For five months, I can't drive, socialize much, and will stay at home alone the majority of the time. My self-esteem at an all time low, how can I take advantage of this time to improve myself?

YukariTakeba · 2016-01-08T20:45:01+00:00

I fell in love with her, despite the fact that it is almost entirely unrequited and unreturned.

Well lose this love, it is just a feeling.

When I decide I like someone, I go all in. I love talking to them everyday. I love texting despite that everyone on this subreddit seems to only use texting to plan dates instead of conversing. I plan our dates down to the smallest detail. I give so much more than I take. Despite the dozens of dates I've been on this year and seemingly making the same mistake every time, I feel like I have learned nothing. My approach hasn't changed at all with all this experience. I am extremely romantic and loyal to a fault; however, somewhat because of this, I am extremely insecure, overthink constantly, and needy. Because of my baby-face, short and skinny stature, I have internalized the roles and expectations of the 'cute, sensitive nice guy who is great at being a caretaker but doesn't qualify as a man with sexual tension."

You analyzed the problem perfectly now you have to act. What can you do ? You have to become the opposite of what you describe.

Don't be skinny Join a gym or start calisthenics. You will be more muscular and confident in your capabilities. People will respect you more but you have to put in the work or else nothing happens.

The bodyweightfitness sub, they have a routine you just have to follow it https://www.reddit.com/r/bodyweightfitness/ Or you can look for a gym program on the internet.

Seek perfect form in your movements to maximize gains and minimize injuries

Stop investing yourself so much You see yourself as romantic and loyal but they see you as a useful idiot which can be used for attention, free meals and stuff. They don't see you as someone they would fuck (am I wrong ? You dont mention it in your post.)

The only person you must please and satisfy is yourself. Basically you are trying to make the girl love you with great offerings but that is not possible. "It just happens" as girls say.

You have to get an abundance mentality which is a visceral knowledge that there are always more opportunities. If something fail with a girl you can still find another at the snap of a finger. When you get there you don't care much about the girls but they strangely are all over you. It's a long way to get that mentality, you need some experience first so just try until it comes.

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Umbrifer · 2016-01-08T21:34:25+00:00

1st: Cardio

2nd:Lift

3rd: Get a healthy diet and regular sleep schedule planned for yourself

4th: Think about who you are. If you ever watched Avatar (The Cartoon) then think about Uncle Iroh's advice

"Now is the time, to start asking yourself the hard questions. Who are YOU. And what do YOU want?"...When you take away everything. The girl, the car, the money, even your friends. What are you left with?What are you without these trappings? What within yourself do you possess that you can draw upon as a source of energy, pride, and power? What feelings are you left with? Rage?, Anger? Bitterness? Self - Pity? Or Determination, Grit and Raw Hunger for more out of life...and out of yourself. Don't make the mistake of trying to answer that question with evidence or memories or by polling other people's opinions. DECIDE who and what you are when you have nothing left but your brain, your balls, and your spirit.

5th: Wake yourself up every morning with a reminder to yourself of how much you want to be better. How much you hunger for improvement...Make it a mantra, hell call it morning prayers but make sure you remind yourself of the Wolf that lives within your skin who either hunts alone, Or leads the Pack

6th: Meditate, preferably in Nature

7th(and most important): Love YOURSELF first, and always before you love any Woman

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-01-09T03:14:57+00:00

Uber

newatthis1599 · 2016-01-10T15:46:53+00:00

1- Run a few miles(set an aim for June) 2- Lift 3- Inner game(The two above will already give you a boost, roll with it and do more) 4- Read(The classics, or anything else) in your down time. 5- Read the news from 3-4 different countries(the more informed you are the better) 6- Listen to great music, make your playlist.

At the end of the day, the more goals(small ones to start and a large one to reach at the start of june) you reach, the better you will feel about yourself and that is all there is to game. If you feel good about yourself, have hobbies, are informed you add value to everything and everyone around you.

AttractandSeduce · 2016-01-08T20:39:20+00:00

Hey man, thanks for sharing

Start out with your inner game. Inner game is the foundation of having a fulfilling life.

Just as a refresher, your inner game is about how you view yourself and everything around you.

You want to have strong, positive believes about who you are as a person and not overly judge the people around you if you don't know them well. (Not saying that you are doing this)

I would recommend setting down goals for the next six months. Type it on a word document. Create a goal and a plan for achieving each major goal and type your WHY.

Your WHY is what is going to fuel you to keep going.

Create a vision board for yourself. On a word document look for pictures that represent your big goals in life. Fill up the word document and print a few of them out and put them where you will see them at least twice a day.

This is a great opportunity to get into personal development. Personal development can help you master yourself as well as master your life. This is how you will learn to be happy whether you are single or not.

This stuff works, but just knowing about them can only do so much. It's the APPLICATON part that matters most.

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