As Alec Baldwin said eloquently in Glengarry Glenross:

“It’s fuck or walk pal”

Are you playing to win or are you playing to not lose?

If you’ve not seen the movie, Alec Baldwin goes into a little lesson on sales and uses an analogy that I love. I think it’s great for seduction too.

Attention - Get her attention, no distractions, that means she is squared up to you and looking you in the eyes.

Interest - Pass shit-tests, chat and vibe, she should now be interested as you’ve shown yourself not to be a total waste of time.

Decision - If sex hasn’t crossed her mind, it’s time to make her think about it, escalate. Your taking it up a notch and fully acknowledge the elephant in the room. You want to play tonsil tennis with her and she needs to decide if it’s a yea or a no. Get closer, touch, compare hand sizes and then link fingers. Anything that screams, hey dumby I’m probably about to kiss you. Mark Manson calls it polarising, you’re getting her to decide if it’s a fuck yeah or a fuck no.

Action - Seal the deal, go for a kiss, don’t be a pussy about it. She should be expecting it at this point since you introduced sex as a possibility with your escalation. If she was okay with you touching and escalating whilst she had sex on her mind, then guess what. She’s probably going to enjoy tonsil tennis just as much as you and you can take her to the nearest bedroom.

There’s no bullshit guesswork here, at no point are you concerned with whether she is into you or not, it’s about action.

You are attracted to her and want to make it physical so it’s up to you to get her to think about you in that way and take action. The assumption is she wants to fuck someone, so it might as well be you.

Alec Baldwin also said “They don’t walk on the lot lest they want to buy” (or something like that).

It’s not up to you to worry about what she wants, she’s perfectly capable of that herself and no matter how smooth you are if it’s a fuck no, you’ll know and those sting way less than you think they do. It’s actually amazing how these rejections typically play out, she’ll be thinking, he wasn’t a nob, he was pretty smooth but it’s still a no and she’ll let you down pretty lightly because you had the social acuity to do it properly.