I want to preface this by saying that I pass no judgement on this community I'm just looking for honest help and guidance.

So my goal is not to fuck 100, 50, or even 10 girls. I just want to be able to talk to whoever the fuck I want whenever I want. I'm tired of caring what people think about me or how they perceive me or even going over cringey interactions that happened years ago in my head.

I used to lurk this sub quite a bit back in the day and it seemed like the standard advice was to have your shit together and then the rest would more or less fall into place. Well, a few years have passed and I feel like I'm at that point, but things in other areas of my life are not really changing.

I'm in my mid-20s now and I just crossed one of my life long goals off my list. I'm working at my dream job, just bought my dream car, living somewhere I always fantasized about being. I dress like I care about my appearance, have several (albeit solitary) hobbies I'm passionate about (fitness, biking, outdoors, etc), and have been working out regularly for years.

And yet other than a few very close friends (and a now ex girlfriend) I have very little social circle. Certain people can make me cower. An off-color comment by someone can fuck up the rest of my day. I have no game other than looking attractive, approachable, and hoping for some soft-ball conversation with a girl.

It bothers me that I care about what other people think about me or how I carry myself. It bothers me that even though one day I will be six feet under I'm too scared to approach that girl at Target or that girl at the bar. Or too scared to try XYZ because I'm scared of what others will think of me.

How can I change and improve my life? Is this even a good place for me to start? Would appreciate any help.

-psssx