How do you deal with the insecurity that you're probably just one of the many guys she is texting/going out with?

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-02-17T07:04:15+00:00

If you're unhappy about not having sex already , why don't you try to make it happen ?

Tbh you're not probably just one of the guys, you actually are one of the other guys. So stop caring, there is always at least another one trying with her.

I don't get why it's a problem though. There is no such thing as rushing for sex if you make her want it fast enough.

WeigrafBeoulve · 2020-02-17T18:12:39+00:00

This is a hard one until you start experiencing abundance but you need to stop giving a fuck. Side note, why would you want exclusivity before like 6+ months of solid connection?

I actively encourage all my girls to date other dudes ESPECIALLY when they bring it up trying to probe for jealousy. Not flexing but I truly believe I'm better than any other option the girls have (whether true or not) and they sense this shit almost every time. If not, who cares? On to the next.

jz9chen · 2020-02-18T18:06:19+00:00

Don’t let your insecurities make you believe the assumptions that you come up with in your head. The thing about really attractive women is that yes we have a lot of options, but they’re usually not very good ones. Being hot doesn’t mean shit if you have a bad personality and can make even the hottest person unattractive at that point. And with having so many options, women understand that it’s quality over quantity. If she’s giving you her time and attention, why question whether she has better options? Wouldn’t she be with them instead of there with you?

glove229 · 2020-02-17T05:51:47+00:00

I completely understand. And whether it’s the truth or not, try looking truth right in the eye. Cannot change what may or not be going on her end of things... so let it go. The way I try to see it, when the two of y’all together, that’s the only moments that truly matters! So just do you!.. make your moments count and enjoy the company together. If things are meant to be, they’ll be. And the stuff that ain’t, let it go! Best of luck to ya!

subduedReality · 2020-02-17T06:44:47+00:00

Go out with more than one girl. Be honest with her about it. If she wants to be exclusive then she will be exclusive too. If she is willing to lie about it then she will be found out and only end up hurting herself in the long run.

2020-02-21T07:48:19+00:00

Who fucking cares.

You’re going to deal with that insecurity no matter who you going out with, and in the age of Tinder, it could be any number of guys. If you’re confident that you’re a person of value with options, then you probably aren’t going waste much time worrying about having to “compete” with other dudes. If you don’t believe you’re someone of value, it’s time to start thinking about what a person who is a person of value is like and working towards that methodically and consistently.

Title	How do you deal with the insecurity that you're probably just one of the many guys she is texting/going out with?
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Date	February 17, 2020 5:45 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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