Non-Hamstered Explanation of Why Women Like Bad Boys

IllimitableMan · 2014-03-20T23:31:45+00:00

You can never really have him. Even if you reach a point where you officially call each other ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend,’ there is a part of you which is always on edge, unsure of what is going to happen next. The rug can be pulled out at any moment, and there is something about the unknown that can be so intoxicated. When you are always waiting, always anticipating, the moment when affection or attention or confirmation actually arrives is like a huge dose of some incredible drug.

Adrenaline from dread game.

It’s unexpected, and therefore interesting. His love remains a surprise because you can’t be sure of when or where it’s going to come.

Dread game and scarcity creates value.

There is a definite power structure in these relationships, because you rely on his affection while he could definitely be fine without you.

Stoic detachedness and outcome independence = you seem dominant, makes her moist in the loins.

Confidence is amazing. It’s like some kind of natural perfume that just radiates off of people and draws others in,

Positive energy is inherently magnetic.

It’s all about tying them down and making them your own, and being overcome with frustrated passion when you’re not able to

Trying to make a guy beta, if you win you hate it because it gets boring, but they love trying it anyway because its so much fun from all the drama and shit that happens as a result. It's like their built-in shit test.

Other women want him, too. You can see the look in their eyes when he talks to them with easy, detached confidence. You

Preselection.

His walls will come down, his emotions will come out, and he will start answering your calls on a regular basis. Maybe it’s maternal instinct, maybe it’s just pure stupidity — either way, a huge part of your love is about fixing him.

Don't fucking understand this shit.

I guess the real problem is, if you ever did really teach him how to love normally, would you still want him just as much?

No because it's too easy, boring, not enough drama etc.

2014-03-20T22:40:45+00:00

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OpiumPhrogg · 2014-03-21T01:42:21+00:00

Thanks for posting this. My 12 year old son is just starting to "like girls" and is going on his first outing tomorrow night. I just had him read this ( the reddit post not the link).

edit: changed a word (thanks auto-complete!)

1independentmale · 2014-03-21T06:20:15+00:00

It's fucked up that having confidence, doing my own thing, getting what I need from within and not falling hopelessly in love = "treating her like crap."

The way some women act, anything less than putting her on a pedestal and bowing before her makes you a player who "doesn't treat women right." Passing her shit tests and refusing to play her silly games makes you an asshole, etc. Player, asshole, bad boy, "You only want me for sex", these are her go-to lines when she can't handle you setting boundaries and standing by your principals. She's like a child throwing a tantrum because she can't figure out how to get the beta out of the box.

This used to frustrate me to no end. More and more, though, I'm amused by it. It's become something fun to watch, like a dog chasing its tail. I can see it coming a mile away and when it starts to happen I just sit back, smile and let the hamster entertain me.

apackofwankers · 2014-03-21T03:15:21+00:00

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PaulRivers10 · 2014-03-21T09:45:07+00:00

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PaulRivers10 · 2014-03-21T17:07:46+00:00

You can never really have him. Even if you reach a point where you officially call each other ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend,’ there is a part of you which is always on edge, unsure of what is going to happen next. The rug can be pulled out at any moment, and there is something about the unknown that can be so intoxicated. When you are always waiting, always anticipating, the moment when affection or attention or confirmation actually arrives is like a huge dose of some incredible drug.

What I'm really struck by is how much this models a semi-absent parent relationship. The child is always unsure of what's going to happen next. The rug can always be pulled unexpectedly at any moment. The child is always waiting, anticipating, with no control over when the parent will be there or give attention or not. When it actually happens - after a long buildup of anticipation - it's like a huge dose of some incredible drug to finally get the unpredictable attention that they want.

2014-03-20T23:29:08+00:00

Not even a tl;dr?

...fine, I'll click

MrMagwitch · 2014-03-21T07:07:17+00:00

Title	Non-Hamstered Explanation of Why Women Like Bad Boys
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Date	March 20, 2014 9:38 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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