Any of you guys never date until you were 25+? Just curious what advice you'd give me as I'm sick of feeling sorry for myself.

HappyJerk · 2014-03-30T03:20:11+00:00

Your age doesn't matter. You know how to act around women. Youre not "behind."

skinnyfatty1987 · 2014-03-30T03:35:58+00:00

You've got plenty of time brotha. Search through here for the books that are recommended. They're like gold. You also have to go out and perform.

lithiumcow · 2014-03-30T07:01:52+00:00

You're way before many many others, bro.

When you are confident with yourself then it will never matter how old or young you are when you start this journey.

I've "dated" on occasion since I was young so our situations may not be the same. I'm around your age now and what got me to the point I am at today was reading Models by Mark Manson, and a book called 7 habits of highly effective people. I realized that if I wanted to see change, and to how people treated me, I had to put my down foot and work on myself and my goals in life. I believe building a solid foundation with a correct mindset is the right thing to do.

And if you're interested: I've found a greater success with women after all this. I've also become happier and more comfortable with myself because I don't put my own values and beliefs second to someone else's. In return I'm building emotional connections with women I actually enjoy being around, rather than the opposite.

MarsayMarsac · 2014-03-30T11:05:32+00:00

Are you living in your small comfort zone day after day? If thats the case then you should start pushing your boundaries. Go out out your comfort zone just a little bit until you feel the "I don't want to do this, better go home now" feeling.

Easiest way to start would be to use online dating. That is one way to get rid your shame of virginity, thats probably holding you back more than you realize.

But still, live the life without holding yourself back, visit other countries and become independent of others, go to library and read some classics, close your computer and go out. It's not only about the girls, its the quality of your life overall.

All the sadness you have is self-imposed because you think you are not perfect and that some girl can make you perfect. Just focus on the process and forget about the outcome.

dinolz · 2014-03-30T22:03:36+00:00

25 year and in the exact same boat as you

never tried x)

don't know if it did the same for u, but turning 25 in this situation was very very very painfull ... :x

drogean2 · 2014-04-02T16:09:13+00:00

i was a hopeless introvert/nerd until i finally decided to go to that RSD week long conference in las vegas 2 years ago where 100 dudes come from all around. In my mid 20s. It cost like $1k but i decided to dive head first with zero field experience under my belt. I was so determined to get this shit handled because i was raised by a single mom and failed as a man from high school trough college while watching my friends effortlessly do what i couldnt.

During this RSD thing we went out for 1 week every single night and during the day just seminar after seminar.

I stuck with it, met some guys from my city and started going out to clubs every single weekend until 3AM with them. Finally after 1-2 years later I landed a girl - surprisingly not from club game - but had plenty of experiences with one night stands and plenty of crazy shit you hear guys doing that sound impossible

Title	Any of you guys never date until you were 25+? Just curious what advice you'd give me as I'm sick of feeling sorry for myself.
Author	zyi9
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Date	March 30, 2014 1:50 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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