I was used by a hot girl in childhood. Now I need advice on being "friend zoned".

orangeblaster · 2011-08-23T02:03:07+00:00

I've had the same experience. There's something that makes you totally fall for a girl, and if you feel that DO NOT BE THEIR FRIEND. If you are attracted to them but don't feel that certain "thing" then it's fine to be friends.

2011-08-23T00:41:17+00:00

I'm by no means a PUA, and am just beginning to get comfortable in my own skin, but I would say that you sound like you're letting this girl still haunt you.

By now, at age 20, I would suggest that you forget about her and forget about the friend zone. There's certainly nothing wrong with being friends with girls, and in fact, I think it's a good thing. You can try and look at it like this: you choose the girls you want to be friends with. And if some girl is stringing you along, just drop her.

johnny878 · 2011-08-23T03:38:13+00:00

Ive fucked all my chick friends. As long as you arent fat or completely vanilla looking, men and women friends are bound to fuck.

Coz7 · 2011-08-23T00:31:41+00:00

What do you want? that's the right choice.

razqel · 2011-08-23T01:13:32+00:00

Lovers almost always have the option to become friends, but the reverse is rarely true.

For those new to seduction, you should define a female friend as someone who is either a) having sex with you, or b) helping you hook up with other people.

Other than that, I'm not clear on what your dilemma is. When given the choice of being a friend or a lover, you choose lover because you don't want to be a friend? That's not really a dilemma. Or are you just worried about being taken advantage of by a friend who uses as a boy toy?

If you still want to make female friends without being taken advantage of, set up clear boundaries of acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Make sure you know what they are and enforce those boundaries.

I would not encourage you to make decisions out of fear. Some people (former AFCs) get hurt and do everything to the opposite extreme. But often a middle-ground approach is more healthy and sustainable for nurturing the kinds of relationships you want.

revtrot · 2011-08-23T01:23:33+00:00

What do you want in life?

What do you want in a women?

Title	I was used by a hot girl in childhood. Now I need advice on being "friend zoned".
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Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	August 22, 2011 10:19 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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