.

The biggest one - many very attractive women live in the positive delusion that they, whether through their personality, hard work, or merits got everything and their acheivements from this merit. They believe the way people treat them is MOSTLY due to this also.

However, once they get to 27 or 28 years old on to about 35+ depending on the woman, around then is when they start to feel the world is alot less “nice” to them.

They feel people, not all, but more people dismissing them, being not very nice or less nice, their career starts stalling, people aren’t paying alot of attention or much less attention to them, people don’t randomly talk to them, they don’t really get any free stuff, less or no free drinks, no free tickets to events, her friends stop inviting her places or are selective about it (due to them all being married with kids and still threatened by her), they talk to men at bars/clubs/parties/events and they turn around and that man is talking to a younger woman and they often begin to blame feminism or just men for this.

The real reason for it though is like I said above: they got older. They’re still very attractive and with excellent features, but just older and alot less youthful.

Obviously NO-ONE points this out to these women in plain words and again, they can’t figure out why this has happened. Which further makes them resent men, the world, other women and their mental health further declines. At this point - these women still are pining for a guy like their first “alpha male” and none of them are interested in her anymore - they’ve settled down or they prefer younger hotter versions of her.

The part about guilt that you mentioned - I have seen many men try to guilt very attractive women with silly non-sense but the guilt trip type seduction is a standard desperate play for loser guys anyway.

Title	Beautiful women are miserable
Author	Woujo
Upvotes	11
Comments	2
Date	April 25, 2022 2:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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