Question for guys

recyclablebanthas · 2021-05-19T08:34:41+00:00

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I always see that when you search how to seduce it is usually for men. Why there's so less content for women?

The audience that comes to this separate it won't necessarily have been around long enough to know the history of why most of the advice is for men.

The short answer is that the seduction movement was started by men, for men.

Longer answer: The seduction movement, along with this subreddit were created by men, for men, but somewhere along the line, people have realized that there's quite a bit of crossover in terms of social skills. Like the same foundational skills are the same whether you're a girl or a guy, even though the application may be different in practice for each.

Which has resulted in men and women both coming here for answers, only for the women to deal with flak when they accidentally trigger male insecurity or frustration.

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Like I may want to seduce a guy too? And we women also get rejected.

It's true that women may get rejected. And even though probably speaking, man usually approach women, which leads to women often having more options coming to them than men ever do, but not a lot of choice in terms of what options come to them.

So there are problems on both sides.

If you want to seduce a man, then you're trading one set of problems for another.

For example, a lot of guys come face to face with their own insecurity when a woman approaches them. That said, some guys go for it so if that's what you want to do, give it a shot.

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Anyways I suppose there are mostly guys here in this community?

Probably, yes.

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I want to ask them - how a woman should seduce or at least make other person attract towards her?

This is a misunderstanding about how seduction works. One doesn't make someone attracted. The basics are:

Having confidence to make moves.
Calibration / empathy to allow one to know how to make adjustments as they go.
Logistics: having a place for things to go down if one is after sex, as well as a window of time that works for both people.
Boundaries: not mortgaging your self-respect and pursuit of love and/or sex

All you can do is go see about someone and find out if they're interested through their reactions to you in a social interaction.

So the trick, if there is really one, is to do what you can to find your own self worth so that you have confidence to make moves.

And also make sure you have developed your social awareness enough to know what signature getting back in response to the things you do or say.

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What guys see in woman when they choose to date?

There's no way to answer this. Attractiveness is subjective. You just have to go out and expose yourself to new people and see who's interested and who's not.

cyrusol · 2021-05-19T07:12:30+00:00

And we women also get rejected.

Way, way, way less than men. Like orders of magnitude different.

We live in a fact-based reality. Hypothetical possibilities matter way less then real probabilities.

I always see that when you search how to seduce it is usually for men. Why there's so less content for women? Like I may want to seduce a guy too?

Because men are easy-going af.

If a woman just decides to spend time with a man, no matter the setting, and initiates some touch and the guy doesn't at some point try to remove himself from the situation all that's left for the woman to do is to get close to him and say something like "You know, I'm down for it." and smile.

Getting access to sex is not hard for women. Getting a relationship is.

CodVast9292 · 2021-05-19T05:22:42+00:00

Literally just tell a guy you’d like to hang out sometime. We prefer that whereas woman look at that as needy if a guy says it to them.

jestercake · 2021-05-19T08:30:57+00:00

Because generally, seducing guys isn't nearly as complicated as seducing women. To get a guy you basically just have to be decent looking, have nice long hair, dress nice and act really girly. Not even kidding or exaggerating. Just do those things and most guys will go nuts.

pua_max · 2021-05-19T07:28:20+00:00

Yo idk why everyone on seddit basically says hurr durr there is no female seduction whenever a post like this comes up. There is definitely female seduction and in many ways it mirrors male seduction.

Banter, teasing, and push pull applies to women just as much as men.

Making him feel “seen” ie deep diving his life and making him feel understood at a deep level.

Personally works on me - random expressions of passion about whatever they like. I’m a big sucker for girls who like books and can explain them well to me.

In my head there is definitely a stack ranking of all the women that I’m interested in and some women are drastically better bc of personality. At the very top is a girl who invited me to her place, put her ukulele in my hands and taught me to play by putting her hands on mine. I was stupid and thought she was out of my league at the time. But yeah shit like that I remember years later. I as a man want to live those romantic experiences just as much as any woman. It’s why I cold approach and pursue seduction.

WanyCaleb · 2021-05-19T07:01:28+00:00

I always thought it was easy mode on the other side, but I guess not. You could try looking up vids/stuff done by gay dudes since the same principles apply or so I'm told.

Title	Question for guys
Author	Dapper_Tart6722
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	May 19, 2021 5:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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