I am pussying out guys.

nitro41992 · 2016-05-22T09:39:34+00:00

Give your wing $100, tell him to start a timer. I usually do 30 seconds. If you dont approach in that time, your wing gets to keep $10. Rinse, repeat. Good Luck

Chesza · 2016-05-22T09:53:40+00:00

I'm in the same boat dude, went out out last night alone and sober to test myself, there were opportunities but I never actually went through with starting any conversations... just sat in one spot for a while and then moved to another spot, pretending to be watching the DJ. Pathetic effort. That $100 timer is a good idea haha, might try that next time if im with a mate

hansulu1 · 2016-05-22T10:20:19+00:00

I have this book that I got from a Taco Bell kids meal from a little while ago called Todd and the Talking Piñata. I'll explain it because I don't think you will find it.

The book is about Todd and his Talking Piñata going to the public pool and going on the diving boards. Todd is afraid of heights and sticks to the smaller of the two diving board while the Talking Piñata goes on the taller one. The Talking Piñata soon gets Todd on the high board but Todd freezes up and gets scared. The Talking Piñata thenpersuades Todd to try by explaining that Todd is pretty brave and that doing this is a brave act. So Todd jumps in and realizes that it's actually a lot of fun! He then decides to continue doing so and overcame his fear of the taller diving board.

Why do I bring this book up? Because I use this 12 paged (I think) book to overcome a lot of my issues with fear because I've working on seeing the possibility that I could have fun or stay scared and never know just how fun that "diving board" really is. My advice is that we create our own fears and that it is only one jump away from having a really fun time.

opelmanz · 2016-05-22T13:48:47+00:00

I find that the end goal drives the interaction. If you feel internal pressure to "make something happen" you might make yourself more nervous. Always try to go out with the intention of "having fun and meeting new people", not "closing the deal", per se. You should be able to start a new conversation with people, men and women perfectly casually when you come from the frame that meeting new people will enrich your life. Once you feel some attraction, you can shift gears and start getting nervous ;)

Xbitsweden · 2016-05-22T10:36:49+00:00

This is what I also did trying to quit smoking. I procastinated a lot. But after like 4 months of doing it I told myself "fuck this shit, I want to quit now". Bam, I have been free from nicotine since like new year.

Dude, listen alright. You and your friend is not on the same level, it does not matter. It does not even matter if you started at the same time. I will tell you why soon. However, the fact that your friend is above your level, or was that night is a true fact. This is cool, you are also aiming for the same results. Cool, you have a goal but you are far from reaching it since you feel afraid. So why does it not matter that your friend was clearly above you that night? Well, because that is the goal, you have just not reached it yet. What do you have to do, keep going at your fears, keep trying. Just like I did with my smoking habit, look where I was and where I am now. A nicotine free person.

You know what you can do? Instead of doing the easy stuff (= approaching 100 girls in one night), you do the really scary stuff. Approach 10 girls and stay for as long as possible. Then when the possible runs out (this is when you feel really uncomfortable) you stay some more. Embrace your fears, maybe you feel that you have nothing to talk about. It's ok, just tell them whatever is in your head: which probably will be something to do with the awkward situation and how afraid you feel. Tell them how you, by being around them, is challenging your biggest fear in life. Wow! They actually meet someone who is going against their biggest fear, what an interesting guy! Well, back to topic. When you talk about whatever comes to your mind yiu will actually be very present, by doing this you shift focus. Of fucking course this is a very unpleasant thing to do. Especially if you are sober. But you know what, they are probably more afraid of you. You are the one who are a guy. Guys are over represented in rape-crimes, violence and other aggressive behavior. They are more afraid than you! You are however very bold, in your own personal way, because you are challenging your fears by doing approaches while being sober.

LiberalPenguin · 2016-05-22T11:52:45+00:00

Approach women you don't find very attractive. It will make you not care of the outcome, which is what you need to get rid of the anxiety.

After you have laid a few women on the low end of the scale, you can being moving upward. In the end you don't care if you sleep with "Megan Fox" or not, because you have a pool of "Jennifer Anistons" waiting for you if you fuck up.

katalis · 2016-05-22T14:20:11+00:00

For me, it was not stop giving a fuck about what girls think, but anyone. I sing when I want, I dance, I talk to whoever I want, etc. I pushed myself to do excentric things (like breaking the comfort zone challenges) to an extreme level so now It's not about pushing, It's about reducing the level.

Title	I am pussying out guys.
Author	rockmechanic
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Date	May 22, 2016 9:29 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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