How do I approach a girl or inbox a girl that I have never spoken to?

Helenavonvalsa · 2015-09-14T10:34:53+00:00

We, I'm a girl and it would be creepy to receive a fb message from someone I've never talked before. Would be good if you'd be at least greeting each other. Smiles are always a nice sign. Steal glances at her during class and hold it if she notices while giving her your best smile. Flirting with the eyes is very exciting IMHO

Definitely_Working · 2015-09-14T15:03:15+00:00

dont facebook message her for the first interaction if you see them in person... that is just incredibly timid.

hardest part about cold approaching is to learn to deal with the groups of women, because they always group themselves. other person here gives good advice, and other than that i would just say go up and engage the group if you need to. ive had the most success when i immediately take over their group by being imposing and engaging all of them... that way you dont get the akward looks like you expect and they get a little thrown off by the fact that you immediately have more sway on the vibe than they do themselves. i used to be so nervous about all the extra sets of eyes while i tried to engage one girl... now i found out its even easier just to take on the whole group and make myself the most important thing going on to them. once youve won over the group collectively, then you focus down on the one you want. if you want to be able to seduce the girls you want; you NEED to learn to engage groups, because thats where they always are.

ThatSpecialPlace · 2015-09-14T16:58:26+00:00

If she's giving you IOIs, absolutely approach her. Lock eyes, smile, if/when she looks away, approach her.

You're not going to be going to school with her forever right? No, you're both going to graduate and go your separate ways. (Unless of course you close her) Don't worry about things getting awkward.

lasvegasfun · 2015-09-15T04:44:18+00:00

Do not message her on the internet when you have the opportunity to meet her in person. This will make it seem like you have no confidence to say Hi in person. Put on your big girl panties walk up to her in person and say "Hi I don't think I've met you yet. My name is BearCanoe."

2015-09-14T17:42:27+00:00

You can FB message her, and I've successfully done this before. The important part is showing her that you are aware of social dynamics. For example tell her 'I know this is bit weird but,..."

Title	How do I approach a girl or inbox a girl that I have never spoken to?
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Date	September 14, 2015 8:38 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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