The thing that I learnt is, comfort is everything. Get a girl to be very comfortable with you. To open her up, I opened myself up this time which I normally don't. Shared my stories, she shared hers and began opening up. Now I do most of the listening and she does the talking which suits me perfectly fine cuz I am an introvert. I understand what opening up is now.

Another big step for me was expressing myself. The old me would have gone about it in a round about manner, throwing out indirect statements hoping she would understand and keeping myself in my comfort zone. With this girl, I bluntly told her that I wanted to have sex with her. She said its just a phase it will pass, then started telling me about her crush, and to help with her assignments. I told her that I was feeling horny and that I would just help her one last time with her assignments (had helped draw diagrams once before), and stop calling / messaging her after that. The next day she called me up telling me that she couldn't stand to lose a good friend. I told her that I was not in love with her, neither was I seeking a relationship. I just couldn't help feeling aroused by her.

She came with her assignments to my place. I started showing her some images on my cell phone. Followed the Di Carlo escalation model. Worked like a charm. Did not have condoms on me but she still wanted to fuck. Kept getting on top of me and said she wanted it in right now! I told her I could fuck her if she took a pill straight after but she didn't want to. She gave me a blowjob, I kept on laughing and fingered her.