Be yourself, but be yourself UNASHAMEDLY and CONFIDENTLY. Don't try to hide your nerdiness, don't try to act 'normal', don't try to act like an alpha male caricature (because let's face it, if you're on /r/seduction, you weren't brought up as your typical athlete frat boy whatever alpha male). That's what people really mean when they say 'be yourself' - be a CONFIDENT version of yourself. Don't try to hide who you are. Be happy with who you are.

Recognize your strengths. If you don't get girls by standing around and looking the sexiest, don't try and do that.

And you're not hitting on girls. You're not seducing them. You're not attracting them. You're just talking to them while being yourself, unashamedly.

You don't need others people's positive reactions to get validation. You're chill, relaxed. It DOESN'T matter if other people love you or like you or think of you as a sex god or not, because YOU'RE the only one that matters - your happiness is the only thing that matters. You don't NEED anyone else, although they might make you very happy. Everything else is a bonus. Other people DON'T MATTER - if you want someone, go for them because it'll make you happy, not because it'll make your ego bigger.

You have nothing to prove, to yourself or anyone else.

Don't be upset if people don't react really well. That shouldn't affect you or your happiness or your confidence. Just keeping being happy and don't let it faze you.

Be happy, be loud, be silly, be confident, and let nothing faze you. Talk a lot.

Here's how not to try too hard: be friendly not because you're trying really hard to make friends and get people to like you, but because that's who you are.

Think the best of people. If you think people are making fun of you...so what? Who cares about your pride? Have fun and laugh it off. Don't worry about being dominant or being alpha.

Pickup should never be your priority.

There has to be CLEAR intentional sexual intent shown, physically, for there to be sexual tension. If you're interested, FUCKING SHOW YOUR INTEREST, be ASSERTIVE. There is nothing weird with showing sexual interest. But it's weird to try to hint at sexual interest. Leave no room for doubt.

Fuck man, the goal of the night is NEVER to hook up with someone. It's to have fun, and what will happen will happen. Talk to everyone and just go with the flowwwww dudddeee.

Have fun without expectations. Flirting is fun. Flirt because it's fun. Flirt without expectations.

Meeting new people is fun. Talking is fun. Expressing yourself is fun.

Smile exactly as much and as widely as you want to. Don't force a polite smile.

Breathe out and expel air with your words while talking.

A group will like you more if you hang out with them more. You're not 'cool' if you're there stone-faced and silent. Who cares if one person in a group doesn't like you?

Stop second-guessing yourself.

Don't try to impress people.

Relax your entire face.

Don't do stupid negs. Make her comfortable.

Talk to everybody to maximize your chances of finding people you connect with.

Don't make it weird and awkward.

Don't be distant. Show your new friends that you like them.

Don't be guarded.

Response to shit-tests: maintain your emotional state.

Be a value-giver - especially, contribute in groups.

Take the initiative - especially physically.

Make people feel like you like them. Because you're happy and you like people.

Own it. <-especially for shit tests. Challenge her back.

Be funny but don't try to make people laugh.

Don't "open up". Don't talk about your fucking feelings too much.

Be that teasing dick that you do so well. Your playfulness is your strength.

Treat new friends like you've known them forever. That include the taking the piss out of them, being silly, etc.

Don't give a fuck. Remember how you treat girls you're not attracted to, and do that.

"Whatever". Best mindset ever.

Stop imagining/thinking/planning about hooking up/getting with them. Actually, stop thinking about them.

Show that you don't need them or care about them. Better yet, don't need them or care about them.

Don't be too friendly when meeting people.

Don't try and impress people. Make people impress you.

You're cute, not hot.

Being 'polite' and 'normal' isn't awkward. You just have to get used to it being normal by doing it often.

Sound excited when you talk.

Don't judge people. Give yourself a chance to like people.

You don't have to be 'nice' immediately, but genuinely give you and the girl a chance to make a genuine connection (ie give her a chance to let you like her) - usually through humor.

Don't play games - genuinely enjoy spending time with people.

Be innocent. Don't overthink things.

Look for friendships not relationships.

Spend time with people you enjoy spending time with.

Don't chase a girl for her looks.

Potential friends everywhere!

Find things in common with people.

She's just human - she's just a girl.

Even if she's into you, you still have to maintain attraction.

If you're not into someone but they're really into you, get with them and give them a chance to connect with her emotionally.

Be kind to people until they break a social contract or make you look bad. Then all bets are off and you have no obligation to be kind to them.

'If it works, okay, sweet. If it doesn't, whatever.'

Kiss first, ask questions later. She doesn't have to be 100% into it at the time. Don't tease and pull back. Press steadily forward at a languid, sustained pace.

Don't look for fun. Create it. That is - don't get oneitis. Don't go looking for a girl you want (in a club) especially if there are willing girls next to you.

People don't fault you or think less of you if you're aggressive and assertive in expressing interest and trying to hook up with girls. Even if you get rejected, it's actually still kinda funny and you guys can still be friends.

Flirt harmlessly with other girls. It'll make her feel good that she's going home with a guy that other girls want at the end of the night.

"I like you because you're funny."

Assume attraction = assume that they like you, that they're not playing games with you, and more importantly - that they'll be happy and reciprocate when you show them that you like them. ie girls are easier than you think. There are less hoops involved than you think.

One of your greatest assets is that girls don't know when you're being serious and when you're joking. Use that mysteriousness to your advantage.