No love no séx can make you the more sad, miserable angry person of the world.

DB_Helper · 2021-06-18T14:02:51+00:00

It's tough going without sex and feeling unloved. I've been there too, ave is a tough not to crack. And an appropriate response is to move toward that pain, push through it, and stay doing things that make you a more desirable sex partner (better sexual know how, mindfulness, validation, empathy, etc.) Ad avoid doing things that make you a less desirable sex partner (sulking, resentment, desperation, etc). Unfortunately, for many people their learned instinct (actually a response learned in childhood that they've been doing so long that it feels like instinct) is to do the latter. In fact, it's necessary to do so to maintain the sexlessness.

No sex and no love can make you the saddest, angriest person on earth.

This is true for everyone who hadn't yet learned how to regulate and take responsibility for their emotions. Their emotions are literally controlled by the people around them and the situation they're in. If you're in that camp, it's important to know that you don't have to stick with the emotional lessons your parents taught you. Although children accept them as absolute truth, you can change your reactions as an adult through a process known as reparenting.

But you need to be careful. Having a significant other in your life is very rewarding. It can be a wonderful experience, and your sadness at not having that option is very valid. And the anger, while likely misplaced, is a potent source of motivation and energy for self improvement to get you where you want to be.

Many times I try to occupy myself with many different things but at the end of the day when i go to home i am thinking how beautiful would be if i had the woman of my life next to me.To sleep together,to cook together,to have shower together etc..

Those are some of the great parts of a relationship, and there are many others. There's also the hardships of not having the freedom to do whatever you want at any time, of arguing and conflict, of taking care of them when they're sick, and sharing your space with a partner who had dieter ideas about cleanliness and tidiness and what to eat. There are good sides and bad sides, but in the whole, relationships are a good thing.

Loneliness is one of the worst feeling ever.

Yes it is. We're not ment to be alone, and that loneliness is another potent source of motivation to seek out social interaction.

But being alone doesn't mean you have to feel lonely. And being in a relationship doesn't mean you won't feel lonely. It's important to address the loneliness as a separate issue from being alone, since you can cover to let the loneliness drive you to take actions that being you closer to others or drive you more distant.

It really hurts. And it hurts even more when you try really hard every day 4-5 hours on street and bars and you cannot find any girl.

All the effort in the world won't find you a partner if you're just doing the same ineffective strategy over and over. You're just practicing how not to find a partner until you're an expert at it.

Suppose you were to come upon someone in the woods working feverishly to saw down a tree.

“What are you doing?” you ask.

“Can’t you see?” comes the impatient reply. “I’m sawing down this tree.”

“You look exhausted!” you exclaim. “How long have you been at it?”

“Over five hours,” he returns, “and I’m beat! This is hard work.”

“Well, why don’t you take a break for a few minutes and sharpen that saw?” you inquire. “I’m sure it would go a lot faster.”

“I don’t have time to sharpen the saw,” the man says emphatically. “I’m too busy sawing!”

From Stephen Covey

I just wanted to tell my pain to someone..Just this..

That part I get and it hits home for me. I hope your day gets better from here.

rachit-19 · 2021-06-18T14:58:23+00:00

I survived 22 years straight without sex. What you saying dude😂

appmanga · 2021-06-18T12:58:06+00:00

Part of having success in any arena is to work from knowledge and strength. One of the things you have to know is whatever is it you're doing, it's not working. What are you doing/not doing that's making your approaches non-successful? Do you have an idea?

Are you using your strengths to your advantage? Do you know what your strengths are? What are you doing in terms of self-improvement? Why should any woman want to spend time with you? What do you have to offer that captures her imagination and interest?

Being sad and angry isn't attractive, and women pick up those traits. They have a preternatural ability to sense negative vibes like this, so stop being sad and angry. Find and do things that make you feel good for no other reason than it's something you're doing for you. You can develop the persona of a person other people want to know and be around. And some of what you need to do will have to be developed until you transform.

I'm giving you a link to a video, not because I think you should necessarily buy into what's being put forward, but as an example of there being all types of resources that can give you ideas and concepts on how to change how you feel about you, how to be more successful at your pursuits, and just about anything else if you're willing to have an open mind, open ears, and apply yourself.

Put aside the pain and go to work.

Good luck.

2021-06-18T19:53:44+00:00

Stop looking in the bars...

Helpful_Stock_8084 · 2021-06-27T15:09:24+00:00

Finding the right one seems to be the problem this days. I have been taking my time all this while to look for the right man that we will be together till death do us apart.

Title	No love no séx can make you the more sad, miserable angry person of the world.
Author	SDFFDS1
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	June 18, 2021 12:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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