Real Talk: How do you engage girls at a party?

YRuafraid · 2014-06-05T13:18:33+00:00

Just talk to them, the hardest part is approaching a girl and starting a conversation.. but you will never get used to it if you don't force yourself to do it. Don't worry about memorizing any pickup lines. Just go up to them and start talking and approach as many as you can until you're exhausted. "How's it going?"... "You look bored"..."You wanna get me a drink?".... something along those lines. Guys are supposed to approach girls and work for what they want, so stop thinking it's creepy. It's not creepy at all if you are confident. If you don't smile and act shy/awkward then it'll come off as creepy.

So that is your first task... approach as many girls as you can, get used to it, grow some balls, gain confidence and get immune to rejections. Then learn about inner game, escalation, and creating attraction. There is no secret I can tell you over the internet that will help you become an extrovert. You need to practice

Indianbro · 2014-06-05T15:32:26+00:00

Literally just go up and talk to them in a confident manner. Also don't break frame if they start throwing shit tests at you as its just them testing you to see your value

Bunkerman91 · 2014-06-06T00:11:32+00:00

It's all about being unafraid to talk to people. It doesn't even matter what you say. It's how you say it.

"Do I know you from somewhere? Your face looks really familiar!" Even if I know I've never seen this person in my life.

Tell a knock knock joke.

Compliment her on her pokemon shirt, then ask what her favorite pokemon is. Be sure to tell her that her choice of eevee/jigglypuff/pikachu sucks and scyther/electabuz/charizard is way cooler.

Awkward eye contac? Make a silly face from across the room and then go introduce yourself.

The point is it doesn't matter. Your random brain droppings on how to dissect a lobster are just as legitimate an opener as anything mystery or style can cook up. Just say something.

TheBadGod · 2014-06-05T14:05:20+00:00

Stand out.

I have better luck making people come to me than going to them to engage.

If you don't feel confident, fake it until people treat you like the most confident person in the room.

That being said, a clear, direct "Hi" can open up a world of possibilities. If you're in a place, and notice a gal hovering near you, darting eyes your way, just meet her eye line and say "Hello" like you would to a man.

I guess that's the "trick." Talk to a woman you want to get to know better like you'd talk to a man you could care less about.

At that point, you'll find a connection with this person, or you won't. Then you take the relationship to its end.

That end could be in five minutes or fifty years.

-i-aM-MySeLf- · 2014-06-05T23:42:43+00:00

It's not creepy. You will not come off as creepy.

I remember there was a large /r/askwomen thread where tons of girls chimed in and talked about what they thought was creepy and not creepy. Every comment said basically the same thing. Creepy is when someone completely ignores social cues, and harasses women after its readily apparent that they were quite uncomfortable. Not creepy is a well adjusted individual saying hello at a social gathering.

That's not you. I can only assume that you are a well adjusted individual at a college party who would just like to have fun talking to the girls. They will sense that, and that's a good thing. As long as your demeanor is about having fun, then you are okay to approach. As far as what to say, listen to YRuafraid. Just say" how's it going tonight?" Etc.

Just have fun, and just do it, and you'll have a good time.

RoquefortCheese · 2014-06-07T00:33:10+00:00

"Hey I like your [article of clothes]." / "Hey cool tat." / "Damn those are some bigass earings." / "Ew what are you drinking." / "Whoa check that [thing or incident] over there out." / "Hi. What's your name?"

EDIT: One more: If you're near the alcohol table, talk about the alcohol. Everyone enjoys that.

I save the "Hi. What's your name?" as the fallback. If it is a unique name, I follow up with "[Name]! What's the story behind that name?" conversation snowballs from there. Easy way to talk about family, etc.

For any other opener, use that to thread into other topics. Just act like you're having a great time.

EDIT2: Don't be afraid to change topics abruptly if it sounds like one has naturally come to an end. Short anecdotes work well. "So I've been running a lot lately . . . ."

Title	Real Talk: How do you engage girls at a party?
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Date	June 5, 2014 12:19 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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