Getting back out there.

Practical-Piglet-740 · 2021-06-22T13:57:27+00:00

Nothing we’re all going to tell you is going to help you for the time being bro but I’ve been there

There is nothing that can’t be overcome in life

Your only friend for the time being is

Time 🕰

There’s nothing that time can’t solve

Also let me tell you.

Whatever that she has done has nothing got to do about you.

It speaks volumes about her

Keep you head up and know that’s she’s just one of a billion, most definitely not one in a billion

Here you go king 👑

PowerfulTonight723 · 2021-06-22T15:20:51+00:00

She broke up with you months if not years ago, A woman before she will leave you, or let you pretend that you left her, she'll make sure that she have somebody to replace your ass.

You don't need to take them too seriously.

Just get out, place yourself in a position where you can meet women

YerpMeHoff · 2021-06-22T20:12:37+00:00

Ran some errands today and had a girl smile and make pretty hard eye contact at me though today so that felt pretty good. I said hi but that’s it cause I couldn’t tell if she was underage or not. Better to play that one safe hahaha

YerpMeHoff · 2021-06-22T15:33:25+00:00

Wow I didn’t expect you guys to all be so up lifting about it haha thanks a lot guys I really appreciate it!

GracieFairmont86 · 2021-06-22T19:54:14+00:00

It seems easy for women because they already had dudes lined up before the breakup, if not already sleeping with them, sometimes they incite a breakup for this reason, in my experience not a single woman I dated ever had to wait more than a day or 2 to get laid after breaking up and they like to rub it in too.

Just find some drunk chick and say you just broke up with someone and if she buys you shots you can give her free sex in return. Only say this to someone that you have no intention of ever seeing again and make sure she is already hitting on you with physical touching.

Best advice I can give is do what the women do. Always have other options even if u end up in a relationship (I wouldnt actually sleep with the options if committed to someone), this way if something dont work out you dont need to worry about getting back out there because you already are.

Cosack · 2021-06-22T15:10:34+00:00

Research it. Answers to this post won't tell you all you need to know.

Some staring points:

Build your hobbies and other interests (find and pursue passions!) to make yourself interesting. Figure out basics of male fashion to make yourself look appealing.

One of your hobbies has to be working out. This should be obvious. Hot people are desirable, it's a huge leg up.

Once there, start approaching. Find social functions, don't just go to bars.

Eye contact is your first screening method. Most will look away as a reflex, but those who look down and then back up at you within a minute are probably into you.

Open with a simple introduction, no need for pickup lines. Genuine interactions sell, not being creepy. Then lead into a genuine compliment about their style, something you or they can expand on.

Learn to improvise. Too much dead air will leave the meeting or date dead. Fun hypothetical questions work great as topic starters, so look up and memorize some to have on hand.

Look for open and closed body language in conversation as an indicator on whether a topic is working (this isn't a hard rule, of course). On your part, stay open and lean in when they say something that excites them. Don't forget to balance eye contact in conversation; hold it longer than you would with friends, but do look away now and again so you're not coming off creepy.

Stick to your truths and values. Don't be a yes man. Still, be mostly positive.

Don't bring up your ex. Duh. You'll want to vent, but don't. You're there for the new person.

Escalate with physical touch gradually, look for responses. If they close personal space, reward them with affirmation/escalation.

Match their energy with pretty much everything.

Look up how texting + losing interest work. Find the balance.

Finally, apps... They're a supplement, but a difficult one to use. You'll need to start off with very polished profiles if you want to get anywhere at all on there. That means taking literally hundreds of photos to find your absolute best few. Read up on what that takes, and don't forget about prompts/bios. Still, even if you do everything right, don't hang your hat on these apps. The interactions are a result of bizarre economics and can leave even the most impressive people getting the coldest treatment.

Good luck, have fun, and remember that things ended for a reason. There are better people out there, they'll just take time and many mismatches to find.

Title	Getting back out there.
Author	YerpMeHoff
Upvotes	12
Comments	16
Date	June 22, 2021 12:47 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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