Is it a lie if she says she wants to wait to have sex while being serious with someone, yet I know for a fact she has had ONS every other weekend after her bad breakup this summer?

Gravon · 2015-11-04T07:49:14+00:00

Move on dude, she's stringing you along to be treated like a queen some more.

2015-11-04T09:22:48+00:00

For me, if I actually really like a girl I prefer to wait a bit.

Maybe she's doing the same for you.

2015-11-04T12:53:30+00:00

You went in with the frame of friend to friend not man to women. You should have shown intent gotten the hook then made her chase you. You approached it wrong and its probably to late to right that wrong if you're not highly experienced.

WayOfTheGentleman · 2015-11-04T17:07:32+00:00

You have put yourself into the 'provider male' bucket, rather than the 'fun adventurer' bucket.

The mere fact you put girls into categories of 'good girls' vs 'sluts' means that girls are not likely to let go and be slutty with you, since they don't want to be judged by you as being a slut.

You need to recognise that women want and love sex, but don't love being judged for being sexual. Read this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3p7kxk/how_to_have_casual_sex_and_threesomes_with_lots/

supermanshazam · 2015-11-04T20:58:35+00:00

"Thought she was a good girl and everything until we started talking about our past." Careful, you better not be judging her on that shit. Everyone needs some good lovin, even it's only for 1 night

sedtawy · 2015-11-04T08:09:45+00:00

This is the way the female mind works. With you she's more interested in you as a person and is developing an emotional attachment but not necessarily a sexual one. She also doesn't want to scare you off by acting slutty because it will hurt her.

The truth is that you wouldn't be in this situation if you were forward and direct with your desires and intentions much earlier. You said months in your post. Really you should have slept with her a long time ago.

You've got a bit of an uphill battle. At this point you need to ease her fears and get her to want to give in to her desires. You need to be forward and when she resists tell her something along the lines of something feeling right and why hold back when you already know you care about eachother. Needing to take the next step if this is going to keep going.... Etc. Picture those cheesy soap opera romance scenes. You need to do that. You need to appeal to her raw emotions and her sexual desires. Without making threats she needs to believe that rejecting you could mean her losing you and that accepting you is the only way that she can finally have that amazing romantic relationship she has always craved. Depending on her current level of investment, this can be tough to do.

The important thing to remember is that if she rejects you, your best move is to back off and stop validating her by treating her like a queen. She will feel like she did something wrong and this could lead to her building more investment in you which would ultimately lead to sex. Tough battle but good luck.

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