Congratulations you are what I would call an "untapped natural". When your comfortable and being yourself woman are already attracted, you don't need to change your entire lifestyle, just the mindset and manner when your presenting yourself to women you deem "worthy".

When you are with these women you aren't attracted to, you are acting upon your own standards of fun and expectations, saying and doing what you feel is right.

With women your attracted to, your choose a panicky path to look to their standards and seek their approval. From my experience because you don't feel entitled to "stunners". When you look to the girls who are attracted to you, its for a reason. Firstly as I said before, your a naturally fun person already It's because your leading the relationship with your standards and expectations, and women feel more comfortable when they have a rock emotionally, the same way you felt in new situations.

This is rushed but I can add later. Hope this helps some untapped naturals out there.