I'm in love but don't know how to get in a relationship

UndidIridium · 2017-01-23T15:46:43+00:00

Before anything else, if you are "in love" and you are not sure whether said girl is interested in you? You are over-invested, and you need to stop. Right now.

As far as getting in a relationship, the way this normally, and ideally, works is; you keep dating someone, and there will come a point where she will act all manners of weird towards you until she actually brings up the question on exclusivity.

However, you are nowhere near that point. You have other, more important issues to work on.

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-01-23T15:47:51+00:00

Seduction is a game of trial and error. If you cannot handle rejection, I do not recommend it for you.

this girl i love

I have experienced heartbreak and I can tell you that it is not for everyone. Some of the advice on this subreddit may be able to help you and other advice may not.

I will say that if you wish to practice seduction, you need to understand that there are no guarantees. The only thing I can tell you is to try. Good luck.

BestSC86 · 2017-01-23T19:29:05+00:00

You are not in love with this girl.

You don't even know her...She could be the biggest piece of crap around, the worst fuck, the worst cook and a true whore for all you know...

You have what is always referred to as one-itis which is you have an idealized fantasy in YOUR MIND as to what she is like. Here is the reality....one-itis infatuations NEVER WORK out because you are too needy and desperate for her attention. Women hate this more than anything else in a man.

Your only option is to hard next this girl and go meet tons of other women....

Jack__Knife · 2017-01-23T15:51:35+00:00

You don't [DO] Anything. She'll let you know you're in one.

t1mman · 2017-01-23T18:08:43+00:00

How long you’ve known this girl? What is the current status? How many dates / bang you’ve done?

TBH, it reeks of neediness... don’t mistake neediness for love, nor don’t mistake lust for love, those are different things. Now, the thing is, you’re high on an hormonal cocktail that your brain is producing. You have to take it easy, let yourself go and live in the moment. Enjoy the time you have together, and build something by real, concrete interaction. Not the “made-believe” scenario you are making in your head.

UoAPUA · 2017-01-23T20:31:29+00:00

You have no fucking clue what love is if you've never been in a relationship. You don't know anything about this girl. You've never laid in bed with her while she spilled her deepest insecurities. You don't know the events that have shaped her. You haven't stared at each other for hours and memorized each other's faces. You've idealized this girl. You've created a character that you could love, but this character is nothing like what this girl is truly like deep down. You think you're in love BECAUSE you've never had a relationship. You ascribe great importance to a girl that you have a crush on, in large part because you think she might actually have a crush on you too. She's not important. This relationship isn't important. This feeling is not important. She's not the one. Life is not like the movies you've been watching and imaging yourself in as the hero and her as the manic pixie dream girl. And here's the hardest truth of them all. She DOES NOT reciprocate this infatuation of yours. If she saw this post with you saying you want to marry her, she'd call you a weirdo and ask you what's wrong with you because she's not even comfortable enough with you to hold your hand, and you're over her taking about making the biggest commitment of your life. The secret to seduction is that you're not chasing a prize, YOU ARE the prize. So, are you a prize? Clearly not. You need to stop worrying about the girl you want to marry and start focusing on being the best you that you can be. Once you become a prize, all kinds of hotter girls than this will want you, and you'll stop worrying about the one and start getting laid. If you're lucky, you might get to know someone on a deeper level, and you'll look back at your old self and shake your head.

Title	I'm in love but don't know how to get in a relationship
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Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	January 23, 2017 3:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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