Hey seddit.

I used to be an AFC or 'nice guy' and was getting really sick of not getting anywhere with women. I used to suffer from 'one-i-tis' as well, where even if I had opportunities, I would turn them down because "I had feelings for this other girl".

I recently turned 21 and after reading a ton of posts on seddit and askseddit I just thought to myself "man, why bother getting hung up over 1 girl, just get out there and have some fun".

I went out to a nice quiet bar last night with 3 friends (A, B, C) and after a few drinks we decided to hit up the clubs.

As I was walking to the bar to grab a drink in the club I notice a nice HB8 looking at me so I made some eye contact, smiled. After I finish my drink I went to the dancefloor and see her just standing on the edge with her friend. I walked up to her and asked her how she's doing and why she isn't dancing, etc. She tells me that she is on holiday from Mexico and wasn't very good with english. I was making some light kino, (hand on the back, leaning across her body to talk to her, etc). I put my hand out to initiate a dance, but she spoke some Spanish to her friend and they both just walked off. Aw well, Strike 1.

Next I notice a few girls dancing so I danced up to them and tried the same 'hand-out' move after brief eye contact. But her friends came in soon after and blocked me out of their circle and said they were out on a 'girls night'. Strike 2.

One of my friends 'A' tells me that 3rd times the charm but I was already feeling like shit from 2 rejections. I was with B and C on the dance floor. They were just enjoying themselves the whole night and weren't out to pick up.

I go to the bar to grab another drink and when I come back I notice A is hooking up with a girl and B was chatting up another. Withing 10 minutes of talking, B was hooking up with his girl. C just got out of a 9 month relationship and has Approach Anxiety so he was just by himself.

After this I just thought 'fuck it' and went up to a girl who was sitting by herself at a table. I walked up to her and said "hey, hows it going? Why are you sitting here all by yourself? Come dance".

Her response was "My friends coming back in 2 mins and he's going to punch you in the face when he sees you talking to me". I just didn't say a word and walked off. It felt like my heart got kicked in the balls.

Shortly after that C and I went home.

I've been working on my inner game and thought that I could handle some rejection but this really hit me hard. I'm feeling a bit down at the moment. I was wondering how you guys get over stuff like this.

Sorry for the massive post.