I look too young. How can I work around this?

educatedwithoutclass · 2012-06-22T17:43:26+00:00

facial hair... just some fuzz could seem mature... Hairstyle. I cut my hair and I look at least 5 years older.
The way you dress. Do you dress like you're 30 and not 20?

Marsupian · 2012-06-22T19:17:30+00:00

Posting a picture would help a lot. Changing your clothes or hairstyle can easily put on a couple of years. Something else that can help is working out. Growing some muscle can put on a year or two easily and reducing fat can make your face more defined which could also help.

I could give more direct advice if you posted a picture.

mechanicalsam · 2012-06-22T20:18:25+00:00

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm 20 now, and I'm told all the damn time how I look like I'm no older than 16. Especially at my age, 4 years is a whole world of difference in perceived maturity level. All the people commenting on this thread think it really doesn't matter and its in your head. No, its not. When I go about my day, I dont ever think about how young I look, and when meeting new people, that fact about my appearance never comes into mind, I act natural around anyone new. But I am reminded all the time in my life how young other people think I look. People have no problem telling me how young I look. So clearly its perceived whether I give out that vibe or not. I dress nice when I go out too, button up, nice khakis, some Sperrys or something nice on my feet, and I act my age. Sadly all of this doesn't help that some girls are just not attracted to a guy that looks like he just got his license. My advice? Be as interesting and nice as a person you can be, and be confident with girls that are attracted to you. you can't win em all

2012-06-22T21:35:27+00:00

Post a picture.

well_honestly · 2012-06-22T21:57:50+00:00

Get some young meat and stop complainin lol

jasonhchoi · 2012-06-22T19:35:57+00:00

This largely has to do with your perception of yourself, not your age, believe it or not. Something to consider:

What does it mean to you if women your age don't give you a chance because you're 'too young'? In other words, what do you FEEL? Is it frustration, a sense of helplessness? Unworthy? Not good enough? Be sure to identify this. Notice where you physically feel it as a tangible sensation (forget about trying to rationalize it). My guess is you probably feel it in your heart, or stomach or chest.

Once you've got it, go here and apply the technique to remove it:

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ulp08/use_this_technique_to_reduce_approach_anxiety/

I genuinely believe that if you let go of it, you will have a MUCH easier time meeting women your age. But as long as you hold onto those negative emotions, you won't be able to spot opportunities.

I won't go into why but the gist of it is basically: Women are perceptive and then can pick up on a man's energy or 'vibe'. Thus, your subconscious negative emotions are being projected onto women and all the while it seems like it is a matter of age, when in fact the issue with your age is largely some kind of insecurity.

If you gave off a strong positive masculine vibe, it really wouldn't matter what age you are, nor even what you look like. I hope this makes sense.

BurnerSkunk · 2012-06-22T20:13:06+00:00

Its your haircut/clothes that are making you look young.

Plenty of hot older guys with baby faces that would look like teenagers if they still had little boy haircut and clothes.

Kungwho · 2012-06-23T03:07:01+00:00

A lot of people judge your age by looking at your outfit.. especially your shoes... maybe you should check out /r/malefashionadvice

puaCurveBall · 2012-06-22T17:54:40+00:00

Sounds like frame control.... if this doesn't bother you, it isn't going to bother them.

If a girl has a guy confidently leading them through the stages of flirting, qualification, comfort, etc and kino escalating entire time, how he looks is going to be the last thing on their mind.(especially just looking younger).

The problem is that you are letting your perceived difficulties interrupt your flow and they can sense it.

BSchoolBro · 2012-06-22T18:18:13+00:00

Shit man, I'd kill to have your problem. I'm 20 and people think I'm at least 23.

Think about the long term; you see the looks of all the people around you fade, yet you will keep on looking better and better. Vain? Sure, but who cares!

blue_barracuda · 2012-06-23T00:46:22+00:00

Smoke.

caulking · 2012-06-22T18:51:47+00:00

So I'm going after women my own age, and I feel like they don't even give me a chance because I look so young and teenager-like.

I doubt that your looks are the reason that happens.

I can't do most younger girls. I find a lot of them honestly offer me nothing other than sex, which is fine but not really what I'm looking for totally.

I doubt their age is the reason that happens.

jeff_b_whistler · 2012-06-22T21:21:50+00:00

grow a beard

YumYumKittyloaf · 2012-06-23T15:47:36+00:00

That shirt looks kind of baggy. Could just be me. Don't wear baggy stuff as it will make you look smaller and younger.

spiderobert · 2012-06-23T16:22:38+00:00

I'm only 21, but before I started growing out my facial hair people would have sworn up and down that I couldn't be any other than 17; however once I grew my facial hair out people started assuming I was closer to my actual age (some even think I'm closer to 23)

Bunabayashi · 2012-06-22T18:14:14+00:00

Use it as an opener. "Hey guys, I just have a sec, my buddies and I were having this discussion & I need a quick opinion on something. Do I look too young to be here?"

Title	I look too young. How can I work around this?
Author	baaaark
Upvotes	13
Comments	38
Date	June 22, 2012 5:35 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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