any of you guys ever go to night clubs or bars by yourself?

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-04-02T13:38:50+00:00

You know you can just say:

“My friends are on their way”

(If big and packed club) “I lost them in the crowd”

“My friend just left (with someone).”

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-02T16:43:02+00:00

What a girl likes is irrelevant, what matters is that you are comfortable in your own skin. Girls will always test you on any “flaws” you may have to test your character.

Is there something objectively wrong with going to a bar alone? Not really. Whoever says “oh being alone in a bar” is bad that’s just a subjective opinion.

Why is it bad? Because you are not like everybody else? Then why is “not being like everybody else” a bad thing objectively speaking?

Who says that you have to be like everybody else? And how is “being just like everybody else” better than being different? Who can actually have the superior right to judge that? No one.

It’s all subjective mate. This is what’s called having a frame, aka the narrative.

You are in a seduction subreddit and one of the basic rules of seduction is having a solid frame, solid narrative.

Your narrative is that “being able to enjoy yourself in a bar without the need of your friends is perfectly fine, fun, and something others are probably jealous of”
A girl might test your narrative by trying to impose her own frame which is: “Being by yourself in a bar makes you a sad loser who doesn’t have any friends and thus can’t have a good time”.

Example of a shit test a girl might throw at you:

She: “Why are you alone, that’s weird”

If you go defensive or trying to justify yourself you lose because you are deep down accepting her narrative (her frame)

You: “Thank you, but i prefer Mister weird, you seem like a cool person too”

What did you just do here in this answer?

You reframe the narrative, you misinterpreted her words as something positive.

“weird” was supposed to be an attack from her, but since you believe being weird is actually a good thing, then you thank her as if she had said it as a compliment and also compliment her back.

She would of course be kinda confused because she is expecting you to be embarrassed, but you however are being completely comfortable in your own skin, and free of your ego. You are showing her that you don’t take yourself or her so seriously, and that changes the dynamic.

She begins to think “ok he things being weird is cool or something to be proud of” and the more she thinks about it the more she begins to realise that maybe it’s not that big of a deal to be “weird”, or that being normal and like everyone else is necessarily better.

In fact she admires your courage and balls because she knows she wouldn’t be able to go alone and enjoy herself, even if she wanted to.

You need to hold your frame, that whatever your situation is, whatever your “flaws” are, you are happy with them because you accept that’s who you are and you choose to believe that you are enough no matter what other people say.

She: ”But why are you alone?”

You: So i can shameless flirt with observant girls like you

She: I have a boyfriend

You: “I used to have a boyfriend too… but then I met you and went back into the closet”

MK2718 · 2022-04-02T13:55:07+00:00

How to go out alone to socialize

The primary key to going out alone is to not be self-conscious about it. As long as you do not think that its weird, neither will the other person. It's only when you try to cover up the fact that you are alone and come off as being embarrassed about it, that it hurts the interaction.

Simply tell the truth, but with a strong confident frame when asked questions such as "Where are your friends?" E.g. "My friends didn't feel like going out tonight, so I came alone."

You will be surprised how often the other person may actually be impressed by your self-confidence.

When it comes be being out alone (or really anything else for that matter) do not feel the need to qualify yourself. Becoming defensive, acting ashamed or actively qualifying yourself are all unattractive traits that you want to avoid.

The ability to go out alone will free you from being reliant upon others and will allow you to take your self-improvement journey fully into your own hands.

Markyy47 · 2022-04-02T09:40:34+00:00

Loners ? Do you know how much courage that takes? If anything it’s attractive….unless of course you act completely awkward and weird. That’s just my opinion

Edit: I used to do that when I was 18 but I stopped because I’d rather spend my time bettering myself and then go into the dating scene. (I’m 20M)

Velociraptor2018 · 2022-04-02T14:22:29+00:00

I'm in the same boat, I've tried a few times and gotten some numbers but nothing has really come out of it as of yet. No texts back or anything. From what I know, it's an issue with my approach and I'm making mistakes i dont even know I'm making. It's kinda like playing a difficult game with no tutorial imo.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-02T14:25:19+00:00

All the time. Stay at a club all night by yourself no matter how awkward and afraid you are and you will walk away with superpowers. But you MUST stay until closing time.

2022-04-02T14:53:41+00:00

I tried this a few time but I was too much in my head. I started over thinking and became self conscious. Ended up drinking to help loosen up and ended up drinking too much and then I was really too drunk to try and meet people.

The only advice I can give it don't go out too early to a bar/club. One time I got all dressed up and what not. Showed up to my favorite club and it was literally empty. Better to show up late when it's already packed than to stand around awkwardly for people to arrive.

2022-04-02T15:12:51+00:00

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