[TR] texting report this is a sticking point

AsItIs · 2011-03-31T02:58:02+00:00

First thing that stands out is all the exclamation points and smileys. Sometimes it's better to be harder to read and possess a tone that has them wondering instead of just laying it out like an overly-nice guy. Just my opinion.

With a girl I'm talking to now I will abbreviate easy things (ex. ab for about) and not use question marks with questions etc. This gives a sense that I'm sort of busy/texting others and not overthinking/drooling over her. Works well

churchfart · 2011-03-31T15:41:53+00:00

It's been 7 months? Girls will find a way to see you and find time if they're interested. They'll just drop shit to see you or they'll suggest a different time versus a generic response. She's a flake; it's lost for now. Drop it, work on being awesome, and maybe you'll run into her again and she'll see how great you are.

PHONE GAME is just a logistics tool. It only works if you already have attraction / comfort.

solocup · 2011-03-31T17:32:12+00:00

Kill the lead-in text. Why do you need it? Start off with the invite.

Kill anything you ever say that sounds like "I'd like you to be my". You're not a gentile knight courting milady. "Friday, 8pm, beach. Need a wing."

That is unless your nights are already so much fun

Don't see the point of this... why even go in this direction. You assert yourself with the Saturday statement, then immediately go flaccid with that sentence. It's like admitting that chilling with you won't be as fun as her usual nights, but if she has time she should try an "adventure" with you. Fuck that noise.

And you're, not your. Improper grammar grates my nerves and that could just be one more little reason she's not receptive.

Overall, you can tell her tone is much different from yours. She's terse, polite, slightly dismissive, and not inviting a response. You're coming back too strong (!! and ":)"s) with contrived jokes that beg her to reply. Where did the donkey thing come from?

I think your sticking point is purposely trying to game her. Chill out, say statements. Be assertive. If she's not down and doesn't give any indication she wants to go another day, don't come back nipping at her heels to get her to go anyway. Say "OK" and move on.

07SS · 2011-04-01T00:49:22+00:00

I'm also trying to perfect (if that's even possible) my text game. I'll stick with improve.

Anyways, what I've found that my problem most of the time, even when I'm making sure to do pretty much everything right is sounding try-hard. It's hard NOT to sound try-hard through texting sometimes. You have to sound as indifferent to her response as possible, and I know that it's hard/awkward sounding sometimes.

Title	[TR] texting report this is a sticking point
Author	topdev
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	March 31, 2011 2:41 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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