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How do I become a player?

DludluDOTcom · 2021-06-16T22:18:47+00:00

Like what general tips do you have for me, I am introverted and don't talk much, also I am average in terms of attractiveness. Where should I go to...

DludluDOTcom

June 16, 2021

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Title	How do I become a player?
Author	DludluDOTcom
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	June 16, 2021 10:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/o1h6ok/how_do_i_become_a_player/
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[–]Odd_Elegance 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]DludluDOTcom[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Pretty much copied this response but this sums up what I'm thinking now. I am honestly very lonely, I have close friends but we live so far from each other that I barely see them, as I said I'm quite introverted so I don't have many friends where I am now. I have always been the one in my friend group who hasn't had a girlfriend. Most people acknowledge that I could get a GF if I really wanted one and a decent number of girls have had crushes on me, but after spending so much time on r/surviving infedelity and other similar subs I am afraid of what women can do when they don't get "enough attention" or if they are terrible people and just hide it well and I don't want to get attached to someone only for them to do something unacceptable like cheat on me because I know that even if I do the right thing (leaving them) itll still hurt. Also I am only still 20 years old and finding the girl that I will marry now isn't an option for reasons mentioned above. Maybe I phrased the question wrong. Instead of being a player what I really want are female friends who I am sort of close with but sleep with all of them. Like a friends with benefits situations. What do you think.?

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Yes. Tbh if you are 20 and have to ask this then you aren’t and will never be a player. Although our definitions of player may be different.

Unless you are absolutely ugly you could still get a handful of girlfriends at the same time and try to keep them from one another, but don’t expect to just go out to a bar and pull one night stands. We gotta work with what we got. That’s my strategy, I try to keep 1-2 women around as “long term” girlfriends at any given point in time since I am also burdened by being average looking so I can’t just pull women off of Tinder or at the bar for a quick fling. Gotta play the long game. I prefer this too because I still get consistently laid, and have physical affirmation and at times emotional support. Plus banging one chick and then calling another one over in the same day makes me feel like a player.

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[–]TrendingPineapple 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Online dating is great, and using the Meet Up app to check out events. I try to meet through mutual acquaintances as well (not friends but acquaintances, though, because you will be playing these women and that can make friendships complicated).

The idea is to portray yourself as a normal guy looking for something serious. Depending on your morals this may be easy or hard for you. But honestly this is a seduction subreddit, not r/datingadvice, so something tells me most men here just want to sleep with as many women as possible.

Unlike men, women have very high standards for a FWB/one night stands. They will drop their panties in twenty minutes for Chad but the rest of us guys need to put in time, effort, money just to get a coffee date. If that doesn’t infuriate you enough to make playing them easy then you may be a natural born simp and this subreddit isn’t for you.

If you were a Chad you would know already. You clearly aren’t. It’s ok, most of us aren’t by definition. So if you really want to sleep with as many women as you can, you’re gonna have to get into relationships with them, since you lack in the looks department. Talk to them like you want them to be your girlfriend and treat them like you’re a genuine dude looking for something serious. Start off with 1 and try to balance a second one on the side. I find that 3 girlfriends or more at a time is too much to juggle and becomes very difficult to conceal, so I suggest two at a time.

Remember, if you were slightly taller or had slightly different facial features she’d be ready to give it up within a few minutes (thus the whole ONS phenomenon) - chances are she has already given it up easy to a Chad meanwhile we have to expend countless resources just to get her to sit and eat food with you, let alone sleep with you. That should help you overcome any moral conundrums about two timing her. DM me if you want more advice though.

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I am honestly very lonely, I have close friends but we live so far from each other that I barely see them, as I said I'm quite introverted so I don't have many friends where I am now. I have always been the one in my friend group who hasn't had a girlfriend. Most people acknowledge that I could get a GF if I really wanted one and a decent number of girls have had crushes on me, but after spending so much time on r/surviving infedelity and other similar subs I am afraid of what women can do when they don't get "enough attention" or if they are terrible people and just hide it well and I don't want to get attached to someone only for them to do something unacceptable like cheat on me because I know that even if I do the right thing (leaving them) itll still hurt. Also I am only still 20 years old and finding the girl that I will marry now isn't an option for reasons mentioned above. Maybe I phrased the question wrong. Instead of being a player what I really want are female friends who I am sort of close with but sleep with all of them. Like a friends with benefits situations. What do you think.?