Fwb ghosting after asked out

ShampooMonK · 2021-12-31T22:09:36+00:00

Hey, I have this girl who comes here once or twice a week. We have great sex and we got very close together and intimate last time. Since then we communicate much less, she won’t return my calls or texts.

When FWB's start to ghost you, it could mean any of the following:

Sex wasn't great - or you were too much of a selfish lover. I couldn't care less if I cum, I enjoy making women feel great.
You became too clingy or attached.
Started displaying signs of wanting more or boyfriend terrority.
Turned her off with something you said
She might actually be catching feelings for you, but isn't interested in anything at the moment.

There could be a multitude of reasons why, but the problem is she isn't satisfied nor getting what she wants out of this relationship.

In FWB, there are several rules to follow:

Have sex every time you hang out.
Try to limit how much time she stays over/sleeps at your place/cuddling as it can invoke feelings of intimacy + releases oxytocin.
Keep it once per week.
Ditch any cutesy 'couple,' stuff. You guys AREN'T DATING, you're just both fuckin'.
DO NOT SPEND HOLIDAYS TOGETHER! YOU ARE NOT A COUPLE!
When she wants to go, let her go.

I called her to let’s do something on NYE and now even worse haha. It’s not like a purposed her to marry me.

Yeah, you kind of fucked up here in my opinion.

What is the true definition of a FWB? A no-strings attached relationship in which you both fulfill a need and have sex every time you guys hang out. I've seen people take their FWB's out to dates and holidays, and I smfh at that. Because then they get confused when the woman they're with starts asking what the nature of their relationship is...

And, no shit they're confused, because you're giving them the wrong signals.

I'll say this for any future FWB's that may come down the line, OP.

DO NOT ASK THEM to hangout for Thanksgiving, Christmas, NYE/New Years or any other holidays. This signifies or is breaching towards boyfriend/girlfriend terrority, you don't do that with someone you're strictly just fucking.

Now she won’t answer me, should I just give her space and not contact her for a week unless she contact me?

She want no string attached and she’s very affectionate to me which confuses me because none of my fwb been like this with me. Also I just really miss having sex with her.

Honestly, mate it kind of sounds like you're starting to catch feelings for her, (AFAIK I could be wrong,) and I do think that she probably caught on to that possibility and is trying to remove herself from leading you on any further.

That being said, let her contact you to avoid making it awkward. She stated clearly that she wants nothing serious, and as for her being affectionate, not every women or person is the same. They may treat you differently, but it's on you to discern what that means exactly.

tjohnson718 · 2022-01-01T00:53:21+00:00

My position is that as long as a woman I'm dealing with isn't my S/O or someone I'm actively pursuing for a serious relationship, there's really no reason for me to be concerned about nor continually speculate as to why she suddenly goes cold turkey. My general rule of thumb is that if a woman is unresponsive after two contact attempts or ignores/flakes on two hang-out invitations in a row, I simply move on to other prospects. This is also why I always recommend rotations for dudes who are going to go the casual dating route.

kizeemnoma · 2021-12-31T20:40:59+00:00

Give her space and let her reach out, when you reconnect remember to keep it strictly FWB, dont complicate things, you were doing everything right, control the controllable

Intelli_gent_0601 · 2022-01-01T20:18:22+00:00

Dude, you’re being a needy beta bitch! You have literally chased her out of your life, based on what you’ve said.

Your ONLY option is to not contact her again. If she reaches out for any reason, ask her to come over. Aside from that, do not contact her again or you will ensure she doesn’t come back again..

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-31T21:44:43+00:00

Sex wasn't good for her.

2022-01-01T00:12:43+00:00

Not just a week. Make no contact whatsoever and probably she will eventually come to you. Keep sending texts begging and she never going back

Title	Fwb ghosting after asked out
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Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	December 31, 2021 7:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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