Do you think timing is important in dating?

mercush · 2022-03-17T17:15:44+00:00

Yes, timing is absolutely crucial. Women lose interest all the time, just take a look at a couple of threads in this subreddit and you are guaranteed to see a post about women losing interest due to timing.

There's another thing in your story. You bought a plane ticket just to see her? I assume you met her online? And she knows you're coming just to see her?

One of the most important things in dating is for it to feel pressure free for the woman. If you buy plane tickets just to see her it puts pressure on her and also makes it seem like you don't have a lot of other options to meet women which is not attractive.

BatBottleBank · 2022-03-17T18:13:12+00:00

She wanted to know you as a friend and realised that you were looking at her in an unreciprocated way. She doesn’t find you attractive.

olishiz · 2022-03-17T17:12:26+00:00

And to put in context: the amount of conversation happens just like: a mini text in Instagram. Commenting about stories and everything. She’s just sound nice and that’s what I like about her. Man, idk rejection just feels like shit and I use pornography to cope with my sadness 😔

olishiz · 2022-03-17T17:44:38+00:00

Damn you bought tickets to see her and she's going silent on you? That sucks man.

If I were you I'd not be pushy on trying to get her to respond if she's going cold. Give her space and wait for her to reach out. She could come around.

If you can get your money back for those tickets:

Do it right now.

If she comes around and reaches out, be cordial and polite with her, even act like nothing happened at first. When she brings up the plane tickets, tell her you were able to get your money back. Be super careful about investing again like that. If she asks why you cancelled the flight, simply explain that you felt she lost interest. If she wants you to come see her again, tell her you'd be more comfortable with her coming to see you. If she has half a brain, she'll agree to that.

If you can't get the money back:

Take the trip and stay in a hotel. Make a dating profile and meet people. When you're on vacation you can have a lot of fun. See if you can hookup. Hotel bars are great for that.

Don't push to meet up with her when you're there. Don't even mention it to her unless she asks.

There's a chance she may reach out while you're there and want to meet up. In that case, take it.

mightymite88 · 2022-03-17T18:22:41+00:00

Timing is vital, but don't book a plane just to go on a first date with someone

Title	Do you think timing is important in dating?
Author	olishiz
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	March 17, 2022 5:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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