It's that time again guys, just got back from the bars so I am going to be short with this since I am tired, so I won't go over every approach just the outliers. However I approached a lot of girls tonight! I lost count, it wasn't much but final count was 8 or 10.
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Decided to head to fells point tonight, since it was Saturday night. I have always been going out alone since I am sick of trying to round up my friends, most of which are married now, to come out with me.
This time I decided to take the motorcycle partly because I wanted to look cool riding in and partly because I really wanted to ride tonight. Riding into Fells Point it was super and I mean super crowded. After doing a couple of circles and checking the bars as I rode around I found a place to park next to some other motorcycles. After getting my helmet and stuff off I took a few steps away from my bike when I ran into a fellow riding buddy that I haven't seen in years, so that was nice to run into him he is cool. Talking to him also helped me get in a better mindset to approach.
After leaving him and his crew I went alone to a bar on the far end of fells point and thought to make a couple of laps of the bars before I went home. The first bar I used as a warm up and didn't really talk to anyone for a couple of reasons. I wasn't into it at all in there and didn't want to force it, and there were other guys already in sets I hate jumping in on other dudes in the middle of their set it's fucked up in my eyes lol. I left this bar after a beer and walked to another one that was totally a shitshow in terms of people, just empty and lame so I left that one. I then thought it would be a good idea to switch things up a bit and I walked to the opposite side of Fells Point scouting out the bars and girls as I made my way.
At the next bar which was a bit of a "dancey" one since it had a large dance floor had a lot more people and a ton of more attractive women. Most of which were dancing, I don't dance too much and as I said I hate forcing things so I hung out at the bar area. I found a cute girl and started to chat her up a bit, didn't last long as this ended in a rejection. I got another beer and saw another cute Asian girl with her friend heading to the bar. I talked to her too for a quick second but she rejected me after we traded a few words. She simply said "Thank you, but i'm not interested" I shook her hand and left. On the way out the door I saw a couple more cute girls but they were in groupings of like 8 other girls and I would've got blown out pretty fast I think so I didn't bother.
I talked to a couple more girls on the street which turned into more rejections, I was trying to not invest so much and not get in my head as well so after the rejections I just gave a simple "OK" kept it moving lol. Went to another bar which is relatively new to Fells Point and talked to a couple of girls that were at a bar, honestly they were boring as shit. One of them was a petite indian girl and the other was a taller older white girl. They were Doctors or something but the conversation really didn't go anywhere. And the Indian chick was very aggressive in shutting me down and purposefully making things very awkward. After 15 minutes of talking to them I ejected from this set and walked to the back of the bar where I saw a much cuter white girl with her friends talking.
I interrupted them and just sort of glided into the conversation. I am really good with speaking and improvising speech on the spot so I am now using this to my advantage while approaching. We talked for a good 20 or 30 minutes and she seemed very neutral to me the whole time but it seemed like she started to warm up a bit. I tried to Kino her some but she kept pulling away and wasn't all that into it. Time was flying by with all this walking and talking so instead of getting oneitis I thought it would be best to head to another bar. I asked for her snapchat first and then her number, both of which she wasn't interested in giving me, I left by telling them it was nice meeting them then I ejected.
At this point I was feeling a bit like shit but doing a great job of staying out of my head so this feeling didn't get any worse than what it was and it started to fade after a few minutes which is odd! I've never experienced that before, just completely letting go of it and moving on. Feels great! Usually at this point I would give up and go home in a huff saying something along the lines of "Fuck Baltimore" or something similar. Instead of doing that I decided to do some street approaches since there were so many people out. I quickly approached this one girl that just stepped out of the bars and was playing on her cell phone, her name was Amanda and she was brand new to the city. I talked to her and we instantly vibed! Things were going well and I Kino'd her a bit and she was into it! We had great eye contact and she was leaning in quite a bit, it was nice. After a few minutes her friends came out and started to talk to me a bit as well, however one of her friends was obviously drinking and she was loud but leading the group. She dragged her friends away and I followed instead of ejecting. Unfortunately for me she was an extremely good persuader, I learned this when we got to the next bar. It had a super long line and it wasn't really moving. Now check this shit out, this girl waltzes ahead of the whole line. Talks to the bouncer for like 5 minutes and then the bouncer lets her and her friends, Amanda included, into the fucking bar! Leaving my ass out in the cold. I quickly attempted to fix the situation by saying "What the hell man?! I'm with them too why did you not check my ID too?" I was trying to make the bouncer feel dumb and make a mistake in the process. However it didn't work, he aggressively turned me down and then we got into a staring match for like a minute. I was a bit pissed off but I calmed myself. Obviously I wasn't going to win against a bouncer and it wasn't worth getting beat up and potentially arrested in order to talk to one girl. So I just turned away from the staring match and walked away.
I was really pissed off at what that bouncer did, straight up cock blocked me without a care in the world. It's fucked up, but that's what happened. After a minute or two I accepted this and decided to keep the street approaches up. I felt like i needed a break after that incident and I went back to my friend and his group who were standing around our bikes. We chatted for a bit then I did another lap of street approaches. I talked to a couple of girls, one rejected me and the other which was further down the street had a boyfriend who was right there with her. She immediately pointed him out, but I called her out on her bullshit since this is a standard shit test. But it was genuine, and he was cool about it too. So I talked to them for a bit, to make matters worse I really got along with his girlfriend and it felt like she was into me, oh well. After these approaches I went back to my bike group and just hung out with them for a bit.
Randomly a girl, who was cute but not my type at all, walked up to our bikes and looked me dead in the eyes. She said "which one is yours?" I pointed to my bike, she then says. "You're cute, take my number" I'm standing there in SHOCK and I take her number knowing full well I'm not going to message her but really hype that I was approached like that! Feels good! Revitalized I walked around a bit more and did some more approaches all of which ended in rejection. That's ok though because I learned something tonight. Sometimes you need to just keep plowing, and stay out of your own head it makes things much easier. All in all, a good night I learned some more things. In hindsight I should have grabbed Amanda's hand and told her I wanted to talk more before she left me for her friends. Ah well you live, you learn.
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