Anyone who has read an inch of pick-up advice will know to "not be needy".

However, you may find that advice similar to "don't be sad".

Perhaps you think neediness is an emotion that you either feel - or you don't.

If so, this guide is for you...

Here is a list of actual things you do can to reduce your neediness for beautiful women...

So, how can you not be needy?

The best thing to do is to have other girls on the scene...so you should be out meeting them as often as possible. Ideally, going out to meet new women is fun for you. This way, you're probably enjoying the interaction regardless of her responses. Also, you're not bothered between the prospect of a date with her, a date with one of your other girls or an evening of nightgame.

The next best thing is have other awesome stuff going on in your life. Good friends. Awesome hobbies. Exciting side-hustles. A life that's awesome without a woman in it!

It's attractive because that's likely to be a life a woman would want to be a part of...but also because it stops you making the mistakes most 'needy' guys make when pursuing her. Texting too often. Supplicating. Putting up with her bullshit. These behaviours tend to evaporate when you're actually not needy.

Screening to eliminate perceived neediness

Even if you have all this in place, it's easy to fall into the trap of appearing "too needy" when you first approach the woman and she doesn't know you yet. After all, you're the one propositioning her.

Open direct, then (once you've hooked her attention) screen her.

To screen effectively, I'd suggest listing five personality traits that you're looking for in a girlfriend (other than being hot) and using your opening conversation to find out if she has them.

Assumptions are more engaging than questions here.

"You look like the sort of woman who...\BLANK*"*

"I reckon you spend your weekends doing...\BLANK*"*

When you do this, you're not only armed with more things to say, but you'll also come across who isn't sold on her yet (regardless of whether this is true).

Realise hot women won't make you happy...

Having sex with loads of beautiful woman will make your life more fun. It's something that every straight man needs to learn.

But don't fall into the trap of thinking that this will make you happy.

The high of sex wears off after you've bust a nut...You eventually fall back into your default mood - and if your life sucks, that not good news.

This might be depressing for those thought mastering pick-up would solve all their problems (I was one of them) - but it's also a great realisation for controlling neediness.

The truth is: it's the other qualities mentioned earlier (friends, hobbies, passions) that raise your default mood.

And that's perhaps the most important reason of all to work on these things.

What if my life sucks?

Still go out and practice cold approach.

Girls will still fuck the fun guy who sparks their emotions and can pull them home in a smooth way.

Yet, by also working on these tactics to eliminate neediness, you'll find this process a whole lot easier.

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