Question for those of you a bit older and/or interested in settling down eventually

NoloRadio · 2018-01-18T02:54:30+00:00

Option 5: Have faith in yourself to forge a strong enough connection with someone that you're actually the love of their life.

throwaway1f · 2018-01-18T02:46:58+00:00

Who hurt you, friend?

SaintMichael415 · 2018-01-18T05:37:45+00:00

What seems boring in your 20s is refreshing in your 40s. Eventually you will get tired of slaying. At least I have.

mikebetrippy · 2018-01-18T11:16:25+00:00

So I dated a girl who I didn't think met my attraction wants. She was sweet, honest, and I wasn't scared to tell her a thing of my past or life and didn't worry about her cheating once. I broke up with her because I didn't feel like she was the one. A year and a half went by and after having 3 failed relationships with beautiful girls it hit me that I could see myself settling down with the girl I dumped. So I asked for her back and she started coming over often and when I asked for us to go official again I found out she had a boyfriend and had been cheating... well 2 months later she left him for me and then I discovered on new years she was still sleeping with her ex and left me on new years day. My point is people can change dramatically in a year, good or bad and the idea that you settle for someone under your expectations because you're scared of being hurt will result in that fear it's self. So from experience I would say that I will never judge a girl on her looks and social status to be a cheater or monogamous. Everybody changes and you just have to find someone that's on the same timeline with your wants and morals.

sorry_mommy · 2018-01-18T17:00:24+00:00

I'd say never get married until you feel like giving up on life/game. You know, when you get really old you get tired... at some point you may think "alright this is gonna be the last relationship for the foreseeable future" and try to lock her down, but know full well that game still applies to her from other men.

Chichachachi · 2018-01-18T04:27:22+00:00

Option 6. Go poly. Have a whole harem house of partners with kids and lots of fun, love, and support.

Ragondux · 2018-01-18T09:06:34+00:00

Marry the outgoing/fun (perfect) one, consider it monogamous, then just never worry/think about if she's cheating. Assume that she probably will eventually

How is that better than an open marriage? If can handle assuming that she may be cheating, why can't you handle knowing?

I know open relationships are not for everyone but I really don't get the "don't ask" relationships. Jealousy would kill me.

Title	Question for those of you a bit older and/or interested in settling down eventually
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Comments	9
Date	January 18, 2018 2:07 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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