Is it ethical to approach girls indirect ?

mightymite88 · 2022-04-03T05:13:39+00:00

i have no idea what you mean by indirect. but if you like someone; be direct. value your time.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-04-03T06:07:24+00:00

When it comes to ethics, I like to ask the question "Does this behavior harm the other person?"

With indirect approaches, the answer is categorically "No" in my opinion, and so I think it's perfectly ethical.

Dishonesty can often times be the most ethical choice. You might have noticed that if you go around speaking the real truth that is on your mind, people will very quickly get offended and think you're a rude asshole. Dishonesty is often a social lubricant. We need it, it's part of normal social behavior.

If I was 100% honest and I walked up to a girl and said "I think your face is hot and I was just imagining what it would look like with my cum on it" I am honest, but also unethical because such a comment might make the other person very uncomfortable and feel violated in some way.

So when it comes to ethics, always ask yourself if it will harm the other person. Being dishonest about certain things, can harm the other person. For example pretending you want a long-term relationship when actually you just want a one night stand. But hiding your romantic or sexual interest isn't harmful in itself. Everyone does that all the time and it doesn't harm anyone.

max_insa · 2022-04-03T09:45:38+00:00

It's a waste of time since you will have to let her know you like her at some point. So why wait?

slamar85 · 2022-04-03T09:46:02+00:00

You can start the conversation with an indirect opener but your vibe and intent should be direct. Indirect buys time and allows you to evaluate her as well to see if you even like her etc.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-04-03T11:16:56+00:00

What arr you talking about? You mean be a Nice guy?

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2022-04-03T19:06:39+00:00

The real goal here is to only be dishonest with words, but very honest with non verbal communication and subtext. You want the girl to know you’re approaching her because you’re romantically or sexually interested in her, but you don’t say it with words. You say it with intonation, body language, eye contact, etc. A lot of guys in the beginning will do indirect approach and actually act out what they’re saying instead of the real intention, and then they are genuinely being deceptive which is no good for either party.

If you’re a beginner do exclusively direct approach. It is the less effective of the two techniques, but more effective than bad indirect approach. Once you get good at direct approach, you will understand much better how to do indirect approach. Also look at todd V dating when he describes “man to woman” interaction. Direct approach sets that up for you right from the get go. With indirect approach you have to be subtle and attentive enough to your own body language and intonation to ensure it’s communicated through it, its much more difficult (but more fun).

Eventually you’ll get to a point where you’re unbelievably brazen with your body language, but it’s all under a veil of plausible deniability in speech, and this is great fun.

Title	Is it ethical to approach girls indirect ?
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Date	April 3, 2022 5:07 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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