At least I went there, thanks to you guys.. Rejected :(

Cadenca · 2012-10-28T11:22:59+00:00

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WarriorHawk · 2012-10-28T01:11:28+00:00

Definetely never just go in with a kiss on the dance floor. Girls fucking love to dance. It's a great icebreaker! PLEASE, learn from your mistake and don't feel bad about it.

Like my favorite pickup artist says, "we miss 100% of the shots we don't take". If you don't approach the girl, there's no way you'll get a chance with her. There's a better chance to build some rapport with her if you talk to her.

killerpac · 2012-10-27T23:58:42+00:00

by what you said... and from what i learned here... you are trying to move to fast.... and forceing things to happen faster than they should.... just as everything says here things should happen normally just go with the flow

sedditchallenger · 2012-10-28T17:39:10+00:00

Hey bud here's two things:

Firstly - Rejection It's not a bad thing at all. In the beginning rejection is a learning tool, you get rejected it means one of two things, she just didn't like you or you did something wrong. Booya! You get to learn a new technique and improve on your self. That's freaking great.

Also, you're a poker player so you're somewhat involved in the statistics of the game. Well same thing with seduction. If there are 100 girls at a club, you can't expect to have success with all of them. Also if you're just new to this that percentage of the ones you can have some success with is lower. So a beginner has (this is all hypotetical) lets say 10/100, you get a bit better, 20/100, you get great 60/100 you get absolutely amazing 70-80/100! And that still means 20-30 of them with reject you.. this is also just cause you just weren't some girls type which again AWESOME cause why would you want to waste any time going out on a date or texting a girl who doesn't think your her type and only to have it fall apart after a while? OR it means that you weren't in state, or used you techniques right, weren't your self etc. which also GREAT cause hey lets improve on that. :)

Secondly - What you did The goal of seduction is two things, to seduce and to do it while you're your self. Now remember to SEDUCE. If you seduce someone right she'll want you to kiss her, or ask for her number. So focus not on the GOAL but on the seduction. It's like trying to pick a locked door, you can't just say behind that door is gold and I will need to get to that gold (kiss close). And then use a hammer and be like shit it's not working and sometimes it works but I fucked up the door and hit some of the gold. And I'm not saying you butchered it that bad just a simile I'm using. So instead what you have to do is get your lock picks out, inspect it a bit, put down the first layer, then hold that and move to the second and etc. and then you here a click, slowly hold everything together and twist. And voila gold bitches gold!

So in seduction terms, spot her out, approach, take down her shields, make jokes, push and pull a bit, build that attraction, try to go for a kiss close with something like "it seems like you want to kiss me" or go for a instant date "wow this place is bad me and my friends are going somewhere come." You see? Can't just be like "Hi, I'm bob, lets kiss."

Specifics You're thinking to much about the goal. It's not about winning the hand it is about having a fun time playing poker and while your having fun getting good at playing the other people at the table. Don't say to your self I'm still a virgin I need to kiss some girl. Time isn't against you, time is helping you by saying listen I'm here use me well. And the way you use it is by trying to have FUN. Don't go and stress out about not losing it.

She asked you to dance cause she wanted to dance, and she said I'm not used to this because it was going to fast, and she was uncomfortable, it's like you're lock picking and you lose control of one of the threads, back track a bit, back up, seduce her a bit more, regain control of the thread then move to the next one.

Hope this helps bro, don't worry about your virginity, cause you will lose it and once you do if you lose it to a GF you'll be fucking SO MUCH that you'll catch up to someone who's been at it since 15. Just go have fun, and meet people!

Murrik · 2012-10-28T00:43:10+00:00

Should have brushed it off and kept enjoying your night. Sounds like her rejection might have totally killed the rest of the night for you. Your in a foreign country, approach both females and males. You most likely won't see these people ever again. Approach, approach, approach. Have fun and enjoy yourself. Don't try to rush anything especially if your prioritizing losing your V card.

Evolve_GS · 2012-10-28T15:34:06+00:00

Start at the beginning. Don't worry about getting girls "fast."

Take the first step by working on your openers. Learning the principles and practicing on a regular basis:

What You Need to Know About Openers

Seduction isn't magic. It's a skill and it takes time to learn.

Good Luck,

Evolve

Untraced · 2012-10-29T03:47:27+00:00

If a girl ever rejects you for a kiss, laugh, look away, and go back to what you were doing before. Then if she asks you why you're laughing just say genuinely, "You're funny" or "Nothing."

I've had success with a makeout on the dancefloor after two or three sentences before. You've just gotta get more practice and you'll get used to it. Keep doing what you're doing, but observe more. Look for signals that she is ready to kiss you, and signals that she isn't.

I honestly usually just wait for another poignant moment and go in for the kiss again a little later. Rejection seldom comes the second time. If it does, eject. Who cares. More women to talk to elsewhere.

Title	At least I went there, thanks to you guys.. Rejected :(
Author	Cadenca
Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	October 27, 2012 11:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/127084/at_least_i_went_there_thanks_to_you_guys_rejected/
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