Hello,

I am a very friendly and outgoing guy. One of my favorite games is smiling at strangers with such genuine happiness that they can't help but smile as well. If I go in an elevator I come out with friends. It's just the type of person I am. It has worked well for my position in sales and all through out my life.

But the problem I have with women is that being really great friends is the only "mode" that I know. I don't overly invest, I dress well, I get interested in them. And because of that I have so many female friends who tell me they are most comfortable with me.

Yet not a single one is sexually attracted to me. They want to share every bit of their lives with me, and reciprocate as good friends should(so its not 1 way like friend zone). But my ability to build "General attraction" is getting in the way of my ability to build "sexual attraction"

This late in the game (I'm 20). I don't really know how to escalate sexually without seeming like I'm just a funny guy who will joke about anything.

So for all of us extroverted social guys how do we make sure that we are building sexual attraction and not just building another friendship?