I understand this may sound like a dumb question but I have been in limbo for years as to why I don’t have much succes with women. Shortly put, I check most of the boxes. I look quite good, tall, brought shoulders, dress well, strong personality, funny etc etc. Yet, although I have noticed women are attracted to me once in a while, for example in clubs or simply in daily life, it never works out when I am the one attracted to the woman. At first I thought it was due to a lack of the aforementioned traits, but having worked on myself for years I still dont have much succes. So I was thinking yesterday, what is someting I still feel anxious about?: physicality. From putting my arm around her to kissing, my mind goes crazy with what ifs in the moment. Interestingly I am naturally quite a physical person, I love hugging for example, but when it comes to women I like I have this insane blockage. It could be that I somehow distrust my own feelings on this. Even towards my own mother I struggled a lot with expressing myself. For a long time when she hugged me this stressed me out. Completely irrational because I know she means well and its even something I like if not for the weird stress I feel about it.

So who knows, maybe this is the thing thats holding me back most. Maybe I should trust my instincts more? As in, when I feel the moment is there to put my arm around her, maybe I should trust that feeling? This reminds me of what Mark Manson said: when you feel like you can kiss her you probably could have half an hour ago. To finish, any tips on how to overcome such anxiety?