Ruined it with a new guy(26m) because of my lack of sexual experience

revente · 2021-06-07T15:21:57+00:00

He sounds equally awkward and inexperienced as you. Just text him to schedule a next date.

can a guy be hard but not hard enough to put on a condom?

Yes happens all the time, especially with the new partner, because of nerves

If I give him a blowjob/handjob in that ocassion wouldn’t he just come and it be over? Or can I do it until he is hard enough and then put on a condom?

In theory it's best to do some oral before piv. In practice lots of different stuff can happen like going from limp, straight into premature ejaculation.

Solution: Fool with him few more times to gain practice. Once you are making out for a while, blow him a little bit and then ask him to pull on a condom and to fuck you because of feminism and metoo some guys may be scared to take charge.

And if he gets limp, it's not because you are not 'hot enough' but because of nerves- blood cannot go to an erect penis because he needs that blood in his brain to overthink xD. Let him chill for a while and try again.

ReillyDiefenbach · 2021-06-07T15:04:24+00:00

Three hours? Sounds like you weren’t the only inexperienced one in this situation. Don’t blame yourself, that’s what women with self esteem issues tend to do. He had a job to do and should’ve took charge.

skyrunner22 · 2021-06-07T18:08:42+00:00

I know the world/feminism says you should be an experienced sex vixen and that now gives you anxiety because you arent but next time just be upfront with the guy about your inexperience and it should help him understand to make you more comfortable and guide you to be more relaxed.

Most guys will be more understanding and turned on with a girl who is inexperienced.. Its no big deal but if both of you are and awkward about it, it can be difficult.. Also I feel like this goes without saying and isnt my place (more reserved for your parents or something) but if I had kids I would say its your responsibility to always make sure protection is used, dont be a passive bystander in your own life.

franhd · 2021-06-07T18:33:46+00:00

Honestly it looks to me that this guy is just inexperienced. And yes, men can lose an erection because of nerves. Question is, are you trying to see this guy again? If so, just continue communicating with him and make more plans to hang out alone again.

2021-06-07T23:28:10+00:00

My advice to you would be to just be upfront with him about your inexperience. With my first girlfriend, I had no experience at all and I was honest about it and it didn’t affect her attractiveness to me at all, if anything it raised it because she wanted to be my first for everything. Also about the erection thing, doesn’t matter how turned on a guy is, if he’s nervous or uncomfortable, it just won’t happen, happened my first time and probably happened to a lot of guys here too their first time. If anything take it as a compliment because he probably wanted to impress you, he honestly sounds inexperienced too, just by everything you’re saying.

GroundbreakingAd8077 · 2021-06-08T00:06:16+00:00

Yes a guy can be half hard, which means it's big but not hard enough for a condom. Just tell him you want him to come over and try again, believe me he will

Title	Ruined it with a new guy(26m) because of my lack of sexual experience
Author	ailg
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	June 7, 2021 2:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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