So I submitted a post last time about what i was lacking, and you gets absolutely nailed it.

Quick bio, i'm 30, in law school, very fit, do 3 different sports and can talk to ANYONE. I'm extremely forward, and will talk to anyone about anything remotely interesting to me. Old, young, dude, girl, doesn't matter. My conversation skills are not lacking, i can genuinely be interested in a person and facilitate talking for hours if required.

I was having a problem with kino and escalation, and asked you guys for help. YOU NAILED IT. Escalation ladder.

Since then i've been on a little bit of a dating spree. My past 4-5 first dates have all been great. I'm forward and i go for what i want. I dont care about anything but my own entertainment, and the girls follow my lead. I decide where and when to meet up, but can be a little flexible if required.

Kino is excellent. I start with strong hugs, and immediately have my hand on her leg right off the bat when we sit down. I walk with my hand around her waist/shoulders, and escalate into hand holding. Every single time. I always turn the conversation sexual, my favorite is to ask about positions and insert her into the imagery. "my favorite position is up against the wall. What i'd do is i'd grab you (referencing her the girl) and just put you up against it."

I've slapped their butt for every date, made them twirl, etc. My last problem is going for the kiss. was successful in only 1 of my 5 previous dates. One of them put her head down and i just said "oh you're one of those girls" with a smile, turned her around and slapped her butt and said go home. Another two i went for neck kisses during the date, but never felt the lip kiss moment. Last one I didn't at all, but same same, kino, squeezed her butt and said "hm, pretty firm." etc.

finally my question is: How and when do I pull back? I'm very aggressive and forward. I do lean back sometimes and drop contact, but thats actually rare. I usually take a girl's hand and throw it around my waist while walking but we're always holding hands or touching in one form while walking/talking. Is there such a thing as too much contact? They don't pull back, and any holding is comfortable and fun. I feel like not pulling back is part of why i'm not feeling the kiss close. I'm not letting them chase.

I want to get to the point where i AT LEAST kiss close every single time. Unfortunately second dates have to wait until after finals for law school. No dates during study weeks, strict rule, so we're only analyzing my slew of first dates here.

help!

TL:DR; successful dater, many first dates, TONS of kino/hand holding, turning convo sexual. Is it too much to be in constant contact? Do I need to pull back to facilitate kiss closes?