How to talk to someone who has just broken up with her ex?

Psychocist · 2015-11-03T13:05:16+00:00

What do you mean you've hung out a few times before she broke up? Did she break up with him? Did you play a part in any of this? What are your intentions? Are you just looking for sex or want to embark on a rebound relationship?

Sounds messy, to be honest. The responsible thing to do would be to let her know you're there if she wants to talk, and then step back and let her grieve. Once she's come around she may or may not be interested in pursuing something with you, so date other women at the same time.

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-11-03T14:04:49+00:00

'I understand you're upset, let's meet and I'll take care of you and help you take your mind off of your troubles.'

This is very close to a common tactic I learned and is well field tested, it works astonishingly well. But it will only work if she is whining about the breakup. The phrase is "I understand how you feel, but it's not good for you to dwell on these negative thoughts." Then change the subject. Use that phrase word for word, don't change it at all. It is well crafted and subtle, it shows empathy and then derails her train of thought in a way that makes her try to qualify to you by being more positive.

deathbymidget · 2015-11-03T13:20:46+00:00

Why is this in seduction? Are you trying to sleep with this girl? In which case playing the super supportive friend is not going to get you there, especially if its insincere.

palmerd21 · 2015-11-03T13:45:02+00:00

"I got weed and liquor and ice cream. Get over here now"

Worst case scenario she rejects you then just go silent. Stop only talking to one girl at a time

CaptainCheeze · 2015-11-03T15:49:25+00:00

How long was she dating her bf for? (This is important)

Danedina · 2015-11-03T16:39:25+00:00

Go silent. She's well aware of your orbiting coordinates. She'll call you in if she needs a shoulder to cry on.

Sorry man, but I don't think you're getting any.

2015-11-03T20:14:04+00:00

I'd just say. "He sounds like an Asshole."

2015-11-03T22:58:29+00:00

I would focus on yourself or another girl.

narbilistic · 2015-11-04T00:47:56+00:00

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Title	How to talk to someone who has just broken up with her ex?
Author	icantloveyou
Upvotes	23
Comments	13
Date	November 3, 2015 11:22 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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