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| 1 | Quick, fun tip for texting girls you just met!I like it. Yes, ideally you shouldn't text too much (it's hard to advance emotionally through texting), but if you're with a girl who loves to text you can have some conversations that are really fun that way. | /r/seduction | 11/07/12 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Bit of cognitive dissonance. How do you still actively pursue women when you've assumed an "I am the prize" mindset?I think you answered your own question. Think of your actions as an advertisement to women for your product. Now ask yourself if you were walking down the street and a salesman walking towards you immediately stopped, did a 180, and caught up to you so he could pitch his product. What would he have to say in order to get you to buy? I hate to be the one to break it to you, but women look at men like objects too. They treat being hit on like they're being advertised to. Only for them their select… | /r/seduction | 10/07/12 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Brutally honest post - Lying about past relationships and lying about having sexYou're lying because you feel you have a certain image to uphold in order to be viewed as attractive to the opposite sex. Let go, man. You're fine even if you have never dated a woman in your life. If others bring it up just don't chime in. And if anyone asks, tell them you are having fun enjoying life, which it sounds like you are (that's awesome btw, a thriving social life feels so gratifying). To be honest, you will be judged by others, because that's part of life. But even if you have never … | /r/seduction | 10/07/12 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Why do people always say there is someone out there for everyone? why should I believe the right girl for me is out there? why should I believe that I will get a girlfriend? Because I have Asperger Syndrome.It's great to want things in life as long as you don't emotionally invest in them, so don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen. People don't choose to fall in love. Sometimes you love people who don't love you, sometimes people love you who you don't love. It happens. The best thing you can do is try and put your best foot forward by using some of the advice on here, and hope that implementing the techniques helps you be as hot to as many girls you like as possible. If you keep this attitude … | /r/seduction | 09/07/12 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Any advice on how to look more masculine (photo)?I can't look like Xabi. I'm a Chelsea fan, so I'll have to pick Torres :-) . I have to keep my hair in some sort of messy (not Messi lol) style. The shirt is an XS at American Eagle so that's part of the reason I shop there. It's hard to find clothes that fit me. I guess that's all the more evidence that I need to work out, but even when I was a lot stronger in the past I was never all that bigger so we'll see. | /r/seduction | 07/07/12 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Any advice on how to look more masculine (photo)?There is no hair that grows on my cheeks or sideburns. I can grow a goatee, though it's pretty thin. | /r/seduction | 07/07/12 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Why do people always say there is someone out there for everyone? why should I believe the right girl for me is out there? why should I believe that I will get a girlfriend? Because I have Asperger Syndrome.He was a guy who liked a girl. It doesn't take an angle, it takes you trying. I'm sure other hot women didn't like him (just like with every guy), but you don't have to have every girl like you, just one at at time lol. | /r/seduction | 06/07/12 02:01 PM |
| 1 | How long do you wait before calling her?I don't think there's a wrong answer as long as you do. If the girl seems like the type who is really gung-ho and wanted to keep the date going, call sooner. If she seemed to try and play it cool and reserved, wait longer. But, before you do anything watch this video, then go buy the movie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aN4w2AfkEY | /r/seduction | 06/07/12 08:03 AM |
| 1 | Why do people always say there is someone out there for everyone? why should I believe the right girl for me is out there? why should I believe that I will get a girlfriend? Because I have Asperger Syndrome.Here's the deal. Life can be a bitch sometimes. You got dealt a bad card in the game of life. We all have some bad cards, but yours happens to be on display and involves social skills. If you approach it from this mindset your options become clearer; you kind of have to embrace that which makes you unique (because it's not a bad thing, it's who you are!). Life can be swift, chaotic, unforgiving, and completely unfair. But it is always impartial. There is a possibility that you may go your whole … | /r/seduction | 06/07/12 07:53 AM |
| 1 | What do you do when you're just a really, really weird person?Thank you. I told the hiring manager straight up, "I know I can be odd, but it's my odd perspective on things that will allow me to help you more than anyone else you promote." That may have been a bit arrogant-sounding, but I sincerely believe it. If Seddit's taught me anything it's that you have to believe in yourself before anyone else does. And now I'm realizing I'm thinking too much. I need to slow my brain down and just relax a bit. Thanks again. | /r/seduction | 06/07/12 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Giving Value/Loving PeopleLower your expectations on others. We're all just a bunch of really smart animals, and when you start seeing yourself and others like that you'll start realizing that some of the demands you make are downright unreasonable. | /r/seduction | 06/07/12 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Sex: How do you get good at it?Honestly, it's just like seduction. Some of it is genetic, some people are naturally talented but most of it and more than enough for any amateur can be learned. But the best way to start is by actually wanting to be good. Then put her wants ahead of yours and you're 2/3rds of the way there. Crazy thing though. I can tell you now that if you totally devote yourself to a woman and you do get her to love having sex with you, she will do almost crazy things to get it. They're just as much animals a… | /r/seduction | 06/07/12 06:19 AM |
| 1 | [Newbie FR] Strong eye contact for the first time... amazingIt is a reflex, though probably learned and not natural. You have to eliminate what causes it. Sometimes it's a fear of something. Are you afraid of anything these situations remind you of? | /r/seduction | 04/07/12 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Female looking to entice a male introvertWhy are you afraid of coming on too strongly? Are you afraid he won't like you? | /r/seduction | 04/07/12 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Palm reading/psychic cold reading?I think using it for anything past appearing exceptionally intuitive is silly, but yeah, it works. You can really lead people into making you think that you have a sort of sixth sense. | /r/seduction | 04/07/12 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone here ever heard of the Dark Triad personality group? Do you think there's anything that can be learned from it?This is called nature vs. nurture though. It is still up for grabs mostly as to what is the motivating factor in any specific scenario. I for one tend to side with nurture, if for no reason other than I like the idea of creating my own perceptions. | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone here ever heard of the Dark Triad personality group? Do you think there's anything that can be learned from it?I knew a ton of women who watched the Avengers watched it for Loki. He's about as Machiavellian as they come. | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 08:22 PM |
| 6 | Are white knights overwhelming Seddit?Everyone just wants to be a freakin Jedi around here. lol I agree, but that attitude is in itself unattractive to most. Jedi's don't get laid. Don't be Luke, be Han. | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 08:18 PM |
| 2 | KINO is HARD.No. It won't ever seem natural at first. You'll probably come across as creepy to the person you first do it to. But once you do it a few times it will start to feel more comfortable. | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 08:16 PM |
| 2 | "Nice Guys Finish Last and Assholes Get the Girl," a Study ft. Spiderman, Tony Stark, and Rocky Balboa.Bruce Wayne > Tony Stark. As far as getting women I go with Human Torch. :-) | /r/seduction | 03/07/12 08:15 PM |
| 1 | So what exactly is Paul Janka's appeal?To be honest he came across to me like he was trying really hard. But he's also going up to random people on the street so it is hard. Did anyone else think he was forcing conversation? | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Whenever I'm with my bros, the girls always go to them and I feel ignored.All my friends get girls better than I do. All I know is if they are really your friends they'll figure out a way to make it not so bad. Either that, or just stop going out with them. | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Problem with talking too muchThey're going to think something is wrong, not because what you're doing is wrong, but because it is different. We're programmed to notice changes in our outside environment and women especially will pick up on when a talkative guy gets quiet. Hell, if they're asking what's wrong I would say that means you're doing it right. Their already slightly intrigued as to what's going on in your head in order to ask, right? | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Problem with talking too muchI'm a noob to outer game here. Is pulling and pushing super important? I know it's a strategy but is it necessary strategy or is it more just something for advanced gamers? | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Problem with talking too muchI don't know. I found as my confidence has gone up I talk less and less though, cause I'm not so interested in getting positive reactions out of people. No real reason to talk without a reason to say it. Even if that's not the case with you, that may be why talking less makes people seem uninterested. I used to talk so much I even got ADHD medicine for it because I thought I was off. But I was just so insecure I was constantly looking for affirmations that people liked me, even if it was only sa… | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Remember, never take girls' advice on picking up girlsIs this fly fishing or spincast? | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 04:54 PM |
| 47 | Remember, never take girls' advice on picking up girlsI think Gandhi said taking relationship advice from a woman is like taking parenting advice from a child. | /r/seduction | 02/07/12 02:31 AM |
| 7 | Does bodybuilding really get women flirting with you?Yes, and in some more than others. The truth is we all want to be with someone who is hot. I hope I'm not bursting anyone's bubble by saying so. But I will say in general it's not the driving factor it is for us men. To most it is icing on the cake, with good looks being only a prerequisite for something like a one-night stand. But here's the deal: how badly do you want to meet women? Would you do anything for it? I'm not saying you should kill someone or anything, but would getting women who ar… | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 07:25 AM |
| 3 | How could I have been more alpha in this scenario?"Only when you quit trying to lead will others follow" ~ Lao Tzu The practical information from that is to not focus on whether or not you acted like a leader, but focus on whether or not had fun and enjoyed yourself. If you enjoyed swimming then you made the right decision! I know you think that advice has nothing to do with getting women, but if you follow it you'll find out it does. When you start living your life doing what you want and sincerely going after what you want, people take notice… | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 07:07 AM |
| 1 | So I succeeded... but now I feel like I'm worse than beforeHoly cow you are overanalyzing the shit out of yourself. No wonder you have no confidence, no one would if they went over every inch of their character with a fine-tooth comb. If you don't want to go out, don't. But just make sure you're not doing so out of fear. I hate bars, so I don't go to them. If you genuinely don't like doing something and aren't just afraid of it then don't do it. You are being waaaaaaay too hard on yourself in general. I think the person you are trying to be is unachieva… | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Can't get her alone after I get her in my house.Sounds like the perfect invitation to get her into your room. Now it offers peace and quiet. Put a couch and TV in your room and make lemonade out of it. | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Awesome PDF research article on attraction. Wow.Its basically a social experiment on what women look for when hooking up vs. wanting a boyfriend. Its crazy informational. Start at the beginning. It tells you straight up scientifically what women look for when dating and when hooking up. It even tells how different their answers were opposed to what they thought. Guess what, it seems women lie about how much looks matter, but not as much as guys lol. I found it insanely useful. Like holy cow useful. I don't know if anyone on here is like me an… | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Don't forget: She is competing for you!THIS! Tell one woman that even a 7 or 8 is hot (even if the girl you tell is a 5), and she'll tell you they aren't and dissect that girl picking out her flaws. I always like saying stuff in front of girls telling them how hot other girls are. Because they're always such haters about it, it cracks me up. | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who open directly during the day, what is the most common reaction when you say "I thought you were adorable and had to come meet you"?No wonder some women are arrogant. I would be too if women just stopped me three times a day to tell me I'm hot and insinuate they want to hook up with me. :-) | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 07:37 PM |
| 20 | I think I realized why I'm so shit at this.You're being too hard on yourself. Let go, relax and smile. Let the pressure fall away. Life in general is very not-caring. Almost all of pressure you have to succeed is being put on you by yourself. Eliminate the feeling that you want something from the girl in question, and you will eliminate your fear. It sounds counter-intuitive, but sometimes doing the opposite of what you think you should gets you the results you want. Also if fear is your problem try reading about meditation. It's been ar… | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Why does every PUA Coach sound so OVERLY salesman?Which is funny because I find it hard to believe anyone who could sell would have a horrible time with women. I believe sales is the career of the charismatic, personally. | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 07:22 PM |
| 1 | So exactly, how willing are most women to having sex the same night?One night stands and hookups can happen either two ways. Really good-looking and rich guys can get girls like this, but those aren't the best way. The number one thing you'll find gets you ONS is not caring when women reject you. Those guys you find hooking up probably hit on 20 women that night, and then they found one that wanted it. This is how that "loser douchebag" got the girl, because he's not a loser douchebag, he's persistent and driven to get what he wants which is more important than … | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Why does every PUA Coach sound so OVERLY salesman?When money is involved, you are best served adopting some salesman strategies. They are used for a reason. | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Is being a 'nice guy' really a bad thing?There's nothing wrong, but niceness does not equal attraction. Your good deeds are not going to make her want to magically suck your dick. You can be nice or bad with good game. | /r/seduction | 23/06/12 06:03 PM |
| 20 | My take on what to do when she doesn't text back.Guys are in a catch 22, we have to care enough to actually want to approach a girl, yet not care enough to not be upset when they don't like us. Those who figure out how to balance that line are a lot more content with their dating life, IMO. | /r/seduction | 23/06/12 05:56 PM |
| 2 | I look too young. How can I work around this?That shirt is an XS at American Eagle, lol. | /r/seduction | 23/06/12 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Socially inexperienced dude giving people the wrong impression with eye contact. How do I fix this?You can be a nice alpha. Just very quickly tell him that you weren't trying to be a dick. Something like, "Hey, man, sorry if I was a dick to you the other day." This will probably create some awkwardness and he will reply with, "What are you talking about?" or, "Oh, it's nothing." Then from that point, STOP talking about it (don't go over it a bunch of times, that's the old, insecure you talking), and move to another conversation.. I think we might be along the same level here. I'm still trying… | /r/seduction | 22/06/12 05:45 PM |
| 8 | Let's talk escalation - tofutofu, and other mastersI'm at about a [5] right now, but this has to be the best thing I've heard on this forum. I think it is very important to remember we are not doing anything wrong by hooking up with women and having a good time. We aren't using them. You have to believe you aren't doing anything wrong before you'll get anywhere. The real naturals IMO are the ones who have convinced themselves not only that they aren't doing anything wrong, but actually that the woman is enjoying it more than he is. They offer th… | /r/seduction | 18/06/12 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Amazing opening tip I learned from an experienced PUA. If you tell a girl she's friendly, she will be.Me too. Something I've realized is people have no clue why they do what they do most of the time, and most people don't want to know either, which is what gets me. I can't tell if it is out of fear, finding it uninteresting, or something else. | /r/seduction | 18/06/12 09:45 PM |
| 1 | A call out to any Kansas City sedditors!I don't live in KC but I just wanted to say GOOO CHIEFS!!! | /r/seduction | 18/06/12 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Started breaking out of my shell slowly, kind of creeping people out. Not sure what to do in this situation. Any advice?To be honest I don't feel like you did anything wrong, really. Most guys would have probably looked a second time, some a third. Most girls wouldn't have looked back after a first time, because that's how girls are. :-) Saying hey towards the end may have been odd, but not weird or creepy I wouldn't think. I hope you listen to me when I tell you that you are probably not nearly as awkward as you think you are. Quit beating yourself up, man. Smile, take a deep breath, just accept whatever flows o… | /r/seduction | 07/06/12 06:24 AM |
| 26 | Looking for insight from females who don't care about abs..There aren't many girls here, bro. | /r/seduction | 02/06/12 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Went to a party today, felt left outNot funnier, just different. People have different favorite comedians, right? Well, they just had a sense of humor that was different than yours. If you go to a party with an agenda, trying to get people to react to your actions (laugh, be excited, etc.) you're gonna have a bad time [/ski instructor]. Focus on enjoying yourself, the moment, the people around you, the food and drinks, and the rest will fall into place. You don't have to try to do anything to have a good time, which is super count… | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Went to a party today, felt left outNot funnier, just different. People have different favorite comedians, right? Well, they just had a sense of humor that was different than yours. If you go to a party with an agenda, trying to get people to react to your actions (laugh, be excited, etc.) you're gonna have a bad time [/ski instructor]. Focus on enjoying yourself, the moment, the people around you, the food and drinks, and the rest will fall into place. You don't have to try to do anything to have a good time, which is super count… | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Went to a party today, felt left outIt happens, man. Just remember that you "felt" left out, and you don't know for sure the actual impression you left. The other people there probably didn't give it any thought. Especially if you all went to school together, they probably already feel like they know who you are. Also, I just want to remind you that you don't HAVE to tell jokes for people to think you're interesting or fun (or even funny). I used to always try and be funny, even to the point where I would do nothing but joke aroun… | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 06:52 PM |
| 4 | Man-ifesto: What this Woman Wants all Men To Know.Great article. Sometimes looking at things from a female perspective helps my analytical side calm down and remember what the purpose of all this is. By the way, DAE think the lady who wrote this seems like she'd be a total clinger if you tried to date her? :-) | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 06:40 PM |
| 14 | When a girl tells you she thinks you're hot/cute what's something you can say back to that?"Thank you." with some strong eye contact and a light smile. | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Is it good or bad to compliment girls?Think of compliments like gifts. If you give a girl a flower, that's nice. Get her the same type of one the next day and it won't be as nice as the one before. Give her one every day, and she'll get used to them and they will lose their meaning completely. But give her a flower one day, and then maybe a few weeks later a box of chocolates, etc., and that's awesome. Also make sure your compliments are always sincere. Otherwise that's just mean (how would you feel if a girl told you that you had g… | /r/seduction | 26/05/12 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Nice guys can finish first--a good read for fellow nice guys :-)I keep a low, calm voice. I look people in the eyes affectionately. I also touch girls, give hugs, give back rubs, etc. But I mean it. I want to make these girls happy. My sexual things are nice sexual. I usually give sincere compliments, very rarely about anything too outrageous. If I'm interested in a girl I let my voice inflection, body language, and eye contact let them know. It is more than enough to convey interest IMO. | /r/seduction | 25/05/12 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Nice guys can finish first--a good read for fellow nice guys :-)Inner game is almost impossible to describe. Our minds are so individualistic, so complex, that generic advice doesn't really work. If it did people would come on to Seddit, read for a day or two then leave a completely new person. My best suggestion is to honestly accept the person you are right now, flaws and all. I was afraid to accept myself as a broke, scrawny pale guy, fearing if I somehow accepted my flaws I'd be doomed to live with them forever. But when I did let go I found not only did… | /r/seduction | 25/05/12 07:10 PM |
| 4 | Nice guys can finish first--a good read for fellow nice guys :-)People who accept last place finish last. This. | /r/seduction | 25/05/12 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Nice guys can finish first--a good read for fellow nice guys :-)I found David DeAngelo to be very informative. Also on here TofuTofu always makes sense to me. But to be honest what really happened with my inner game was sincerely believing it was okay to be the exact person I am right now, flaws and all. I still am trying to become a better person (stopped drinking soda, actively getting a higher-paying job, etc.), but even if I don't I still am cool with who I am right now. THAT was the big piece. BTW The Stooges are great. :-) | /r/seduction | 25/05/12 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now?I don't understand why so many men look for problems in themselves. Insecure people wonder why a woman left them. | /r/seduction | 22/05/12 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now?Keep telling yourself that when it happens, LOL. I'm sincerely grateful you've never experienced it, but you'll see what I mean if you ever do. Sometimes in life you should have feelings. I also have no idea why you decided to tell me you lost respect for me, but since you did that it seems you're getting a bit too emotional so I'm stopping here. Although I don't care, talking to other people like that will get them to shut down to you completely. You lure more flies with honey than vinegar. | /r/seduction | 22/05/12 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now?I don't mean to be rude with this, but PLEASE listen to me. I can tell you right now with fair certainty if you keep this mentality and a girl cheats on you you will be DEVASTATED. 99% of the time there is no answer...nothing. And you find yourself going crazy trying to find something wrong with you to justify her actions, but they aren't there. And if you ever meet the other guy, you will want to compare yourself to him and everything about him you feel is "better" than you will become a giant … | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Pseudo FR: Had something kick-ass happen, but I'm not sure what it was? Can someone with better game than me help?The odd part was I didn't feel sexual until she reacted. I thought I was giving her the look of a cute animal, not my flirting eyes. I have had girls tell me before they like my eyes but I thought that was just some girls being friendly. I'm starting to think maybe I do. | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Pseudo FR: Had something kick-ass happen, but I'm not sure what it was? Can someone with better game than me help?She's got a boyfriend. I don't know if I could get what I want but it did kind of seemed like I had some sort of power over her. If she wants me she'll have to get rid of him (not that I would want her to dump her bf just to hook up with me, but that's how I roll). But other girls... | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 08:14 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now?I'm not trying to be rude, but have you ever been cheated on? The only reason I ask is because whenever I got cheated on, using her fucking someone else as constructive criticism really never crossed my mind. You don't ever really get a clear cut answer as to why ("I was drunk and we had been fighting.") I felt completely inadequate, and like everything that was different about me and the other guy was what was wrong with me as a person. It made me insanely insecure for a long time, even to this… | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 02:31 PM |
| 27 | Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now?Both these comments seem to state that it's the girl's fault, It is. Ultimately you are not responsible for the actions of other people. End of story. | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 01:10 PM |
| 16 | Is there a proper reaction for when an AFC loudly asks you how many women you have screwed? (in those exact words)Not counting my adult film days, 743. | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 08:43 PM |
| 1 | In your opinion, which city is the hardest to game in?I don't really think there is a magical city where people are hotter than others. Some dress more provocatively, some are more sexually active, but there are beautiful people everywhere. It really comes down to who you are. And I don't really see other guys as competition, even "hot" ones. There's nothing I can do about them being present, and there's nothing I can do about them trying to game the same girls as me. All I can do is stick to me and my game. | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 08:34 PM |
| 2 | In your opinion, which city is the hardest to game in?I don't know without being to every city, but I feel like everyone's personalities will make this different. I personally feel like I would have some issues with places where female sexuality is more on display. If I had to guess a city, I would assume Milan or Barcelona would be a tough arena. American I would assume Miami. But a country with a little more modesty about them, like a Scandinavian place, would be a lot easier for me since I'm more chill and subdued myself. Once again, I bet girls… | /r/seduction | 20/05/12 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Dear Seddit, I'm about to give up on the whole pickup gameI have some silly advice, but maybe quitting is best. I'm not saying to give up on yourself, though. But maybe the best thing for you is to stop feeling that pressure of, "what am I doing wrong?" and just enjoy yourself. Use Seddit as a once-in-a-while advice board maybe, but just enjoy yourself and do your thing first and foremost. And if you are still looking for advice on what you may be doing "wrong" the answer may be as obvious as making your intentions clear with body language. Are you tou… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Did I completely ruin this?I don't see that as so bad. Yeah, you got really serious which is usually a no-no, but stand by your ground. You meant what you said, you just didn't phrase it all that well. You told her indirectly that you feel cheap and fake, which is totally an acceptable thing to do. You showed integrity. Now, accept the consequences. She may not want to keep going now, and if she does, she is going to want more. You upped the stakes, so she will either call or fold. | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 04:55 PM |
| 8 | Libido has sharply decreased, how do I motivate myself?I've done this. I call it sexual stagnation. When you don't get any for a while (or in your case, never), you start to forget what you're missing out on. If I were you, I would force myself out of my comfort zone and start being aggressive. It works, seriously. Here's a relevant, embarassing story: When I first started doing this PUA stuff I was a little freaked. But I hesitantly decided to try for some kino with this one girl, not really believing it would work, by putting my hand on her leg. S… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 04:27 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Making Changes to SedditA seddit should have a theme color of darker red. It is the color of love, after all. Maybe go for a real classic vibe, like something with Aphrodite/Venus, Eros/Cupid, or something. Sorry, I don't know how web development works, I just know the art side. But I think it would be classy, beautiful, and fitting. Or as another move, have an image of two people in love with each other. Show people who come on here as lurkers we're not about getting laid but about establishing quality connections wit… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 03:54 PM |
| 1 | This is one of the best articles I've ever read. Women WANT YOU to approach them, even cold approaches.What I found is this: you have to read a girl a bit. If she wants you then she wants you to keep going. She only has to barely like you, honestly, but she has to like you. If she doesn't, then she, well, doesn't want you to hit on her. But that's really not helping anyone other than pointing out a large portion of the seduction game. I just liked this article because so many times I psych myself out. And I know the article is just another way of saying, "assume attraction," But doing so for me i… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Help...how about sweating?rimshot | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Jesus Christ, I am so nervous right now Reddit. Teach me how to make out.Oh wow. 1) First things first, start with REGULAR kisses. Start softer and gentler than you would think and get firmer and more assertive. 2) Then open your mouth SLIGHTLY, but don't use your tongue yet. Tongue is like the sex of kissing, you have to build up to it first. :-) 3) Then, when you do, just barely touch your tongue to the tip of hers. This is kind of like a gentle way of putting it in, lol. :-) 4) Usually from there you can get more into it, but remember to mix it up. Just because yo… | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 03:22 PM |
| 8 | Jesus Christ, I am so nervous right now Reddit. Teach me how to make out.Like a dog with a nearly empty jar of JIF... | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 03:11 PM |
| 5 | Girl is mentioning her physical insecurities, am I on the right track?It's no fun when you lead someone on, but I also didn't realize that until I did it myself to a girl once. Poor girl didn't deserve it; I learned right then and there I could become a PUA all I want, but I was never going to be a player who used others to get what I wanted. To the OP, please realize how much power you really have over these girls and use it wisely and to make others happy, not get your kicks. Otherwise you're just a really bad person, to be honest. | /r/seduction | 19/05/12 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Is it ok to text a girl after confirming a date "I can't wait to kiss you when I see you"?Make the something you can't wait for non-physical, and don't say you "can't wait." Say something more like, "Man, we are going to have so much fun on our next date." Throw in concrete examples like a new restaurant, and I think you'll be set. | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Are there still crazy parties after college?Don't worry about what women think. You're having fun, right? Besides, if you must validate, just let them know you do it because you two enjoy each other's company, not because it saves money. | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 05:34 PM |
| 29 | The best advice I've ever read on how to stay, "alpha."Excerpt (Chapter 20): Don't spend too much time thinking about stupid shit. Why should you care if people agree or disagree with you? Why should you care if others find you attractive or not? Why should you care about things that worry others? Call bullshit on all that. Let other people get worked up and try to enjoy themselves. I'm not going to give myself away. A baby doesn't know how to smile, but it's still happy. Let other people get excited about stuff. I'm not going to hang on to anything… | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 08:34 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with "Will you guys stop flirting with each other?"If someone came up to me and said, "Man, will you guys stop flirting?" My response would be, "Nope." | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 03:52 PM |
| 4 | Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly wellThis also shows it's not what you say but how you say it. | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 03:48 PM |
| 2 | I really hate having to ask this question, but I'd figure you guys would know better than me. Did he like me? (xpost/askmen)We guys appreciate directness. My advice is to confront your fear and go up to him and start giving him OBVIOUS signs you are interested. If that doesn't work then ask him out. Yeah, I know you're shy, and you probably feel awkward doing that. But that's the only way to get what you want in life. This will not happen for you, you'll have to make it happen. | /r/seduction | 12/05/12 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Female PlayerGirl players are (sometimes) well-disguised attention whores. When you give her attention she is being satisfied by you talking to her and stuff. There are two steps to these kind of girls: 1) Make her see something in you she wants/create initial attraction (I think you've done this) 2) Make her work to get that what she wants from you. Don't give it up too easily, lol (I think you kind of are by inviting too much). My suggestion is to bail, but still be friendly. Be flaky with her, don't alway… | /r/seduction | 12/05/12 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Has a good female friend ever cock-blocked you in this way?The female friends I have cockblock me too. They even admit it. Their intentions are usually good, or they are feeling insecure/jealous. But in your case, with her seeking the other girl out, everything seems a little sketchy. If you want to try and be as tactful as possible, don't mention any of it since you aren't supposed to know (you don't want to out the girl you like who gave you key info). Then, I would somewhat obviously keep reminding Mary that you don't like her like that. If she doesn… | /r/seduction | 12/05/12 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone else had this problem.I have a few books on it, but I can't focus on it 24/7. I've been practicing my mannerisms in the mirror and found that my serious face has a tendency to make me think I'm angry. So I've been looking and seeing what makes me think I'm feeling a certain way and trying to look like that when I feel that way (long story short, become more congruent.) | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Seddit Pocket Notes AppI agree with the second part but not necessarily the first. And without clearer knowledge to the terms of agreement by reddit a moderator has to sign up for I cannot say what it is or isn't their responsibility to protect their section of the website from. I'm sure they have to make judgement calls which is what happened. I don't understand what the problem here is. The moderators asked the developer/OP nicely to use the name Seddit unofficially and the developer complied. Obviously both parties… | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 08:47 PM |
| 0 | Seddit Pocket Notes AppI never said there was. I just said that is partially why people are in a mindset of protecting their brand. And legal issues are always a risk. They pop up out of nowhere, which is why corporations are always underwriting everything. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Seddit Pocket Notes AppIt's more an educated, rational paranoia based on our legal system's desire to find someone liable for anything and everything. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 07:24 PM |
| 1 | I'm interested in doing sets for the sake of getting rejected. Has anyone inadvertently had huge successes while trying to fail, simply due to the mindset involved?This is an ADVANCED concept. Be careful what you wish for. It takes a STRONG man to get beaten down repeatedly by women and still be left standing. You'll feel like a boss if you don't let them get to you, but if one of them says something a certain way and it gets in your head, then what have you accomplished (or better yet, what have you torn down)? I think putting your best foot forward is always the best advice, but I'm pretty simplistic about a lot of this game strategy on here. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Just saw the girl I liked on GW...how do I proceed?As a Redditor, I feel a need to post this: Pics or it didn't happen. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 07:12 PM |
| 0 | Why "Be Yourself" is the worst advice.It's not the fame, IMO. It's the fact he's so confident in himself he can take on the role of anyone wholeheartedly and yet come back to who he is on command. Actors are walking, talking fantasy-creators. They can take on any form and make it theirs. THIS, IMO is why women dream about Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 07:09 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Unlocked a huge piece to getting a lot more action.Nothing verbal. The conversation was completely irrelevant. He locked into her eyes, and just totally started invading her personal space. And she wanted more. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 07:02 PM |
| 0 | Why "Be Yourself" is the worst advice.That's not really a good example. Yes for him, but no for a model or another really attractive man. The problem is with him is he's an actor and has learned the verbal and non-verbal cues required to be irresistible. Most people need some level of congruence (to believe what you say) in order to get women, but he's an actor so I don't think that applies to him as much. Now if you're a good actor, then no, you don't need to be yourself to get women. But I don't personally enjoy acting like someon… | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 06:49 PM |
| 2 | I Feel Like Seddit Sometimes GIVE Me Social AnxietyThink of it like a golf swing. There are a million things you can try and focus on to get the "perfect shot", but if you try to focus on them all you will psych yourself out and suck. The whole thing is actually really easy. The first thing you have to do is try, second is to trust your instincts. That's ALL you have to do outside of reading on here. THAT'S IT. This is what alphas do, trust their intuition. You can be more alpha too if instead of worrying about doing the right or wrong thing you… | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 06:37 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on Porn / Masturbation?I see no harm with masturbation, but porn kind of sets you up to be disappointed with the real thing. Like sex can be that hot, but it can also not be that hot pretty easily too. I know for me whenever I watch a lot of porn I kind of become desensitized to how sexy the woman I'm with is, even during sex. Either go nofap, or try only fapping to your imagination which is what I try to do. It really does make a difference. | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 06:28 PM |
| 1 | My dad was beta and I am scared I will be just like him.Everyone is afraid at one point or another they will turn out like their father...EVERYONE. Part of your life, especially in the late teens early 20s is to establish your own identity. Part of that is a fear of turning into your parents and taking measures not to. My best advice is to learn how to be more optimistic. Optimism really is the secret. Be optimistic towards yourself, and you'll feel hopeful and confident. Seem optimistic to women, and you'll seem confident and sincere to them, which … | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 05:59 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Unlocked a huge piece to getting a lot more action.Right before "slapping their tongue with your dick," usually. Though in this cause I jumped about 10-20 rungs. The weird thing is this girl seemed to get off on the whole thing, though... | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 05:48 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Unlocked a huge piece to getting a lot more action.I wasn't saying you should take advantage of drunk girls. I was just pointing out how horrible of game you can have and still get away with getting some. Since a lot of the people who gravitate towards Seddit probably have the issue of (over?)thinking things a lot, it can be refreshing to see that it in some instances it literally takes almost no thinking to achieve results. As I said before and will say again, I advise against it. Getting in the habit of picking up drunk chicks on the weekends … | /r/seduction | 11/05/12 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Why "Be Yourself" is the worst advice.I thought this, but it actually is the best advice, because a lot of what a woman wants is a guy who is genuine. Being content with yourself IS what makes you sexy to most women. That's not to say you can't get in shape or learn to speak with a deeper voice or anything. It just means you are still yourself and you know people will like you whether you do that or not. | /r/seduction | 10/05/12 09:20 PM |
| 4 | Tyler explains how to solve the "Self Acceptance vs Self Improvement" paradox. Great video if you are advanced in Game and stumble upon this problem. 15:00The easiest solution to this problem is to truly begin to value the beauty/wonder that women bring to the world. If one of your values is cherishing beautiful women, then it's only natural that you will want to put your best self forward. I call this integrity vs. conformity. It is a compromise in life. Part of being a man is taking charge, making a decision on how important it is to have certain things your own way, and going with it. There is no right answer, just your own decision. BTW, I fin… | /r/seduction | 10/05/12 09:09 PM |
| 1 | How is "guess" the alpha answer for "how old are you"?The words don't matter nearly as much as how you say them. You can pretty much say anything and have it be alpha. "Guess," works. You'll learn that you can actually change the way people respond to you by telling them through your body movements and voice inflection. But before you get there you have to seriously stop caring what others think or otherwise you can develop a serious identity crisis (this is powerful stuff). | /r/seduction | 10/05/12 01:04 AM |
| 1 | I need help pulling the trigger.My best advice to you is to assume the girl likes you. Crazy, huh? Yeah, assume she likes you. Assume that when you look deeply into her eyes she's getting butterflies in her stomach. Assume when you touch her, it makes her forget what she was thinking about. It isn't far-fetched. Have these things ever happened to you? Girls aren't that different. Just assume she digs you. Your job is to see if she's right for you. And remember, it's okay to be you. Don't be afraid to be yourself, if you want t… | /r/seduction | 09/05/12 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Flaking after having an awesome timeIt could be anything. If a girl gives you her number while she's drinking, she may discredit you completely the next day simply because it happened while she was drunk. It's also not the best idea with many girls to make out with them until a second time out if you expect a callback. You will be classified as a one-time makeout fling with some girls. You can get farther if you take your time. | /r/seduction | 09/05/12 12:09 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Took girl to formal event, conversation was great, escalated kino well, danced, then she pulls away the rest of the night, first FR, tell me how I could have been done betterSounds like you nailed it. Some take longer to be DTF than others. Just keep escalating next time. | /r/seduction | 06/05/12 09:46 PM |
| 1 | I am so sick & tired of these women who don't know what the fuck they wantGirls like change. After multiple times they either want to escalate or retreat. They decided to retreat, probably because your broadcasting your signals of not trying to have a meaningful relationship and/or found a guy who they want to be their boyfriend more than you. You are coming across as arrogant, though. But this is good, cause not only does it mean that we may have found an issue you're having, but being arrogant itself means you feel you do have some self-worth. Just control your frus… | /r/seduction | 06/05/12 04:32 PM |
| 2 | People think I'm gay. I'm not.I get this too, I don't know why. But it is only a bad thing if you look at it that way. A surprising number of women like a softer-featured man. A majority wont care if you don't. And a cool side effect is it seems an abnormally large percentage of girls who find guys like us hot are bisexual. Seriously. It's awesome. | /r/seduction | 05/05/12 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Any tips for talking to a shy girl?Just talk. Do not mistake her nervousness for disinterest. She's probably ecstatic to talk to you, but it terrifies her (sound familiar)? | /r/seduction | 04/05/12 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Best response when a girl asks "You're really smart, aren't you?"I don't know if it "worked" or not, but I've said to a girl. "All you women are the same, always complimenting my intelligence. Did you ever stop to think that there may be more to me than my brain, like my body?" | /r/seduction | 04/05/12 06:02 PM |
| 0 | Understanding women...I agree with you, but my point was women are raised in our society to embrace how they feel a lot more than men, though my way of saying that was convoluted and mysoginistic sounding. I believe men and women are very similar. I seem to handle situations best when I take the time to put myself in the other person's shoes. Women are different, though. My point was really just that reading their moods will get you far. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 06:51 AM |
| 1 | Mini [FR]/Quick Tip. Maintaining Frame/State is CRITICAL.It sounds like you're thinking too much, and the negative event compounded into a psych out. Do you find yourself caring what others think of you to the point of you feeling lesser in value when others disapprove of you? These things, if they apply to you can be holding you back. The road to inner game is scary sometimes. Trust yourself. | /r/seduction | 30/04/12 04:42 AM |
| 5 | My take on eye contact with strangers-Eye contact conveys power and confidence. Use it accordingly | /r/seduction | 29/04/12 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Indecisiveness..extremely unsexy?My best advice is there is no wrong answer to what kind of pizza to get. Just say the name of a random restaurant next time you eat. They can turn it down, or they may love it. That's not the point. The point is you made a quick decision. With practice you'll feel comfortable with even more important decisions. | /r/seduction | 27/04/12 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Whats a good reply for "Do you have a gf?Say, "On occasion." Or, "Only when I want to." | /r/seduction | 27/04/12 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Hopefully losing my V-card tomorrow night. Any tips/tricks/things I should know or expect?Don't get your feelings hurt if you don't. I've thought I was getting laid a lot when I didn't. Just enjoy the night leading up to it and HAVE FUN. By just having fun, flirting and staying calm and relaxed you will be putting your best foot forward. And don't go in for the kill from the get go. Real men show self-discipline. Tease before you please. | /r/seduction | 27/04/12 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Strong Inner game normally-- chronic pain/ depression giving me a hard timeI don't know, but I'm Bipolar II. It's hard to keep emotional stasis, to be honest. I don't always come across as smooth, to put it nicely. I don't know what to tell you. We may have gotten a bad deal, but there's nothing we can do about it. I just let go and accept I am a Bipolar person and that's okay. I still feel depressed but I just keep moving even though I don't want to. | /r/seduction | 27/04/12 01:47 PM |
| 5 | Success has gone up but satisfaction gone downCongratulations. You just found out there is more to life than the acquisition of women. :-) I would suggest some inner game help, or maybe a book on improving self-esteem. I credit a lot of my evolution to a man with confidence from a book named, "10 Days to Self-esteem." It was like having a giant weight lifted off my chest when I finally started understanding what the author wrote. Best of luck bro. | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Deep Rapport.If they like you enough, they will want to hear you talk about something interesting. | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 03:47 PM |
| 0 | How do I ask out a girl while she's on the clock?I'm a server, and unless she does something special I'm not calling her back if I get her digits. I had one girl leave me a 10% tip and her number, lol. That's one way to be automatically DQ'd. | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 03:42 PM |
| 2 | If a girl is interested in you, why does she flake?If a girl flakes, it can be for a ton of reasons, but mostly because she just isn't interested enough...yet. Lay off and don't invite her to anything for a bit. Let her see more of how high-demand you are (you are acting high in demand, right?), then try again. And don't think she doesn't like you. She may just have been staying loyal to her best friend or something. You don't know, so don't assume the worst. | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 03:35 PM |
| 27 | Unexpected observations on the road to becoming alpha...I think of it as a one-word description of becoming the most you can. Alpha is different for everyone. That's not its intended meaning, but this community is full of Jargon. Getting caught up in semantics only creates more obstacles on the path to fulfillment. Been there, done that (unfortunately, lol) | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 07:21 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with "I would but I have other plans"?I wouldn't even tell her she's missing out. You were doing her a favor by asking her, if she says no it's her loss. But you don't need to tell her that, she knows. If she has other plans and they're boring, she'll regret her decision and wish she had gone with you. You are doing it right. Just say ok when she says no, offer one more time in a few days, and if she says no again accept it and move on. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 07:15 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First step in my PUA journey. No close but a small milestone.Even when you feel different, old habits die hard. But they do die. I'm happy for you. Remember you can't make a girl like you. You have to try and be the best you can be and that's it. And you did that, so it was a success. I would seriously try making your goals only things in your control. You can't guarantee a close, but you can guarantee yourself to try and close. If you set goals you have complete control over you guarantee you will never fail unless you give up. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 07:06 PM |
| 1 | If you could have a chance with any one celebrity, who would it be?Scarlett or Drew Barrymore. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 06:03 AM |
| 1 | The First of Our Weekly Topic Threads!As an engineering student, you are making a social sacrifice to further your career. You aren't going to get to party like an education major. The key is to make the most of Saturday nights since you're down to one day a week. Also from your screen name, I would suggest inviting a girl back to your place for a bowl. Just make sure she's not using you to get high (drunk girls do this a lot). | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 07:54 AM |
| 0 | My Life as a Pick Up Artist - Interesting ReadIf leading psychologists disagree on the nature vs. nurture argument, I think we can rightfully assume us Sedditors probably don't have a definite answer either. Everyone has their own reality, so even if it feels like to you the evidence supporting nurture is stronger it may not feel that way to someone else. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal for people to be flaky, or am I being taken for granted (and if so, how to get people to stop)?Thank you. You, as well as everyone else, really helped. I was having problems rationalizing this out, but you guys helped me think this through logically. Everyone thinks confidence is something you have or don't, but I'm finding despite feeling confident I still haven't found all the factors that contribute to my insecurities. No one said it was going to be easy. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 07:13 AM |
| 3 | Reminder: Eye Contact is so ImportantWhen a girl tells you you have nice eyes, she's complimenting how you use them, too. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 12:42 AM |
| 6 | My Life as a Pick Up Artist - Interesting ReadPowerful read but I agree. I came to the community to fix a problem, then I realized I had multiple problems. Then I realized these, "problems," were a part of me and unfixable, and I had no choice but to accept myself. Finally it occurred to me, after there was nothing left to lose and I quit trying, I was fine the way I was. And when I did that everything clicked. | /r/seduction | 24/04/12 12:37 AM |
| 47 | It's okay to look gayI'm starting to think men can say or do whatever the hell we want as long as we convey sincerity in our words and actions. | /r/seduction | 23/04/12 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Spent some time last week determining my personal weak points. It was great exercise. What are your sticking points?Overanalyzing myself and situations. | /r/seduction | 23/04/12 11:31 PM |
| 1 | I think I'm in love, not Oneitis. The fuck do I do?Experiencing love is to me the best feeling in the world. What should you do? Enjoy it. There's nothing wrong with giving a girl exclusivity if you want to, in fact if a girl genuinely qualifies herself enough and surpasses your standards then you should try and date her. But beware. Lets just say I thought I did as a teen-ager and realized it was emotional infatuation and intrigue. Just keep being who you are NO MATTER WHAT. Btw, when you sleep with her and you still want to hang out with her a… | /r/seduction | 22/04/12 04:01 PM |
| 4 | [FR] I know I'm doing it wrong, but I'm getting good resultsIf you are getting the desired result it isn't wrong, just different. Women love the unique, and that's what you are. In a Caucasian country, we lust after dark-skinned Brazilians and Asian girls because they are exotic. But that's you, now. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Hey you. Stop trying to cure your approach anxiety. Stop that shit.I have said this before, but it seems like people don't want to accept their problems come from a lack of self-discipline. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 07:32 PM |
| 1 | On 'being yourself'.It's like politics. Politicians need everyone to like them, so they end up not having a strong opinion on anything. And it makes them look spineless. I would add to be yourself even if you aren't comfortable doing so at first. It's normal to be afraid. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 08:16 PM |
| 1 | How to succeed with women without being confident.No I didn't. I described someone with willpower. Confidence is feeling like you are doing the right thing, and that's it. It can be used to your advantage, but it isn't a requirement. I feel like you are making the assumption if you have willpower and mastery of your fate, you will eventually be confident. But I personally can't assume that because my emotions are somewhat unpredictable. Ive gotten laid when I was downright suicidal. Confidence was nowhere around me, but it didn't matter because… | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, How do you deal with "playing" so many women ?Got into PUA wanting to get lots of pussy, but when I finally let go of trying to make others feel things (happy, horny, etc.) I stopped. Now I just do or say what I want and flirt and escalate cause it's fun, not because I'm horny. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 07:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm not sure what to do anymore :/You listen to country music, don't you? All I can say was the day it clicked for me is when I realized what was wrong with me is that I thought there was something wrong with me--a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are looking at yourself wondering why you feel that way then maybe you're in the same boat. Just because you feel like something is wrong or untrue doesn't mean it is. I think your opinion of yourself is biased. You are lying to yourself subconsciously, in essence. BTW Mizzou is going … | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Two dates on the same day. Inducing jealousy y/n?I think this sounds manipulative, which is fine by me if you are okay with being a manipulative person. I think if I went on a date and a girl told me I wasn't her only date of the day I'd feel cheap and unimportant. But all I know is how I feel. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 01:50 PM |
| 2 | am I just fooling myself?Let go. You still care what others think of you. It isn't your job to make sure others like you or not. To do so means you assume what others are thinking, which is unfair to you and her. You focus on whether or not she meets your standards, and having fun. Why do you not feel ready for a relationship? Is it because you feel like something is wrong with you? Do you feel inadequate? You can only answer it really. Just IMO you shouldn't deprive yourself from one of the most exciting things in life… | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 07:11 AM |
| 1 | Drugs and pickup.Listen, I don't know you, but recreational drugs are a powerful thing that when used for the wrong reasons become very dangerous. Most who take them get much different results than they anticipated when first start. Be careful. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 06:04 AM |
| 1 | How to succeed with women without being confident.It totally seems like it. I wouldn't blame anyone for thinking I'm crazy. All I know is this works for me. It may not work for you, but what if it does? | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:59 AM |
| 0 | How to succeed with women without being confident.You may feel confident after confronting any fear. Its a rush of endorphins to be put in any pressure situation. You're not going to be bored, lol. Sometimes after I talk to a girl and everything goes well, I still feel scared, and never feel a feeling of satisfaction. That's how I realized I didn't need confidence. It's a bummer, but I tell myself I'm not doing whatever I did for the emotional reward. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:24 AM |
| 0 | How to succeed with women without being confident.Confidence is the feeling you get when you feel correct. But that is still a moot point. My point was confidence is a result of a decision not the cause, and totally consequently unnecessary to doing anything. Confidence is a temporary, fleeting emotion, not some magical end to a quest. You can and will still feel afraid after you, "become confident." Without willpower, even a confident man will buckle when afraid, and nobody is never afraid. I personally think each person's mind is too unique f… | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:09 AM |
| 1 | I want to start fresh. Need all the advice you are willing to give a guy trying to make things happen.Accept yourself for who you are right now, not who you want to be. Unconditional confidence by definition means you accept that you are flawed and are okay with it. You are not supposed to be perfect, just you. You do not need other people to complete you, you are whole even if you don't think you are. You can't take that from yourself. | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 12:03 AM |
| 2 | For nerds only: steps to work on socializing with women.Because it was fun to make? It's not about being good, it's about enjoying the process of making it. If I were you I would try and have nothing but live jam sessions with no agenda to help you fall back in love with music. | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed: Escalating with a girl who is scared of guys.If she is afraid, you can't fix that. You can only control you. Right now you are trying to solve her problem for her. An animal that's been beaten will run away when you approach him/her. We are animals, too, and shes doing the same thing as the dog on an emotional level. I think persistence is the best tactic. Stand firm in your ground, no sudden emotional movements. Buy her something inexpensive but well-thought-out to lure her out of her emotional corner. This will distinguish you from those… | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 07:12 PM |
| 1 | If seduction is an artform, these are the rules.The funny thing is the more artistic you become, the more logic will seem too straightforward and no fun. And then you'll understand... | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 06:33 PM |
| 3 | David Wygant: Never ask a girl out via textInstead of asking what you should do, listen to yourself. If a hot girl asked for your number, would you care if she texted you or called? I wouldn't care either way. If the way she feels about you is mutual, she won't either. If she doesn't reply, it's because she's not that interested, not because you called a texter or texted a FBer. On a side note, don't fear the call. They're phone numbers, not texting numbers. | /r/seduction | 10/04/12 08:27 AM |
| 11 | For nerds only: steps to work on socializing with women.Music is never wrong if it is sincere, much like flirting. :-) | /r/seduction | 10/04/12 07:29 AM |
| 2 | For nerds only: steps to work on socializing with women.I agree and disagree. Develop better traits through trial and error: your own personal beta release. If you don't trust your instincts, even from the start, you will feel paralyzed. Feeling like you did the right thing is a subjective feeling. But IMO you can't wait for the feeling of being right to act. That is your logical side talking. Trust yourself and let go. The world may not even explode. :-) | /r/seduction | 10/04/12 07:09 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First solo daygame. First # Close. Is it really that easy?! An Interesting day in MiamiGood job! The funny thing is it's the hardest thing in the world and the easiest at the same time. That's where confidence plays such a critical role. Just remember, don't stop there! I would get numbers and not call a lot. | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 10:29 PM |
| 10 | Is it possible to be an introvert and an alpha male?Being introverted is cool, but remember: 1) The fewer people you talk to, the fewer chances you have to hit it off. 2) Don't be shy. Introverts prefer to be around other people, but can be super charismatic and attractive. Shy guys are introverts out of fear, and usually insecure and/or socially anxious. Be an introvert for the right reasons. 3) Some don't understand introversion. You will be misunderstood by some. Many girls won't like you for being introverted, and you might not get as many ch… | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 07:21 PM |
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